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I used to have sexual fantasies about one of two fictional characters, Tom or Skyler. Skyler was kind of an asshole. He was callous, self-serving and aloof. I had imaginary sex with him as often as possible.

But sometimes Skyler was too abrasive. On these days, I’d fall into the arms of my sensitive boyfriend, Tom. Not only could I have pretend sex with Tom — gentle, compassionate pretend sex — but after we had sex, we could spoon in bed. Our bed. The bed we’d built together using bonded stacks of recycled blue jeans for a box-spring, and four refurbished half-kegs to lift it off the floor.

Tom’s not what you’d call "in the picture" these days (decimated by one too many reality-check relationships). But I still indulge this nesting fantasy on a bimonthly basis via ReadyMade magazine.


ReadyMade is a home-design periodical produced in Berkeley, California. It features ideas for things you can build from scratch for your home — everything from custom couches to coatracks made from empty Tide bottles. Its aesthetic leans breezy West Coast semi-ironic

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quirk; non-sequitur T-shirts and Pumas abound. And I fit squarely in its target demographic: twenty-something urbanite with apartment-vanity issues. But I’m also part of another market that

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I don’t think ReadyMade even knows it has cornered: the single and lovelorn. Subconsciously or not, they’ve created a magazine that is essentially long-term-relationship porn.

The do-it-yourself home projects that fill the pages of ReadyMade don’t appeal to me because I want a quirky, fun apartment. They appeal to me because I want a quirky, fun, live-in boyfriend. Today, I occasionally revisit Skyler at CockySk8rBoys.net, but more and more often I find Tom in ReadyMade, just waiting to build an awesome lamp out of old stereo amplifiers. There he is, grinning in my direction in his vintage short-sleeved T-shirt as he squats by the coffee table we constructed out of a tree branch and a piece of tinted Lucite. I find myself building hanging light fixtures from chopsticks and Chinese take-out boxes, anticipating the day I’ll bring home someone like Tom who’ll appraise my creation and deem me boyfriend material.

The imaginary significant others posed on ReadyMade‘s covers look like they’re having as much fun as those ecstatic people in the old Newport Alive With Pleasure! ads. These aren’t simply cute models of the girlie-magazine variety. If they were, ReadyMade would simply be Seventeen for older kids, one more publication filled with smiling, attractive people to sigh over. By putting its models in homes of their own — homes that look like your apartment — ReadyMade taps into the ten-years-older-than-seventeen synapse that yearns for a merciful end to the trauma of casual dating. The ReadyMade fantasy is, "They’ve moved in. You can stop worrying about it now."

As such, ReadyMade is the aspirational magazine for our time. Dating has never been easier — an efficient online dater can bang out four dinners with four different potential partners per week. But this same ease has made holding onto these partners difficult. Sustaining a relationship for more than three dates feels like a triumph, which makes actually ending up moving in with someone seem virtually impossible, but ReadyMade says it’s not. You can do this, the magazine assures you. You can do it yourself.

     

  

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Well, not always by yourself. Many of ReadyMade‘s projects — a faux fireplace built from reclaimed wood in the living room, a customized closet with ergonomic swivel hooks and a mirrored vertical liquor cabinet in the dining area — would be difficult to pull off single-handedly. Which is why people who miscategorize ReadyMade as "Martha Stewart Living for hipsters" are off the mark. Martha is all about the final result — the wildflower petals scattered over the tablecloth just so, the napkins folded like dragonflies. It all oozes lonely housewife desperation. ReadyMade‘s projects, on the other hand, are all about the process. They look like they were put together by attractive twenty-eight-year-olds between makeout sessions, with Apples in Stereo on in the background.

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Take a recent spread featuring Emily Ho and Gregory Han. She’s twenty-eight, and he’s thirty-one. They have a cat, a fish, and a studio apartment in the Silver Lake section of Los Angeles. She’s a graduate student of library science. He’s a designer of whimsical toys. You could describe their aesthetic as "toybox modern," say Emily Ho and Gregory Han. They recently experienced a "budgetary strain" and had to move out of their spacious one-bedroom. Now they’re living in a smaller space, but they’re totally making it work. ReadyMade tells us "how one couple transformed a chopped-up studio into a streamlined showcase for their quirky collections."

I’ve never dated anyone who had a quirky collection, nor have I curated one of my own. The people who do, ReadyMade implies, are the people who live with their significant others. It

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poses a couple-ish looking pair in a home gym: dead-battery dumbbells and jump ropes made of speaker wire. Not only are they working out together, they’re doing it with exercise equipment they built together. This is intimacy of an enviable level.

Grace Hawthorne, publisher and co-founder of ReadyMade, says this fantasy isn’t the magazine’s intent, and that putting both a male and a female on the covers is merely an attempt to attract both markets. But, she says, "Maybe people who are sensitive to [wanting a relationship] are seeing that. Maybe people who are aspiring to make a nest with a significant other gaze at the covers longingly."

Surprisingly, Hawthorne personally doesn’t advocate moving in together before marriage. "There are tons of young people who cohabitate," she says. "I think unmarried people should avoid living together because it provides an easy relationship out."

To me, that misses the point. Easy out or not, building a home with someone is something fun you get to do while you’re young, before getting down to the serious business of knot-tying. Because what’s the difference, really, between the ReadyMade DIY ethos and the search for a long-term relationship? They’re both about working with what you’ve got to turn your unremarkable crap into something people notice and appreciate: an olive jar into a colorful oil lamp, your frizz-prone hair into a sexy Afro. Finding a long-term relationship is an arduous, complicated process, one that requires faith that the end result will be what you want it to be, no matter how messy cobbling it together becomes.  

  

     


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