61 Frames Per Second by John Constantine Today in Hooksexup's videogame blog: EA's horror opus Dead Space reviewed. Plus, we say goodbye to our fearless leader.
The Remote Island by Bryan Christian Our morning roundup gets all pottymouthed with Baltimore's finest fictional state senator! Plus: Fringe, Lisa Ling freaks us out and Ringo Starr breaks Marge Simpson's heart.
Dating Confessions by You "I asked my therapist why you haven't been in touch. He said I should try doing more than hitting the refresh button on my e-mail."
Scanner by Emily Farris Today on Hooksexup's culture blog: Are "fauxmosexuals" like Katy Perry ruining it for everyone else?
Q: Do all women have a G-spot?
A: Yes. Q: Do all women like having their G-spot stimulated ?
A: No. Q: Can women ejaculate?
A: Yes. Q: Is it pee?
A: No. Q: Is female ejaculation a result of G-spot stimulation?
A: Usually. Q: Can I teach myself (or my partner) to female ejaculate?
A: Maybe. Q: Why do cats lick their pussies?
A: Because they can!
promotion
If only it were that simple. Don't get us wrong — these answers are all right on, but each invariably leads to a hundred more questions. (You're so demanding.)
Before we attempt to answer them all, let's get one thing straight: By "G-spot," we don't mean a magic button that's guaranteed to transport all women everywhere to orgasmic bliss every time it's pressed; nor do we mean your girlfriend's own personal sweet spot (whether it's in her vagina or her armpit). No, the G-spot is a particularly sensitive area that's stimulated by applying pressure to roof of the vagina — and provoking it may or may not lead to orgasm and/or female ejaculation. Like almost everything about sex, it depends.
The G-spot has been embraced and shunned by the public more times than Mike Tyson. And then there are those people who could give a shit about either. The debate (or lack thereof) stems from the dearth of serious medical research on the subject. Oh yeah, and from sexism, too — a lot of people think ejaculating is unladylike. The G-spot and female ejaculation are the misunderstood goth teens of the sex world.
But not understanding them completely doesn't mean you can't enjoy them. In fact, we kind of like the idea that we still don't know everything about sex. It gives us something to look forward to.
It Ain't Easy Being G
We have the '80s to thank for shoulder pads, Wham!, and the term "G-spot." Before then, research on the area was pretty flimsy. In the '40s, prominent sex guru Alfred Kinsey found that most ladies who dug having their vadge tickled, dug it most on the vadge's top wall. But since Kinsey was all about the clitoral head, he didn't send out any press releases on the matter. The '50s gave us good old German gyno Ernst Gräfenberg, the first modern scientist to identify the erotic potential of the urethral sponge, as felt through the top wall of the vagina (see illustration on next page). But the world was only ready for one orgasmic revolution, and Kinsey's clit won out. It wasn't until the early '80s that a pair of sexologists, John Perry and Beverly Whipple, picked up where Gräfenberg left off, replicating his findings and finally giving this hot zone a name in honor of Ernst: The G-spot.
Where Do G-Spots Come From?
If you want to talk about the G-spot, we've got to talk about the urethra. Oooh, fun. The urethra is the slender tube which carries urine (tinkle) from your bladder to your urethral meatus or opening (peepee hole), which, if you're a chick, is usually between your clit and vaginal opening. The urethra runs just above the roof of your vaginal canal, kind of like a ceiling pipe, and is surrounded by erectile tissue called the urethral sponge, sort of like insulation. This sponge houses a number of "paraurethral" (meaning near the urethra) and "periurethral" (meaning around the urethra) glands and ducts which secrete and expel fluid (or female ejaculate) respectively. While the G-spot has never been anatomically mapped by medical professionals, it's popularly known as the part of the urethral sponge which may be felt through the ceiling of the vagina, approximately one-third to one-half of the way in — it's usually an oval area or ridge (sometimes called the "G-crest") about the size of a elongated dime or quarter. (However, some consider the G-spot to actually be the entire urethral sponge.) When you're aroused, the urethral sponge fills with blood and its glands fill with fluid, causing the area to swell and firm up — which is why many women (or their partners) are only able to locate the G-spot once they're, you know, good and ready.
The urethral sponge (G-spot if you're nasty) is also sometimes — controversially — called the "female prostate." Check it out: Fetuses, whatever sex they're destined to become, all start out female. It's not until the seventh or eighth week of gestation when the Y chromosome kicks in for the boys. The same embryonic tissue that eventually develops into the prostate gland in boys is what eventually becomes the para- and periurethral glands in girls. New research suggests that the female urethral sponge with these glands and ducts is not just leftover tissue, but is actually its own working organ with similar functionality (see female ejaculation below).
Getting Jiggy with Your G
Warning: Following the following tips will help you locate your G-spot, but it won't guarantee that you and the G will become BFFs (best friends forever!). For some women, the sensation is too intense, for others it's just plain annoying. Some ladies only enjoy it at certain times of the month, while others get bad flashbacks to urinary tract infections past. None of this means your plumbing's defective, nor does it mean you've got "issues."
Stimulating the G involves pressing on the urethra, so it's only natural that you'll feel like you have to take a tink. Thus, just like it's a good idea to stick your own finger up your tush as an introduction to anal play, so is it helpful to do a little self-service at the G-spot station before letting a partner at it. Because just like a finger up your tush gets you over the illusion that you have to poo, so too a finger on the G will get you over the illusion that you have to pee (assuming you've already gone to the bathroom before doing either).
It takes a bit of coordination to get to your own G, especially if you have short arms. The best positions include: On your back with your knees pulled up and a fluffy pillow under your butt; on your stomach; in a squat; or on your hands and knees. Once you've assumed a good position, insert one or two digits about two inches into your veegee, with the pads of your fingers pressing up against the vagina's front wall. It should feel kind of ridgey and rough, unlike the rest of the vaginal walls which are smooth. If you're having trouble spotting it, you might want to down a couple of glasses of water, get in the shower or on the pot, stick your fingers inside, aim in the general direction of the G, and then actually urinate - if you can feel the pee travelling through the urethra, you've hit the spot.
Still can't find it with your own digits? Use the force, Luke: Search for it by registering how the pressure feels inside you, and not what your fingertips are feeling. Nothing wrong with enlisting the help of friends, either. Like the Crystal Wand, a ten-inch, clear, acrylic, S-shaped and oddly photogenic dildo of sorts, specially designed to make a beeline for your G-spot (if you don't like it, you can always use it as provocative coffee table art). Or the G-spotter, a handy attachment to the classic "back massager," the Hitachi Magic Wand. (The Sex Toys chapter of The Big Bang has more suggestions for your toy box.) Your other friends, the ones with actual fingers, can also help with G-loving, probably more easily than you can.
Once you get to the G, however you get there, you're gonna need direct, consistent, fairly hearty pressure. Because you're feeling it through the vaginal wall, there's no need to tiptoe around the G-spot like you might the clit. Try pushing on it, massaging it, or pulling on it (a.k.a. the old "come hither" move) — and keep on keepin' on. As with all vaginal work, accessorize with lube and latex and trim your nails.
Sorry guys, but fingers and toys are more likely to hit the spot than a penis. (Ever see a penis say "come hither"? Didn't think so.) However, some intercourse positions are more G-friendly than others, like woman-on-top, or rear entry with the woman on her stomach or side. Sorry again guys, but cervix-pounding won't work —you'll miss the G completely. What you're going for is shallow penetration angled towards her navel, using your hand to guide the way. See? We told you size doesn't always matter. But then again, it does matter for those women who don't even notice their G-spot until they're really filled up. Like filled-up-with-a-fist filled up. (Check out the Fisting chapter of The Big Bang to find out how the hell to get your hand in there.)
, featuring curious yet marvelous infusions of cucumber and rose petal.
