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Eric, 23
Team Veni Vidi Bocce

Some say bocce is a form of the Italian word for "kiss." What's the secret to a great kiss?
You want to hold back a little bit. Just be a little playful, tease a bit, then tone back, just to make them want it more.

What's the best way to pick up a bocce player?
After showing off your incredible bocce-throwing form, a beer is a good way to break the ice.

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What can you tell about a person's bedroom skills from how they handle themselves on the court?
You just have to watch how they handle the balls. There's a lot about finesse and a lot about form. If they're aggressive, they're just going to grab the ball and toss it down there.

I'm dating a virgin who wants me to be her first. We just met a few weeks ago, and I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to her. What should I do?
People usually develop fairly significant attachments to the person who takes their virginity, so if you're not into her it's not a good idea. But if you like her, there's no reason that you shouldn't. It's kind of — I wouldn't say it's an honor, because that sounds creepy, but it's flattering to be in a situation where someone likes you enough to say, "I've never had sex before, but I'd like to with you."

My boyfriend wants me to shave his balls. I don't even know where to start. What should I do?
Consult a male porn star. He could give you great tips on the best shaving cream to use, and whether you want to use upstrokes or downstrokes or sidestrokes.

Sometimes I just want my gentle, emo boyfriend to spank me and then fuck me. How can I convince the man I love to use me as a sex object once and awhile?
I've had a lot of experience with this. Get him drunk, start talking dirty and let him go at you. Sober, he's probably going to be too reserved.

What's the best sex toy?
The vibrating cock ring. The vibration part is more for the girl, because when they're in full contact it's stimulating the clit. But it's a mutually beneficial toy.

Christina, 26
Team Boccenalia

What's the secret to going down on a woman?
Be patient. Girls aren't always going to come in three seconds, and you might have to give it some time.

How can becoming a bocce player make me a better lover?
The object of bocce is to get the ball as close to the other ball as possible without knocking it out, which teaches you how to get someone right to where they should be, but not push them too far.

I'm dating a virgin who wants me to be her first. We just met a few weeks ago, and I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to her. What should I do?
Take some time to make sure she definitely wants you to be her first. If you rush into it, she could have regrets and end up hating you. Then again, maybe she's just sick of being a virgin and wants to get it over with.

How should I put her at ease the first time we do it?
Keep the conversation going. There's nothing wrong with asking somebody, "Do you like this? Do you like how this feels?"

Sometimes I just want my gentle, emo boyfriend to spank me and then fuck me. How can I convince the man I love to just use me as a sex object once and awhile?
Just keep yelling at him: "Harder, harder, harder!"

What's the secret to a great kiss?
Occasional eye contact. Not staring, though — that's weird and creepy.

I was single for so long I honed masturbation to a fine art. Now I'm in love with a great guy, but he can't make me come as powerfully as I can myself. How can I forget about my vibrator?
I don't think you ever have to forget about it. He's not going to be around all the time. But I think you also have to focus on the excitement of having a partner involved. Maybe it isn't about having turbo-strong orgasms every time. It's more about the actual act of having sex with the person that you really like.


Nina, 37

Team Beeyotcces

My boyfriend wants me to shave his balls. What should I use?
Probably not Nair — that would burn too much. "Balls" is kind of a big area. Does that include the pubes, or just the hair on the ballsack? These are all very important questions. Start with the pubes and work your way down. I'd do a little trim first, and then maybe a razor. And if your hands are a little shaky, you can get those little kids' scissors with the rounded edge.

What's the secret to a great kiss?
Do it like you mean it.

How can I pick up a bocce player?
Definitely not by asking them to play a game of bocce. They'll trounce you and you'll end up crying in the bathroom.

How can becoming a bocce ball player make me a better lover?
You learn how to focus even when you're a little tipsy.

I'm dating a virgin who wants me to be her first. We just met a few weeks ago, and I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to her. What should I do?
Get some lube, close the Bible and close the door to your bedroom.

Is bocce a sexy sport?
When we first started the league, I made these T-shirts and it said, "The Beeyotcces: Bustin' balls and hearts all summer long." And ever since then, we have like a ton of taglines, like, "Look, these ones don't come with irritating men!"


Dena, 28
Team Mamalukes


Which is better, outdoor or indoor sex?
In a car — that's indoor and outdoor.

What's the best way to pick up a bocce ball player?
If you're a woman, when you're rolling, wear a low-cut shirt and crouch down so that people can see your cleavage.

I'm dating a virgin who wants me to be her first. We just met a few weeks ago, and I'm not sure I'm ready to commit to her. What should I do?
Go for it. You don't want to break up over virginity. Better the girl be a virgin than the guy.

I was single so long I honed masturbation to a fine art. Now I'm in love with a great guy, and though he tries, he just can't make me come as powerfully as I can. How can I forget about my vibrator?
You can't forget about it. Incorporate it.

My boyfriend wants me to shave his balls. What do I use?
There's a Norelco product out there for this, I believe. It's on the Bed Bath & Beyond website.
 


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