Talking to Strangers: Washington, DC

Hooksexup asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.

Alex, 25

What type of women are you attracted to?
Very feminine ones. A girl who can get away with wearing a sundress. Having a ton of outfits but not being obsessed with them is always a good thing.

Do you also like outfits in the bedroom?
Of course. But the feminine part isn't defined by the outfits. It's defined by the attitude.

When you pursue a girl, do you have a high success rate?
It depends — compared to whom? But I'm happy.

Any trademark moves you have? Any good opening lines?
If I gave them away, they wouldn't be mine anymore.

Do you get bored easily?
Yes. I wish I lived in a world where I didn't get bored easily, but I accept reality. And the girls I don't get easily bored with are that much more special because the world is so predictable.

To you, is part of femininity being shy or do you like aggressive women?
Some aggression is good, but only in certain areas. My last girlfriend became extremely sexual and she would tell me what she'd thought about since we'd last met. She wouldn't be physically aggressive. She would just drop really big hints. When a girl likes to be on top, that's good.

What are your sexual powers?
I know more about anatomy and psychology than the average person.

But does having that knowledge make you manipulative?
With all power comes the temptation to be manipulative and I can't say I haven't, but when everyone leaves with a smile on their face, all's well that ends well. Not that the ends justify the means, but a little bit of rakishness can go a long way.

What's your best asset, as a boyfriend or as a partner?
Someone once said I was "diligent and ceaseless." When I really like someone, I do all I can to give them a good time, and I push boundaries. Pushing boundaries is probably my biggest strength.

 

Lacy, 26

How's the dating scene in D.C.?
It's awesome! It's fucking awesome. There are so many people, so many places.

Do you meet guys through work?
Not really. I have a strict policy about not dating or seeing anyone who gets tattooed here. Just the other day, I had my laptop up and some guy got on my Facebook and friended himself, and then said "We're friends now, so, want to go on a date?" And I said, "No, you stole my computer. That's creepy."

Any bad experiences?
Oh yeah. I love the guys who will spit the game but then you get down to it, in bed, and it's like "Really?" There was one guy I went home with who lasted for maybe two minutes. He wanted to do it again, but I was like, "If the first time was two minutes, there's no way I'm getting back into bed with you." I left.

Maybe you were just too good.
No. No. No, there should be no excuse.

Do guys see your tattoos and assume you're really wild?
Yeah! I'm actually very shy. One guy asked what I would think about a tag team. With two other guys!

Do you have any sexual superpowers?
My guy says I do. But I don't know what they are. Maybe being into it even if I'm not into it? Guys like moaning. They like thinking they're doing something important when they're not.

Could cute and sweet satisfy you?
I'm not a cuddler. With the guy I'm with, I cuddle because I like him and he wants to. Normally after we're done, I don't want to sit there in goo and grossness. I want you to get up and make me a sandwich, bring me something to drink, and I'll be cool. But sweet can be nice. I've had guys run me baths afterwards.

 

Kristen, 22

How's the dating scene in D.C.?
Abysmal. There are many more women here than men. I seem to have a limited niche I'm willing to date, and I know most of those people already.

What do you want in a partner?
I'm looking for someone who's smart, who's relatively close to my age, has interesting interests, and is rather stylish. No one in Teva sandals or who has to wear a suit every day.

Are you seeing anyone right now?
No. I was, but I'm not anymore. It was going great, but then he got freaked out because he got too into it. He stopped talking to me, we got into a fight about it, and then he slept with my roommate.

How did you find out?
The three of us were hanging out. I went to bed and they immediately went into her room and were very loud. The next day I kept hinting that I'd heard our neighbors having sex, and she felt so guilty about it, she finally told me.

You must have been pissed.
I wasn't that angry. I was more upset for her boyfriend, who is his best friend. But everything's fine now. They broke up and now they're back together.

What's the worst dating experience you've had in D.C.?
I went on a date with a guy who looked a lot like a guy I'd just had a bad breakup with, so that was weird. When we got out of the theater, he immediately started chasing this stray cat, saying, "Oh, it's so cute." He also asked me repeatedly if there were any industrial goth clubs in D.C. because he'd just moved here. And then we got in his car and there's a CB radio that he immediately turns on.

Have you had any good one-night stands?
Kind of? Not really. They've all turned into weird things, where the guy keeps calling. One guy tried to introduce me to his dad and brother after we hooked up a few times.

Any good sex experiences in D.C.?
No. D.C.'s a disappointment in general. But I still love this city.