Luis, 25

What's the best way to pick up a pastry chef?
This has happened a couple of times: on the first trip in, they smile and say "Hi." Then, they try to start a conversation — which, as you see, it's real easy to me. But then they give a tip. And they come back and ask your name. I'm gay, and I work in SoHo, so it's kind of crazy.

All those sexy-tip manuals want you to drizzle chocolate sauce on your lover, or cover him in whipped cream. To me, that's always sounded like a waste of good food — and messy! In your professional opinion, does dessert have a place in the bedroom?
I’m not going to explain this, but maybe both should stay in the kitchen.

Do you have to change the sheets before and after a one-night stand?
You want the truth? I'm not going to wash my sheets every day! No, I'm just kidding. When you're in a relationship, of course not. With a one-night stand, of course you do!

My boyfriend is a very strict calorie-counter and on a perpetual diet. He's trying to be healthy, but it's really turning me off. How do you cure a chronic diet-er?
Oh my God. You know that's a problem for me because I really love to eat and my boyfriend also really loves to eat. You should tempt him with something you know he likes. I tempt my boyfriend with éclairs, since I know he really likes chocolate.

I recently gained twenty pounds and I think my partner is less attracted to me. We've been having sex less and less, and I can't help but blame myself. What's the best way to approach this subject with him?
Talk about it. I had to do that because my boyfriend doesn't work out. Plan a surprise weekend, and go dancing. It's more fun and entertaining.

My girlfriend and I are staying with her conservative parents for two weeks over the holidays. She insists we remain celibate the whole time. She says it's a matter of respect, but it seems stupid on one hand, and no fun on the other. Is it okay to protest?
I believe you should talk. The best way to understand each other is to talk. Even if you really want to do it, you should respect her. I know inside you'll think, "Damn, I really wanted to do it," but the situation is complicated.

My girlfriend and I have been monogamous for nine months. She's on the pill and we're curious about not using condoms — but also kind of nervous. Everyone says it's so much better; do you think it's worth the risk?
There's a big difference between girls and guys. I have been with my boyfriend for nine months. In the beginning, we went together to take a test and checked that everything was okay. Now we sometimes use condoms to be safe, but sometimes when we’re drunk, we don't because we know we're okay. With a girl it’s different. The pill isn't one-hundred percent safe.

Some cooks are all about improvisation. Others spend hours with recipes and mise en place. Who makes the better lover?
Both. I love being spontaneous and creative, but sometimes when you're tired, you just do it. Sometimes, I just want to sleep.