While this was an interesting look into eHarmony, it didn't have the spice and flare of the ol' "I Did It For Science" articles. It seemed more like a simple article about eHarmony. For anyone who's ever wiki'ed the site out of curiosity or anyone with any experience with it first-hand know every piece of eHarmony trivia dispensed. Where's the Fleshlight? The Aneros? The Tantric Sex? These were legitimately interesting things that the average loser would never try without someone giving them a kick in the ass...eHarmony or an equivilant is something nearly anyone with the internet has tried. Now if he had actually gone on a date... I'm expecting more from the next one because he really did have a great sense of humor and it was definitely well written! I can't wait!

I know at least two people who claim they were rejected for being atheists.

Ditto on AR's comment.

glad i did it for science is back. i remember grant having to ramp up to the very daring stuff, and think as long as we're seeing jack start to expand his boundaries at all, we're probably on the right path. we'll see next update, i suppose.

I was rejected from one of those stupid sites--I think it was eHarmony but it could have been another one, this was years ago--for being a Buddhist, then I read online that they only accept Christians or something. I wonder what the truth to that is, honestly, but if it's true...it's weird. *Shrug.*

Excellent piece. Funny and informative. Very excited for idifs in its new incarnation.

hi, author here. the eharmony people told me on record that they don't discriminate based on faith or non-faith, though 20% is both the number of people they don't match and the number of agnostics/atheists in america (me included). sounds like we godless should start aDate...

When I indicated that I wasn't interested in an overweight, long-bearded, unkempt, short biker (maybe he was mensa but who cares) I was told that it was unacceptable to base an opinion on looks. Then, I mused, why did they ask for a photo in the first place. When I indicated early on that I occasionally smoked (socially maybe 1 when I was drinking with a smoking buddy) eharmony suggested I lie about that -- it would improve my chances greatly. After a couple of years of off and on harmonizing I never met anyone that I felt was a match. Must be my two heads.

So that's it? They just take your money and say "um, no dice?" By the way, I liked this one. Good job!

actually it's free to find out they "can't" match you; it was only the psych evaluation that cost the 20 bucks.

too wordy, quite cliche, and not very amusing. e-harmony's biases are old, old news. why dontcha come up with something new and exciting to go along with your new site design?!

I can echo your experience. Before I found the Hooksexup personals I tried eharmony - total waste of time for an urban, agnostic, intellectual. They kept trying to match me with devout Christians from NJ. Guys whose "five things I can't live without" included "Jesus" and "God" as two separate items. My conclusion was that EHarm isn't designed with dense urban populations in mind. The thiry mile radius alone is a deal breaker. Like I'm going to start dating someone in deep NJ, from Brooklyn! And with all the questions about my religion, not a single one about my politics? Not for city folk...

bored.

This was a surprisingly disappointing first-after-a-long-hiatus 'I Did It For Science'. It kind of went nowhere unfortunately: no risk and then no payoff. I don't think it's the writer's fault, he sounds fine, it was just a half-assed idea.

A new headline for Adult Friend Finder. Lol.. excellent.

haha i did this as an experiment a week ago was way frustrated when it came up with no matches then a day later, my inbox was filled with all these new matches and photo nudges and requests for initiation of conversation so i deleted my account.

i'm pretty sure you have to pay money in order to see the photos of your matches, too. so the best you can get is their answers to the questions, name, age, and city of dwelling.

I used eharmony for about 6 months in Atlanta and found some of the freakiest broads I've ever encountered. I don't usually go for buttplay on the fourth date -- that's date #5 -- but, hey, when in eharmonyland ...

Nice to know it's roughly 1 in 5 that is unable to be matched by the system. I also was "rejected" several years ago- I tried it due frustration in finding anyone compatible/suitable (I hear you sb-no short, fat bikers, PLEASE) with me on other sites. It's true what they say, "The more you have to offer someone, the harder it is to find a good/happy match". I eventually settled into a relationship with a young man last year I met at a local hot spot. We are opposites in MANY ways, but, he certainly beats the men I was meeting online!!

It's pretty old news that eHarmony is a Christian-oriented dating site and that they don't condone same-sex relationships. At the least it's conservative. So if you're not any of those things, why would you expect to match up with anyone on there.

Ha - fun, despite - indeed - the tame nature of this attempt at "I did it for Science." I tried eHarmony. Now mind you, I've been divorced (twice) and have two kids. My match - a 40-something VIRGIN. No kidding. At some point I told my e-Match, "Listen, I am NOT the man for breaking you into the whole world of sex." Not that my viginal would-be-spouse was actually wanting sex. eHarmony, from my experience, is a fraud. I laugh out loud whenever their ads come on the telly.

Tried eharmony with much trepidation. Urban midwestern liberal. Selected "spiritual but not religious" and requested to be matched with no christians. Met a great guy who I never would have met otherwise, who was just one neighborhood over. We have the same political beliefs. He is agnostic and I am spiritual but it works. We are currently househunting. I was also matched with a lot of people I have nothing in common with, but overall, this seems to have really worked for me, and the people seemed a lot more serious and sane and literate than on Match.

I tried EH and have never met so many people who I'm NOT compatible with. So mister, go on your dates and share with us your humorous stories... wanna hear mine to get some ideas? #1. separated, not really interested in dating. #2 took me to a secluded place and tried to make out with me when I fell asleep in the car. #3 emailed for over a month and never really wanted to meet. #4 dork, gave me the "So you have a dog in place of a husband" yuck yuck". #5 really wanted to meet me then closed his account right before we planned on getting together. #6 manic depressive. lets me for coffee "GREAT he said" when I met him..."I HATE coffee". should I continue? I laugh and remain hopeful... so let's hear your funny stories!

THAT is the new "I Did it for Science?" I miss Hooksexup. There are a thousand (Free) generic pop culture sites we can read, there was only one Hooksexup. Niche Marketing, guys, look it up.

yawn....BOR-ing! i could have written this article in my sleep, for any old other site. what on earth is happening at Hooksexup? it's a good thing i'm not paying for "premium". i may as well buy a subscription to cosmopolitan.

Wow. I am so disappointed. I used to love this column, but this is almost puritanical. eHarmony---without even a single date--give me a break!!!!!

I have tried e-harmony twice over the years. No luck finding anyone within 50 miles and they few i did actually date clearly had drinking problems. No Harmony here

KL, I too have met a few people on eharm who seemingly wanted to email forever and not meet, or met me, acted a little over-the-top enthusiastic about me, and then flaked out on the second date. I think there are a lot of shy people on eharmony. I'm kind of shy myself so I'm cool with it, but several of them are to the point where they actually seem afraid of meeting someone. And I have met several people from there who I didn't click with, but overall they were all nice, intelligent guys.

I tried eHarmony when they irst came out and got the same response..no matches at this time...and then they found some...all men in their 70s!!! I've gotten many more matches since then, but all are very ordinary, or in AA or no pictures or just plain ugly. the problem with the site is that they will not give you pictures of your matches unless you pay them. the quality of men on the site has proven to be not worth the money...no matter how old they are. I'm glad I am not easily matched...I know I'm not the "usual" woman, but then I'm not looking for the :usual" guy either...

eH is run by Christian fundamentalists (I am the former, not the latter) who are well-funded and believe the world is best populated by like minded people. That is their bias. I got rejected too.

Remember when Grant got the massage with the happy ending? Or when he got himself vacuum wrapped in latex? How about when Jen got paid to clean a guy's apartment wearing nothing but rubber gloves? Those were the days. Then again, maybe I'm the problem - I never paid for Hooksexup Premium and never clicked any of the ads back then, either.

Now give this new lab rat some real experiments.

I thought this article was great - humorous, light, and REAL. It's something that another "rare bird in the world" but otherwise "normal" person like myself can relate to. As for eH, my friends here in NYC who didn't get "rejected" like me never met anyone. It is what it says - for personalities that fit a category, and hopefully the match won't repulse you physically. That's their niche. Unfortunately, nothing in life that's worth having comes easy!

[Sorry, it seems that hitting F5 to refresh your screen repeats your post!]

I think the absolutely most hilarious part of the article has nothing to do with the subject at hand- but the very real and jarring observation that fabulous women get rejected all the time- mostly by loser guys....ah....how many I know! how about a little dating etiquette/HUMANITY!!! in this dating man's paradise!!

JH, don't let the critics get you down. This was a fine piece. As for the substance: I'm starting to get depressed that I *wasn't* rejected by eHarmony -- it's really a badge of honor. I can tell you they do take agnostics (me) and Jews (an ex). But I did hear (yes, unsubstantiated rumor) that the system doesn't work well for people with IQs over 120. My own experience was that in the three months I was a member, I met exactly one woman, and that was a mercy date I went out on with an Indian doctor who lived with her parents and was afraid that all male internet daters were serial rapist-killers. I hated the dating-with-training-wheels approach, and despite the fact that having a family was a principal goal of mine, the kept sending me profiles of women in their mid-40s. It's really a site designed to allow the mediocre to meet and mate.

I tried eHarmony for over a year and had no success. I got plenty of matches, but most of them never replied - not even the courtesy of a "not interested". Of the few that did respond, I only got to the point of actually meeting one woman. We went out for about a month and then she just quit returning calls. She finally broke it off by email. In short, I found eHarmony to be a major waste of time. And now, over a year after closing my account and telling eHarmony why, they still send me offers to reinstate!

as an atheist and recovering BPD, i too of course got rejected. if i knew they actually reject people based on those criteria, i wouldn't have spent 3 hours filling out that questionnaire. they really should have warned people before they take that stupid thing. it didn't cost anything to take the questionnaire but my time is very valuable and i felt so cheated i was contemplating filing a class action suit for the lack of prior warning. anyways, after that i posted on craigslist w4m looking for fellow eharmony rejects. the subsequent dates i got out of that post were expectedly not as interesting as those i got when i posted on casual encounters for drug dates.

Yep, to echo some of the comments here, the vast majority (90%) of people I know who actually got through the long-ass questionaire got told that matches couldn't be found for them. All young, mix of male and female, urban and suburban, body types, jobs, etc. The one consistent thing that all are not religious or atheist. So the sixth factor: be up with the big JC or GTFOH.

I went on eHarmony for a free communication weekend for kicks, clicked on my very first match that they sent me, went through the "communication" phase then met him at a bar with a couple friends. We have been dating for 2 years...Personally being a 23 year old college student I didn't expect to find anyone interesting on a dating website, but I DID: A 26 year old general contractor who owns his own business and home, who is very funny AND attractive... After reading all of these comments, I'd say I got pretty damn lucky!

Also, neither my boyfriend or I are religious at all...so I guess there goes that theory?

Thank you for saving me time. I'm sure if you're a rare bird, I'm some kind of extraterrestrial.

Great feature, looking forward to more. Ignore all the folks that don't appreciate good writing and think it's only interesting if you shove something up your ass.

EH blows. I sifted through my matches of men listing one of their MUST HAVES to include SEX and asked EH why this was permitted on their religion based site considering premarital sex is a NO NO in christianity. Plus - it's just gross to list this instead of something more interesting.

One in five people get rejected by eharmony. And look at the religious make up of america. one in five people are atheist/agnostic/non-religious. Coincidence? Not really. eHarmony is a christian dating site. I filled out the profile twice. I got rejected the first time, and the second time, I changed my answer to only about five questions. The questions asking my religion (i went from atheist to christian) as well as stating a preference for a christian, and a couple questions about spending time at church. The other bajillion questions were answered the same. The second time through, i got in. It promptly tried to match me with a bunch of people who stated their hobbies as "love of god" and "going to church" and I promptly got the hell out of dodge.