Talking to Strangers
Hooksexup asks deeply personal questions to people we just met.
Hayley, 24
What do you do for a living?
I'm in transition. I'm studying to become a doctor.
Does that get you dudes?
Yes, but it's unrequited. You think scrubs are the most formless, nonsexual clothing, but I still get hit on in ORs. Even when I have a mask on and they just see my eyes.
Do you wear makeup in the OR?
Not dramatically, because the calls are at 6:30 in the morning, and I'd rather sleep than do eyeliner. I have a surgical cap. I wear a paper hairnet. Sometimes they can see my nails.
I guess if you spend all your time at the hospital you're like, "You're a lady!"
"Here's a lady! And her eyebrows are so well groomed!"
Is there are certain type of guy that you go for?
I have a specific guy type. Girls, who I primarily date, I'm way more open-minded about. But guys, I like over six feet, over thirty, ability to grow a mustache but the restraint not to, and a lot of tattoos.
What kind of girl do you like?
Definitely more butch than I am, because I'm the girly one. Smart, really smart. And personality matters a lot more. I can put up with dumb guys if they're really cute. But dumb girls, even if they're really cute, I just can't handle.
Has anyone ever offended you in the bedroom?
Not me personally, but once I had a threesome with another girl and a male-to-female transperson, who was pre-op. So she hadn't had any surgical operations to make her more of a woman, and she still had a penis. The other girl I was with kept saying a bunch of raunchy shit about sucking her cock and it made me really uncomfortable. I don't think she calls that a cock, I don't think she identifies as having a cock. I'm not sure. It seemed fine. It wasn't a screeching halt, but it threw me off.
So she was just treating her like a man.
A bit. I've dated a good number of trans-people, and you talk about their parts with the adjectives and the nouns that they prefer. If you identify as a man, I'm going to use "he" pronouns. I'm also going to say, "I'm sucking your cock", even if physically I'm going through the motions that are more akin to eating pussy. I'll call that activity sucking cock.
That's interesting.
That's more of a turn-on for them.
Do you have any dealbreakers?
I don't like people who like Ayn Rand.
This guy messaged me online the other day and I went to his profile. Favorite book: anything by Dan Brown.
Done.
What's the craziest place you've had sex?
I had sex on the Chinatown bus. Philly to New York. We had the whole back row, and it was just a very empty bus where everyone had their own seats, and everyone was five or six seats apart. The lights were off. It was fine. Nobody looked back.
Andrew, 31
What do you do for a living?
Pay contractor.
Does that get you ladies?
[Laughs] Oh man, up and down the ladder. No, it doesn't really.
What kind of girls do you like?
Attractive ones. [Friend: "Tights and knee-high boots. That's what he's attracted to."]
You like tights and knee-high boots?
No, not necessarily.
Have you ever offended anyone in the bedroom?
Nope.
Has anyone ever offended you in the bedroom?
Nope.
So you're a pretty easy going individual?
I haven't really been in the bedroom, other than sleeping.
Are you a virgin?
No, but... we won't go into detail about that. I may as well be, let's say that.
If you like a girl, how do you let her know you're interested?
I don't think that's happened yet.
You've never liked a girl?
I don't think so. I think I've been interested but I don't think I've ever really liked a girl the way that I should.
Why do you think that is?
I really don't know. I guess it just hasn't happened yet. I really don't have an explanation for why, but I'm certainly not worried about it.
Are you from around here?
No, I'm from Ohio.
Are the girls different here than in Ohio?
Probably. In some way. They're probably not that different, it just seems that maybe girls in New York are more fashion-conscious. That seems to be the main difference. You walk around and see people dress in current fashion, and you don't really see that in Ohio.
If a girl likes you, how should she impress you?
Impress me? I don't think she has to impress me. What I think is very rare is a girl that has a sense of propriety. I just don't really see that. I see a lot of uncouth and crass behavior in girls.
Do you think you've ever met a girl that had a sense of propriety?
Yes, I have. It might have been too far in that direction.
What do you mean? What was she like?
So conservative that it was too conservative.
Do you think it's possible for a girl to have that balance of hotness and propriety?
Well, I hope so!
Tara, 23
What do you do for a living?
I just graduated! So nothing. I studied graphic design.
What kind of guys do you go for?
Usually the tattooed and pierced guys. Like the bad-boy type. I think good guys get on my Hooksexups. Like, they gotta open the doors for you and stuff. I don't like that, I can do it on my own.
Where's the craziest place you've had sex?
In a park at night. One of my friends dared us to do it. My ex-boyfriend talks about sex all the time. He doesn't even care. He'll just like whip things out.
Wait — what? Like whips his dick out?
No, like he'll tell other people about things that he and I did, and not ask me for permission. I like to keep it to myself.
Yeah, yeah. That's kind of a good move. What do you look for in a guy?
Someone's who's honest, first of all. I don't like liars. Well, one guy cheated on me, and lied about that. Multiple times. A friend told me. And then the girl that he cheated on me with, I overheard her on the phone. He has to be funny. He has to want to do things and not sit home all day. He has to be smart. I don't want an idiot. One who's either been in school, or is in school, and has a job or will have a job. I don't want a loser. And preferably, lately, someone who's older than me.
Yeah, I like 'em a couple years older.
I used to date younger guys — bad idea.
Commentarium (37 Comments)
Best bunch of people you've had.
Hayley is SO AWESOME! I wish more people like this were interviewed on Hooksexup because I identify strongly with things she's talking about!
I love Hayley. She's so post-Hooksexup. Commenter PO, on the other hand, he
What a maroon, indeed. I'm not usually a grammar Nazi, PO, but that was a well-placed and hilarious typo. No, that person is not "really" a woman, but . . . so what? We are all delusional, just about different things. Sex is the place to unabashedly embrace them.
Re. the Hayley tranny thing: I think Hayley is suffering from a wee bit of "behalfism". Sure, we should speak up when someone is being mistreated, but she is only GUESSING that the tranny was uncomfortable. Maybe for her it was a turn on. I'd rather people fetishize and enjoy my body than awkwardly try to ignore it.
I especially love how not everyone here is stereotypically hot. At first glance, Maggie didn't look at all to me like the kind of girl who'd do it in a car behind a church, but she did, and way to go. Reading that makes the whole world look a little sexier.
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Hayley is an open-minded and sweet person.
Edwin is mighty fine and sexy. I'd tap that.
@EM as much as I'd like to credit fate, that was no typo. I just watch a lot of Bugs Bunny cartoons.
Haley is hot. I would like to hold her head down and pour syrupy liquids down her throat.
Haley is hot. I would like to hold her head down and pour syrupy liquids down her throat.
Damn, did anyone else get moist at the sight of Edwin!?!?
Damn, did anyone else get moist at the sight of Edwin!?!?
I think the art therapist has a few problems... I have been WASTED in my time... like very seriously obliterated... but never have I mistaken someone for someone else. I might have slept with people I shouldn't have, but I definitely know who they aren't.
I wonder what Haley will be doing for a living once the admissions committee reads her very open honest comments..
Sure did! But the link made between the firecrotch thing and his being fetishized was a false equivalence. I'm not complaining though; this is my favorite feature
On one hand, I can see why people would be questioning what's up with this guy Andrew...on the other, it's kind of refreshing to read about someone in the "Talking With Strangers" column who DOESN'T have some kind of over-the-top story or pornstar-ish lifestyle.
That, or everyone from the Midwest just doesn't get that much action. Kinda makes me want to move.
One can be totally supportive of transpeople, understand why a pre-op MTF would feel uncomfortable in that situation -- and still find Hayley's comment ("I don't think she calls that a cock, I don't think she identifies as having a cock") to be overly precious. I get what she means, I get why it turned her off, but her choice of words still creeps me out. It's too close to caricature, and sort of reminds me of furry rhetoric (which also creeps me out).
I agree with you about Maggie - especially because she talked about the experience when asked for one if her "favorite" hookup stories. Clearly it wasn't a favorite, and she even said it was a bad one that she was still "recovering" from. Maybe she needs to do some of her own art therapy or something, because although I've regretted sleeping with some people when extremely drunk (and sober), I've never woken up and mistaken them for someone else.
It looks that you have to be tattooed these days to get laid
How in the world can you have sex with somebody thinking that is someone else??? on top of that, she says that next morning it took her a while to realize her "mistake"...
Tara looks good, i can see myself pounding her hard... too bad She wouldn't fuck me because I have no tattoos and I open doors for women, (all women, not only my dates) I love to be a gentleman but in the other hand I spank the crap out my girls, pull their hair, talk dirty to them... but then again, Women like Tara wouldn't let me go that far
I don't find Hayley attractive at all, she is cool though!
Andrew thinks too much with his big head when it comes to women... his little head has to do the thinking.
Edwin comments on "has naybody offended you on the bedroom" : "Go ahead, rape me." I was was like, ooh, ay ay ay, I dont think I could do that. Or they fetishized me to the point of "Fuck me with your big black dick." ..... I can't understand how this could be offensive. when I am in this situation I just turn into a beast, a fucking machine.
@Joe - I think is right. I was like Andrew when I was his age, thought too much instead of going with the flow
"I don't think my penis can compete with my fist."
Gold.
I wish I had a best friend like Hayley.
Hi Edwin.
..." But guys, I like over six feet, over thirty, ability to grow a mustache but the restraint not to, and a lot of tattoos." BIG eye roll at that comment. who could actually say that with a straight face. She obviously thinks she's special because she dates guys and girls. I have a feeling she's probably gay but feels that she has to date guys so not to fully commit to being labeled as "gay". But alas she's only 24 and naive.
Why assume that she's gay? Dating men is no picnic, she'd only do it if she was attracted to them.
Hats off to all of these folks who are willing to share such personal stories with all of us armchair moniter-guarded voyeurs! The commenters who are insulting and judgmental are annoying and should leave their poison to themselves. Really folks, it's tedious and adolescent and only makes you seem pathetic.
PO proves to be an under-evolved individual. "...once I had a threesome with another girl and a male-to-female transperson, who was pre-op. So she hadn't had any surgical operations to make her more of a woman, and she still had a penis." Otherwise known as a pre-op lady.
That guy from Ohio needs to be honest with himself. 'Nuff said. The "guys holdin doors open" lady needs to get over herself, she's at her peak of freshness and it's all downhill from her. She's 23? How young were these younger guys she was dating? Still, she's open for business. Betty Page needs to stop messing about with trannies. A cock is a cock. Calling it a pussy doesn't make it a pussy. And vice versa. Maggie the art therapist clearly has promiscuity issues, and I would like to jack off for her like that patient did. "But he was sent to the hospital, so now he's okay" Yeah, right.
I enjoy reading these and I think these people are brave to show their faces and share these stories. They are candid and awesome and such a different way to see people compared to the polished and prepared views on people's personal profiles. There is no need for rude comments from the cowards in the peanut gallery.
Gosh!! I have no words for what people get into (pun intended!) I don't know if I am repulsed..I think I am..ewwww..
Haley is amazing. I can't say for sure if I'm butcher than her, but other than that I'm her type. I wish I could meet a girl like her. Ayn Rand = turn off. Haha. Yes.