I'm sure every gay guy that reads this article will get pissed that you "betrayed" yourself by even trying it, but seriously: Props for making the effort. If only all of us had the ability to be bisexual : /

Wow... truly fascinating. Thank you for being so honest and "curious." I know I've had some interesting thoughts and wonders go through my head about sexuality and preference. Thank you both for being good sports. I'm sure it wasn't easy at all

Err... might I inquire why you didn't try anal sex with your female friend, assuming she was willing or able? That would reduce the variables in the experiment from many (including new anatomy and techniques as well as new gender partner) to slightly fewer.

There goes the gold star.

Yawn! The categories 'homo' and 'hetero' are pretty bland and arbitrary anyways. It is no real achievement to try something you are not really into and pretty sure you won't like. The ancient Greeks and many other cultures had sexual practices that ride roughshod over our petty categories - it is silly to think that the boundary of gender exactly correlates to the distinction between enjoyable and repugnant sexual experience.

Indeed, WP is right. You should go back and try anal with a woman. Also, as a straight man, I happen to agree that vaginal sex through a condom is totally boring and does next to nothing for me. Bareback vaginal might open up a whole new vista for you, if you'd both been recently tested, etc.

I think in order to really "try out" a woman, you should have eaten her out. That would have told you whether or not you enjoy vagina.

NN - your obnoxious tone of superiority gives me a massive *yawn*

AD -Yours does the same for me.

AH! We can argue about "what counts as sex" and if he should have eaten her out or done her in the ass or barebacked or whatever, but dude. He had sex with a chick. Props to you, Marc, this was hilarious and you did much better than my gay friend who tried the same and had to leave the room to vomit (not from alcohol).

I agree that using a condom doesn't really give you the full extent of how wonderful a vagina can feel, but with a normal condom, at least you get the basic idea. And heck, the author probably uses condoms for anal, so he's used to that. It just dawned on me, though: given the "male butt" logo on the package, did the author use extra-thick condoms, the ones designed specifically for anal sex? Those are TERRIBLE for vaginal sex. Thick condoms suck to begin with, and a super-thick condom could easily make a vagina feel no different from an anus (since you're not feeling all that much to begin with), eliminating one of the best parts of heterosex. Anal sex is great fun and ridiculously hot, but on a strictly tactile level, vaginal sex without a condom (or with a sufficiently thin condom) is close to the Platonic ideal of Nice Places To Put One's Penis. It'd be a shame for the author to go to all that effort, only to do the equivalent of going to an acoustic concert wearing industrial-strength earplugs.

Lame. Not going down on a girl during sex is like watching a movie with your eyes closed.

while the conclusion was foregone (he's GAY, y'all. condoms or no condoms, anal, oral, vaginal, mutually masturbatory, whatever, he's not sexually attracted to/isn't into bangin' chicks), the experiment itself was brilliantly executed, thoughtful, and well-written. good on ya, dude.

Did you give her a Dirty Sanchez?

nice one. bold and honest. interesting read, thanks.

After reading this, I'm petty sure the last dude I made it with is gay too

Marc, I thought this story was hilarious-- in the right way. Thanks for sharing.

Interesting article -- as a "straight guy", it's something I've always wondered as well. People on both sides of the fence are so afraid to bat for the other team that they burn their bridges before they hatch. For anyone to say that they are exclusively straight or exclusively gay seems shortsighted somehow. (You know, "says the straight guy"...)

Did you give her a Dirty Sanchez?

dSc, please stop asking that. This is an actually well-written article, so don't bring it down.

There is no real commitment to wholeheartedness here. I see only reluctance at every step. I'm 100% straight and I think I could have better and more passionate sex with a dude than the author's half hearted fumbling with this woman.

dre -- In that case, I'm gonna have to reduce your 100% by a few points, because I was in fact surprised by how much more able to try to do this with a woman he was than I would be willing to do it with a guy. So no, you're not 100% straight.

SG -- I think it depends on the definition. If one is completely repulsed by the sex act with a member of the opposite sex (or a member of the same sex, depending on their "starting point"), I think that is more of a mental problem. I'm not saying that homo- or heterosexuality is a mental illness. I am saying that a failure to recognize academically that the sensations experienced through a physical expression of sexuality that differs from your own can be pleasurable demonstrates and ignorance or intolerance that runs deeper than any social experiment can overcome. There are several reasons that prevent me from trying it, but they're primarily based on social reasons, not a presumed inability to experience pleasure.

I think you may have had a way better time had you decided to try your experimen with a queer femme top. That is, if you are a bottom. She would have taken care of the situation, made you feel like a princess and fucked the shit out of you. Straight as can be!

Correction: Perhaps you should have had sex with me!

I'm surprised to learn that nipples don't play an active role in gay sex. I'm male, and (potential TMI warning) my own can be terrifically sensitive. I could also suggest that you should have spent a LITTLE time reading up on basic female anatomy as it applies to sexual intercourse, but then there are plenty of straight men who need to do the same.

SG- The test of how straight you are is not how repulsed you are by sex with the same gender. The test is how turned on you are by those of the opposite gender in conjunction with a lack of desire for the same gender.

I've never believed that a person's sexuality could be summed up with one word.

I never thought I'd enjoy sex with a guy (I'm a girl). But I let myself try it. What did I discover? I just like sex, good sex, in general. Now, if you lined up a guy and a girl and asked me who I wanted to have sex with, I'd still choose the girl (after I made sure a 3some wasn't possible). Some people like it, some people don't. We're all different, and that's the beauty of the world.

Simply put: Thank you...

I very rarely read articles all the way to the end but this was super interesting! Thx for bothering to go through that!

As a straight man with many gay friends (both male and female) this topic has risen many times. In the past I had questions about my sexuality, and even thought I was falling for a man. I gave it a shot, and much the same as our author discovered that there was something very intrinsic missing. Simply put we are what we are, and I give great kudos to our dear author for giving it a go. (Ps, my male partner found my lack of erection so amusing he actually appologised to me. Talk about embarassing. ) Thanks for showing us that the curiosity to explore does not translate to a different sexuality, just to curiosity.

NN i adore you!

Off-topic: I'd do that guy on the magazine cover, he's hot.

i like guys a lot, but have never ruled out sex with a woman. when i think of a man and a woman having sex, it turns me on as much as two men or two women. i get really interested in having sex with a woman even though i like guys more. i guess just the thought of doing something that vbiously looks fun makes me itch todo it.

Thank you for this article! It was definitely entertaining as I have thought about sex with a women myself. I can that I am pretty odd myself because I like watching straight porn. I love watching the men going in and out of a girl, and as long as there not doing to many close ups of her face and her boobs then Im good. But I could NEVER actually do it with a girl. I have always been more attractive to men and I have more in common with men. You have a good friend there! Im pretty sure most girls would run and tell a friend.

After thinking that I was purely gay from the ages of 12 - 23, a girl chased after me for a while and I gave in. Yes, she knew that I liked boys. When the time came, she simply slid down onto me as I was reaching for the condoms (I was trying to do the right thing!). We had explosive sex. That led to a twelve month sexual relationship. Now I know that I'm not purely gay. I am slightly bisexual. I prefer guys but I'll be happy to have sex with a nice, willing chick if she wants me and understands the situation.

I have let a few guys guys go down on me. (straight guy here). I don't think that makes me gay or bi. They put on straight porn and I just let go. There is also something about not guys. In the head. like its another dude and you don't have to worry about feelings. Just getting your dick sucked.

This is a great story. I feel like it should be published in some science journal.

The thing about it is we convince ourselves to the fact, gay men because of the years of 'finding themselves' & later defending themselves on the choice to come out & be open about their sexuallity. & straight men because most are raised hating the idea. raised to think it's only right when a penis & vagina get together. Women are actually more open to all of it, physical & emotional. Keep an open mind & the limits fade. I identify myself as a gay man. but have experienced deep attraction towards women. & have had hetero sex, i didn't mind it & tried it out a few times. not because it was great. just to see if it would be easier than the first time. I had opened my mind to it. & it was easier. it was better. I enjoyed it. I still will say gay when asked. & don't actively chase women. but if it happens to come by. I wont deny

LOL! good on you mate, I have personally tried this experiment myself, it has never actually worked out though, I just have problems actually getting aroused11110 with women ... and yes boobs are very odd :S

Definitely adopting doggy style would have made matters easier AND put the breasts into play..

props to you Personally i am bi so i think your conclusion fits someone who is one way and no real attraction to the other and were willing to experiment to see if that would change Kudos man

I would have enjoyed some commentary on the aesthetics of the vagina from Marc's perspective as well as what he thought about the possibility of giving oral.