Mike Lee & Kent Zambrana

Letting Up Despite Great Faults
Los Angeles, CA

Does it ever work when people date within their band?
Mike: Not in this one!

Did that happen in your band?
Mike: Maybe.

My boyfriend has been staying late at work lately. I don't mean to sound paranoid, but does that mean he's fooling around on me or that he's lost interest in me?
Kent: He's probably just playing in a fantasy basketball league.
Mike: If he's stayed late before, and she knows what kind of line of work he's in, I'm sure that plays a factor, so she can be rational about it.
Kent: The weird thing would be if he worked at a strip club.
Mike: That's weird, man. Just break up with him!

I've been dating this girl for a couple of months and I really like her. Does a couple of months mean that we're "dating?" Should I bring up the whole "where is this going" question?
Kent: Light a candle, pour a glass of wine, listen to some Letting Up, and say, "Hey, babe, where's this going?"
Mike: I don't understand why people need to label things or check the status of things. Why can't everyone just be chill and hang out? If you're having a good time... You've only known the person for two or three months, there's so much more to know, and I think the fun of dating is to discover who they are. That takes longer than two to three months.

I'm a thirty-two-year-old woman, and I've never been in a committed relationship. I tried getting set up, but to no avail. How can I meet eligible, single men?
Mike: I don't think it's a big deal if she hasn't been in a serious relationship even though she's thirty-two. I think it kind of depends on the person and how fast you grow.
Kent: I know I've always done better when I had no intention of meeting someone. 
Mike: I think you can kind of tell when someone is on the prowl. I think that, ultimately, we should be making friends and hanging out with people. Maybe you should just hang out and make friends. Be willing to go to a party even though you're in your pajamas at nine o'clock. Go to a party and get off your ass and go meet some new people.

I'm a guy who recently broke up with my girlfriend of one year. I subscribe to her Twitter, and she has these passive-aggressive messages that might refer to me. I prefer not to be in contact with her at all, but should I call her out on it?
Mike: No! Why are you on her Twitter? What is wrong with you?
Kent: Didn't you break up with her?
Mike: Unfollow!

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