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    No matter how many articles Wired publishes about how being a geek, nerd, spaz, or weirdo is the new hot, trying to get a date as one — or with one — is still no easy task. There simply aren't that many nerds in the dating pool. They either pair off lightning fast or (and this is most often the case), they aren't actually geeks: they don't have encyclopedic knowledge of Battlestar Galactica, an exhaustive collection of comic books, or skills at Street Fighter. So what's a true nerd to do in their quest for love, a lay, or light conversation over authentic sushi? What everyone else does: go online. We set out to find where those dates are to be had. — John Constantine


    Geek 2 Geek (www.gk2gk.com)

    By far the most polished online dating resource for nerds, with a feature set and general design that is every bit as outwardly professional and usable as the biggest names in the business. Anyone who's spent time on Hooksexup Personals will feel right at home with the wink/message system.

    Most impressive feature: Their authentically nerdy profile creation tool, with built-in check boxes to denote favorite boardgames, comic books, SciFi/Fantasy film or novel, or anime. There's even a space to mark your preferred videogame controller.

    Average Geek 2 Geek lady: Profile name A Little Sunshine, no picture, nineteen years old. Like most users on Geek 2 Geek, Sunshine is very descriptive about who she is and what she's looking for (about four paragraphs for each section) and makes no bones about her proclivities, from videogames to The Simpsons.

    Average Geek 2 Geek gent: Profile name Musicphile, no picture, twenty-five years old. On average, the guys here devote less raw text to their profiles and are more self-effacing. Lack of confidence — ever the enemy of the nerd.

    Conclusion: While Geek 2 Geek doesn't suffer from what the majority of other dating sites of their ilk do — an incredibly small pool of users — it does reveal the truth of a classic nerd stereotype: nerds are shy people. The vast majority of profiles don't have a picture of the poster attached.


    Nerdpassions/Trekpassions (www.nerdpassions.com, www.trekpassions.com, etc.)

    Although less inviting than the polished Geek 2 Geek, Nerdpassions scores points for legitimacy. The site's banner ads tout online shops selling official Star Wars prop replicas. The real heart of the network — which hosts a number of different URLs (i.e. Trekpassions.com) — comprises the devoted message-board communities for specific aspects of nerd culture. Want to chat up a Harry Potter freak? They've got you covered. If the Nintendo Wii's your joy du jour, you're hooked up. A caveat: profile features are a little barebones compared to more mainstream outlets.

    Your average Nerdpassions lady: Profile name THEWINELOVER. A close-up headshot, little body in frame, thirty-four years old. Very little text and what's there is prototypical datingsitespeak: "I'm looking for someone new to meet but hoping for love, etc." The nerdiness is there, with an emphasis on computers.

    Your average Nerdpassions gent: Profile name AZRAELDARKANGEL. Almost full-body photo with a messy room in the frame, thirty years old. Only devotes two sentences to talking about himself, but the first one says it all: "Explore the Darkness with me..." There be nerds here, folks.

    Conclusion: Dating on Nerdpassions is like going to the same bar year after year; eventually everyone will have hooked up with everyone else. Plumbing even so rich a vein of nerd culture as New York city yields just over a hundred profiles, male and female, straight and gay. The heart's there, but the warm bodies aren't.

    Sweet On Geeks (www.sweetongeeks.com)

    A touch more on the traditionally nerdy side, Sweet On Geeks feels personal as soon as you see its logo: the name of the site topped with some mussed up hair with a pair of Lisa Loeb glasses beneath. It just feels right, especially if you're the type of person who grew up riding the bleachers at the school dance. Like other dating sites devoted to the intellectual introvert, there aren't a whole lot of users here, but the personality of the entire community shines through. If you don't attach a photo to your profile, your online avatar is a little red toy robot for the fellas and a pink one for gals. Adorable.

    Your average Sweet on Geeks lady: Profile name Sexadecimal, no picture, thirty-two years old. Sexadecimal has l33t speak right in her introductory section. Do you really need to know anything else?

    Your average Sweet on Geeks gent: Profile name MetalCrusader, no picture, thirty-four years old. Doesn't give potential dates a visual, but lays it all out with tons of text and a sense of humor. A true and classic nerd.

    Conclusion: The profile setup is one of the best, requiring a user to free-response most of their personal information instead of choosing from pre-determined options. Their search engine is just as laudable, with basic and advanced searches all on the same, clean page. Even if you can't find a date there, it's still worth checking out for a few minutes. You might even get lucky.








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    Comments ( 10 )

    Oh god... I am a geek, the first thing that stood out was the authors name - John Constantine (you know - Hellblazer).

    jen commented on May 24 07 at 12:45 am

    Nerd love is best love. Although, I think you can be nerdy about things besides computers. I am recently in love with myspace.com/nerdfox

    dk commented on May 25 07 at 10:57 am

    Hi John, this is the former roommate of a friend of yours who has told me a lot of good things about you (hopefully that's introduction enough).

    Your comment on the difficulty of nerds finding dates and how nerd culture has been deemed "hip" in the media made me think about the popularity of the nerd image rather than the actual nerd lifestyle.

    Real nerds spend their days in animated discussions about highly obscure video game errata, painting miniatures in their rooms, and gushing about movies with two or more sequels. It seems that this lifestyle is not what gets one dates but rather having the image of the nerd without actually being one.

    I sincerely hope that the sites you linked provide services for actual nerds rather than for indies dressed in nerds' clothing. Experience has taught me, however not to get surprised when this turns out not to be the case.

    YHN commented on Oct 08 07 at 1:28 pm

    I really don't see the point to all of this. Whenever I show women my incredible skills at popular games such as "Super Mario Bros." (on which I can almost reach stage 4-3) they throw their clothes off and jump all over me.

    You can certainly take some of MY advice on https://nerddating.blogspot.com if you think you're up for it.

    FF commented on Oct 10 07 at 6:27 pm

    Wow, you wrote about "nerdy dating sites" without mentioning the website that's about three times the size (and maybe 3 times as nerdy) of the ones you covered: Intellect Connect (www.intellectconnect.com). Hot librarians, bespectacled Clark Kents; you get the picture!

    CE commented on Dec 03 07 at 10:48 pm

    these nerd and geek dating sites are becoming more and more popular.

    commented on Mar 10 08 at 5:27 am

    Yeah these geek dating sites are really taking off!

    js commented on Mar 25 08 at 9:46 pm

    Im russell at and love the nerdy girl in the picture drinking coffee, is she datable? I would worship her like a goddess, russell, in roswell nm

    rb commented on Apr 07 08 at 2:04 am

    Oh no! Your article misses the nerdiest dating website of all: Intellect Connect (www.intellectconnect.com)!

    ms commented on Sep 13 08 at 10:45 pm

    This needs to be updated since I figure some things have changed since this article was written.

    Shimoda commented on May 17 10 at 7:44 am

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