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Talking to Strangers

Hooksexup asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.

 

 

Jessica, 35

There's no way you're thirty-five. How do you look so young?
I do yoga every day. And a few other things.

What other things?
I'm a freelance writer, a TA, and a mom.

So you're married.
Widowed. But it was a long time ago.

Have you been dating since then?
Well, I was single for three years after he died, and then I met this guy online. Our first date was on Valentine's Day, and it lasted twenty-four hours. If he had asked me to marry him the next day, I would have.

That's great!
I thought it was, but as time goes on I'm finding out that maybe he's not that perfect. I mean, I love living in the city, and he wants to live on a farm. That right there tells you a lot. But what really gets me is that I always thought I was so independent, and now it's like I lost some of that.

So you might be looking again soon — what will you be looking for?
Confidence and nice shoulders. You need to look like you can pick stuff up and throw it around. I don't like guys who are too gentle or wishy-washy. I want a guy who's a guy.

Hypothetically, what would make for good sex with this guy?
A real connection. And knowing that he wanted me. If I'm turning him on, it turns me on.

 

 

Alessandro, 32

You are clearly not American. Where are you from?
Italy.

And what do you do?
I'm a research biologist. I work on medicine-type stuff.

Brainy. What attracts you to a girl?
Big eyes. And a good face.

Are you seeing someone?
I've been living with the same girl for ten years. She moved with me over here from Italy.

That's amazing. But you guys aren't married?
No, we're not. I don't give marriage a special meaning. Our relationship is good — it doesn't need a stamp.

So what's the most romantic thing you've done for her?
I took her to Paris.

Classic. How's the sex?
Good. We're on the same level and we want the same thing.

If you were forced to choose between never having sex again, with anyone, ever, or cheating on your girlfriend, which would you choose?
I would have to cheat.

 

 

Katie, 23

What's your relationship status?
Single and fucking!

Good for you! Who are you fucking?
Well, mostly I just get really drunk and fuck my friends kinda accidentally.

Does that get awkward?
Sometimes. I'm actually here tonight with a friend I fucked.

Well, was the sex any good?
I don't even know — I was blacked out. My roommate told me it sounded good though.

Don't you ever want to have a more intimate sexual relationship?
I haven't had intimate sex since I broke up with my boyfriend a year and a half ago. It just crashed and burned. So now I'm just staying single and trying to have fun.

If you saw a good-looking guy across the room, how would you approach him?
I wouldn't — I don't have the confidence, and I have trouble trusting people. I don't know.

But you do approach guys, right?
Well, yeah. If I see a guy I like I might go up to him and try to go home with him. And I usually get what I want, which is bad. But the more I know someone, the more I want to fuck them. I'm not really interested in people I don't want to fuck — I have very attractive friends.

Comments ( 25 )

So, Katie is a shallow whore. Good to know... see ya 'round, slut.

I.Luv.Cunt commented on Apr 22 10 at 12:56 am

Katie: Yikes. Please take some time to reevaluate your life. It's not OK to have blackout drunk sex. It is OK to have sex that is pleasurable and fun to you but when you are blacking out.. really, honey.

Dee commented on Apr 22 10 at 1:10 am

For his sake, I hope Jessica (who's kinda hot, BTW, despite her "real man" fantasy nonsense) dumped her boyfriend before this was published. Reading Hooksexup would be a shitty way to find out.

S.F. commented on Apr 22 10 at 2:09 am

Turn down your screen brightness: Jessica totally looks 35.

Also: Philly again?? Last time was "All-Fugly" and this one ain't breaking the pattern :(

PO commented on Apr 22 10 at 5:40 am

Also, Michelle? "Guys just come to me. I'm magnetic in a way." No, it's called having a vagina. It's the single biggest unappreciated difference between men & women, and your gender will never realize how easy you have it.

PO commented on Apr 22 10 at 5:44 am

More designers! Maybe you should change the name of this column to "Talking to Graphic Designers"

moops commented on Apr 22 10 at 9:24 am

I don't think it counts as "tolerance" when what you mean is "the ability to tolerate my quirks."

BenReininga commented on Apr 22 10 at 9:55 am

People should let go of their 16th century Puritanism and let these chicks have drunk sex if they want to. Nobody needs to "reevaluate" their lives.

TwL commented on Apr 22 10 at 10:25 am

If Katie wants to enjoy drunken sex with her friends its her right to do so. Also, I'd wager that most of Hooksexup's readership has probably gotten drunk, fucked their friends, and liked it. There's nothing wrong with that.

SL commented on Apr 22 10 at 10:54 am

wow PO. you are obviously the authority on beauty and sexuality. the mind reels with thoughts of what a catch you, the person who sits and comments obsessively on an interview column, must be .

jj commented on Apr 22 10 at 12:07 pm

I'm the first to comment on how astonishingly beautiful Jessica is? Really?

Kokomjolk commented on Apr 22 10 at 12:28 pm

I swear, Philly has some amazingly beautiful people here! I don't know where Hooksexup is finding these people.

Tracy commented on Apr 22 10 at 1:47 pm

Stefany wants a guy who 'tolerates' her love of Star Wars and N64? And I even read a lot... You're in the wrong continent, girl

Filipe commented on Apr 22 10 at 2:33 pm

stefany's pretty awesome. despite the spelling of her name with a 'y'.

fs commented on Apr 22 10 at 3:56 pm

There is a difference between drunk sex (which is awesome) and BLACKING OUT. Generally when you're being fucked and you have no recollection of the events WHATSOEVER, people would probably say that it was date rape. She's obviously got some serious self esteem issue from the fact that she can't even say hello to a guy across the room.

Blacking out while your drunk, also a problem. It's not puritanical, it's unhealthy any real way you look at it and it does nothing to promote sex positivity in any light.

Dee commented on Apr 22 10 at 4:35 pm

@ Dee. I like your logic: shyness = low self-esteem. Unless you're that loud and confrontational asshole, you're a self-loathing mental case.

And I've had sex that I can't remember. I don't call it date rape and my life does not need to be reevaluated. Thanks though! : )

TwL commented on Apr 22 10 at 4:49 pm

Hey, Stephany stole my patented eyes-closed-armpit-smell-good-while-smiling dance move!

Stos commented on Apr 22 10 at 5:00 pm

Can we talk about Stefany's love of Star Wars and N64? Sounds too perfect. IT'S A TRAP!!!

kurp commented on Apr 22 10 at 5:35 pm

@TwL Well neither of us know what she's really like, how does NOT being shy automatically equate to loud and confrontational and asshole-ish, anyways? Drawing that conclusion is a little odd. She mentions herself she has confidence and trust issues. When you black out, you're opening yourself up to a lot of things that could potentially go wrong, aside from date rape. Can you trust the person NOT to have an STD, to use a condom, to not do other weird stuff you wouldn't consent to if in your right mind? Therein lies the issue. Anyone who has issues with trust due to an intimate relationship probably shouldn't just throw caution to the wind and sleep with their friends when they are not truly aware of what's going on. It just seems like a recipe for disaster.

And good for you. I'm not trying to shame anyone in this equation, it's just concerning to me. If you're OK with the way you live your life, have no concerns with trust issues and blacking out whilst drunk, all the power to you. Just watch yourself, is all, not everyone in this world is trustworthy.

Dee commented on Apr 22 10 at 6:07 pm

So when the same story is told from the guy's perspective ("I fucked this chick last night, she was totally passed out and had no idea what I did to her") he's a scumbag asshole rapist. Which is true. But when told from this dizzy girl's perspective it's ok 'cause she's just having fun... Um, right... You all need a healthy dose of common fucking sense.

Real reality commented on Apr 22 10 at 11:03 pm

Michelle is so cute

yo commented on Apr 23 10 at 12:07 am

@jj, this is me obsessively thanking you :)

PO commented on Apr 23 10 at 2:45 am

good stuff. philly people seem so much nicer...and... less crazy. compared to nyc people. I love those big, thick, crazy haired ladies like Michelle...mmmm!

MD commented on Apr 23 10 at 10:16 am

the very concept of "date rape" is ridiculous

shj commented on Apr 23 10 at 7:03 pm

Josh is adorable. I think Jessica is pretty cute too. I don't know why everyone is criticizing Katie. I'm sure most people that party have had sex that was fun at the time, but only half remembered in the morning. It's more fun when you can remember it and relive it in your head the next day but shit happens. One shot turns to four...lol.

girl commented on Apr 23 10 at 8:55 pm

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