Sandra, 33

How much about my last relationship should I tell my new partner?
They don't need to know how sexually active you were, or really personal things like that. But prior relationships dictate how your future relationships will go. If someone cheated on you, you're definitely affected by that, and that needs to be aired because it's going to affect how you act in the new relationship.

My ex has been blogging about our breakup, and I come off like a jerk. What should I do?
If you still have mutual friends, demand an apology. But if she's just telling strangers, it doesn't matter. Your friends know what the truth is.

How can I unlearn my ex's email passwords? I've already checked his email seven times.
Say to him, "Listen, I know your password. You should change it, because if you don't, I will stalk you."

I just went through my first serious breakup, and I feel fine. I'm worried about how unaffected I am. Am I dead inside?
You're in denial. You're going to come crashing down eventually. If you need to go through your manic I'm-totally-fine-and-I'm-going-out-to-buy-new-furniture phase, do it. You might not even come crashing down until your next relationship. Everyone has their own healing time.

I just got dumped and I'm depressed. What's the best remedy?
Random sex. You're breaking the physical attachment you have to your ex. Keep it anonymous, and never choose a friend. You've already had this break-up trauma, you don't need to complicate things by having sex with a friend only to find out he's been working up the courage for two years to hit on you.

What's the best way to get someone who's recently been dumped to come home with you?
When you first break up, you need a distraction. If someone were to say, "Hey, I'm a great distraction," I think that would be effective.

Yusuf, 27

My girlfriend is always asking me questions about my ex. How can I put the topic to rest?
If she's that insistent, stay on the topic, but be diplomatic about it. Find a way to talk about your ex without putting forth the negative aspects. Even if the new girlfriend is pushing for negative information, if you give it, she'll think you're the type of person who holds a grudge.

How much about my last relationship should I tell my new partner?
It's not necessary to tell them much. There's a certain degree of honesty that can kill a relationship before it even gets off the ground.

Should I wait for my new ex to change his Facebook relationship status before I change mine?
It's not a race, which a lot of people seem to mistake it for. It shouldn't be about who has the upper-hand. There's no reason to be racing to claim the title of who electronically moved on first.

How can I make sure my ex doesn't get all our mutual friends?
They shouldn't have to gravitate toward one ex or another. It's going to be uncomfortable for your friends if they have to choose, so let them know that they don't. At some point the two of you will have to be in each other's company again, and that calls for maturity from both parties.

I just went through my first serious breakup, and I feel fine. I'm worried about how unaffected I am. Am I dead inside?
Don't question it. If you're not in emotional agony, it means this person wasn't right for you. Some people dwell on relationships that never had any chance of going anywhere. If you can move on, that's something to be happy about.

I still think about my ex sometimes when I'm having sex with my new guy. Is that okay?
It's possible you just don't understand your new guy very well yet, and the only way to measure the experience is to think of him in reference to your ex. When you start to know him more, you may build an affection that's just about him.

I was just dumped and I'm depressed. What's the best remedy?
I wrote a lot of poetry. It can become extremely whiny, but it's therapeutic. I also bought a guitar. And video games helped a lot — you might prefer to rent bad movies.