Five Beloved Yet Deeply Disturbing Coming-of-Age Films
Stand By Me's twenty-fifth anniversary has us reminiscing about some unsettling classics.
By EJ Dickson
1. Stand By Me
Rob Reiner's coming-of-age classic Stand By Me celebrates its twenty-fifth anniversary next Monday. It's much loved for its depiction of the innocence of childhood, the bittersweet pangs of adolescence, and the enduring bonds of friendship. But it's undeniably much darker than your average coming-of-age movie: as the four go their separate ways, torn apart by the divisive forces of the middle-school caste system, Richard Dreyfuss's narration reveals their tragic fates, leaving the cockles of your heart feeling less warmed than ripped out, torn up, and shit upon. As in many other similarly themed films, the message of Stand By Me seems to be that growing up sucks, but what happens afterwards sucks even harder, which is kind of a grim message for a childhood classic. Here are four other coming-of-age films with remarkably bleak subtexts.
2. Sixteen Candles
IMDB synopsis: A young girl's (Molly Ringwald) "sweet sixteen" becomes anything but sweet as she suffers from every embarrassment possible.
What it should say: A young girl's (Molly Ringwald) "sweet sixteen" becomes anything but sweet as she falls prey to a kindly date rapist.
Why it's disturbing: Although the lasting popularity of John Hughes' breakthrough film owes a lot to its adorable leading lady, part of its reputation can be attributed to the eternal nice-guy appeal of love interest Jake Ryan (Michael Schoeffling). With his '80s gay-porn-star physique and innocuous, golden-retriever grin, Ryan exemplifies Reagan-era masculinity, to the point that the Washington Post ran an editorial on the twentieth anniversary of the film entitled "Real Men Can't Hold a Candle to Jake Ryan." With all due respect to the Post, that's probably for the best, because by the end of the movie, Jake Ryan turns out to be an unbelievable asshole. After confiding in a geeky underclassman (Anthony Michael Hall) that he's attracted to Sam (Ringwald), Jake allows the freshman to drive his inebriated, barely conscious girlfriend home and have his way with her. Jake then uses his girlfriend's "infidelity," for which she was unable to supply consent, as an excuse to break up with her and hook up with Sam..
Ostensible message: Growing up is tough, but you'll always remember your first love.
Actual message: Growing up is tough, but if you're lucky, you might end up being deflowered by a panty-sniffing rape conspirator with perfect bone structure.
3. Big
IMDB synopsis: When Josh Baskin (Tom Hanks) wishes to be big at a magic wish machine, he wakes up the next morning and finds himself in an adult body.
What it should say: When Josh Baskin (Tom Hanks) wishes to be big at a magic wish machine, he wakes up the next morning and finds himself in an adult body, resulting in his statutory rape by a much older woman.
Why it's disturbing: While the presumed psychological duress of aging twenty years overnight might qualify the film as fucked-up, the narrative gets even stranger when Josh has sex with Susan (Elizabeth Perkins), a woman more than twice his age. If this scenario doesn't strike you as perverse, imagine an alternate universe in which Big had been made with a twelve-year-old girl instead of a twelve-year-old boy. (Okay, imagine 13 Going On 30 doesn't exist. That shouldn't be too hard.) To make matters worse, Josh ends up brusquely informing Susan that she's just violated an adolescent boy. Following this revelation, he abandons her without so much as offering to pay for her therapy.
Ostensible Message: Growing up is tough — enjoy youth while it lasts.
Actual Message: Growing up is tough, and sex is terrifying and predatory.
Commentarium (41 Comments)
The song "My Girl" by the Temptations will always haunt me because of the movie My Girl, but really, it is a great movie.
This reminds me, I saw An Education recently, a coming of age film that was a bit unsettling at times, but it was also very good.
This list is kinda retarded. Other than Stand By Me and My Girl, I wouldn't say any of those movies are disturbing. And of all the John Hughes movies to pick from, the author chooses Sixteen Candles and Ferris Bueller's Day Off as his most disturbing? Of J.H.'s high school films, those two are chosen over The Breakfast Club, where everything from attempted suicide with a flare gun and child abuse are covered? And I suppose there's nothing disturbing about Home Alone, a little kid who has to defend his parent's house against robbers who want to kill him?
"My Girl" disturbing? Absolutely. 20 years on and I am still traumatised by it. "Home Alone" disturbing? "defend his parent's house against robbers who want to kill him"? Oh, come on!
My Girl is just so sad. My Girl 2...not so good.
the hell? there's a second one?
I kept looking for the tongue in the cheek of this author, but all I found were issues.
I agree.
Way to horribly misuse the word "denoument". The word you were looking for is "climax".
Way to misspell "denouement" in your comment about it. Just because you see a misused word doesn't mean you have to be a condescending jerk about it.
you know, it could not really be that wrong at all
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/denouement
Mmm, it is wrong. The denouement of "My Girl" comes after his funeral when Harry and Vada finally overcome their 'ish — that's the final resolution.
oh. nvm!
Sociopathy? Is that what we call self assured, confident, anti-establishmentarianism (sorry, no isms), these days. While Principle Rooney and sister Jennie *aren't* angry, bitter, self obsessed, nuerotics? No, they're both paragons of mental health and keepers of the public good and definitely don't *deserve* the Rotweiler and absolutely not Charlie Sheen? I laughed when the ferrari went off the cliff, maybe then Camerons father can actually be a father then, rather then a collector with a sideline in producing children. Ferris's "passive companions" weren't that passive and they choose to come along for the ride and were better off for it. Live life to the fullest doesn't mean "anything goes" but it can mean poking fun at the pompous and upsetting the arrogant, obsessive absolute "rightness" of ego. No one in the film who didn't deserve it in one way or another bore the brunt of Ferris Bueller.
Yeah, Ferris Bueller wasn't that disturbing, except when the deranged Principal broke into Ferris' house or when Jeannie drove like a maniac nearly killing others on the road in an attempt to prove Ferris had cut school. *gasp* Cutting school! Horrors!
in the principal's defense, we consider him the bad guy because he's opposed to Ferris pulling his bullshit on everyone. In the 80s, his act of hacking to eliminate his absences would be nothing, but in the past decade, that would practically have the feds crawling over his house. Rooney would have gotten a medal for exposing Ferris and ::gasp:: doing his job as an educator to ensure that students attend school.
Until Rooney stepped into the Buhler home he would have been a good guy. Once he was in the home, he was the educator/robber/pedophile. They would have locked him up and thrown away the key.
Lots of good lines but i especially like " Growing up is tough, and you are exactly as guilty as you think you are. "
I know for a fact that Ferris grew up to be an accountant.
Abe? Is that you? I have a reservation for the "Sausage King of Chicago" in the corner where you like it.
You are wrong about Ferris Bueller. He planned the whole day for the purpose of HELPING his friend deal with an unloving father. Watch the movie again.
Or there's this interpretation:
https://www.liveforfilms.com/2010/07/15/ferris-club-ferris-bueller-is-tyl...
I wish people would stop using Tyler Durden to interpret other works of art. Fight Club isn't nearly as complex as people think it is.
Or maybe it's so complex that it completely went over your head?
Re My Girl, I think he went to look for the ring himself. She didn't send him so not her fault
I always thought that Ferris Bueller was a dick, and he is definitely a rich kid from the suburbs shitting on people because of who is parents are. The insults he gives to the maitre d' were totally unnecessary. I would've poisoned his food.
This is genius.
Looks like someone's been hitting up cracked.com for retro cultural analysis inspiration. . . .
Is it just me, or are most commenters on Hooksexup ass holes?
Enjoyed the article.
Sometimes people equate being an asshole to being witty and/or intelligent.
or saying things are retarded or being condescending when they simply have a difference of opinion
didn't Cracked already do an article like this?
Sorta. It has a similar take on ferris, but it doesn't address the others.
i think you misunderstand ferris bueller, sir. here is a story about friendship, and the story is really about cameron. if you have ever suffered from depression, you would understand the importance of having a friend come and help you get out... to emote, in some way. ferris saves cameron, whether on purpose or by accident, but the true heart of the story is in there.
just a different interpretation
Some really good points. Well written article.
why is "stand by me" formatted differently than every other entry?
You forgot about "Man in the Moon" with Reese Witherspoon. Great movie, great acting, uncomfortable precociousness (precociousity?)
These were all great movies and we saw them for entertainment, that's all. Geez dude, take a laxative.
The Jake Ryan criticism is legit, but why the assumption his girlfriend was a virgin? Was that covered in the movie?
The implication is that Sam was deflowered, not Jake's girlfriend. The fact that she's a virgin is made much of in the movie, and it's not unreasonable to assume that she lost it to Jake after the birthday cake scene.
Fell out of bed feeling down. This has brghiteend my day!
Now you say something