Register Now!
Link To: Home
 
featured personal

search articles

Hooksexup blogs

  • scanner
    scanner
  • screengrab
    screengrab
  • modern materialist
    the modern
    materialist
  • 61 frames per second
    61 frames
    per second
  • the remote island
    the remote
    island
  • the daily siege
    daily siege
  • autumn
    autumn
  • brandonland
    brandonland
  • chase
    chase
  • rose & olive
    rose & olive
  • kid_play
    blog-a-log
Rose & Olive
Houston neighbors pull back the curtains and expose each other’s lives.
Scanner
Your daily cup of WTF?
The Hooksexup Insider
A peak of what's new and hot at Hooksexup.
The Modern Materialist
Almost everything you want.
The Daily Siege
An intimate and provocative look at Siege's life, work and loves.
The Hooksexup Blog-a-log
Autumn Sonnichsen
A fashionable L.A. photo editor exploring all manner of hyper-sexual girls down south.
ScreenGrab
The Hooksexup Film Blog
Chase
The creator of Supercult.com poses his pretty posse.
The Remote Island
Hooksexup's TV blog.
61 Frames Per Second
Smarter gaming.
ScreenGrab
The Hooksexup Film Blog
Brandonland
A California boy in L.A. capturing beach parties, sunsets and plenty of skin.

new this week
Screengrab by Various
The top "007" James Bond theme songs.
The Modern Materialist by Various
Almost everything you want. Today: Don't hold back in conversation.
61 Frames Per Second by John Constantine
Today in Hooksexup's videogame blog: EA's horror opus Dead Space reviewed. Plus, we say goodbye to our fearless leader.
The Remote Island by Bryan Christian
Our morning roundup gets all pottymouthed with Baltimore's finest fictional state senator! Plus: Fringe, Lisa Ling freaks us out and Ringo Starr breaks Marge Simpson's heart.
Miss Information by Erin Bradley
Help! I never learned how to date! /advice/
Dating Confessions by You
"I asked my therapist why you haven't been in touch. He said I should try doing more than hitting the refresh button on my e-mail."
Scanner by Emily Farris
Today on Hooksexup's culture blog: Are "fauxmosexuals" like Katy Perry ruining it for everyone else?
McNasty! by Steve Almond
John McCain's dirty little secret? He hates women.
 REGULARS
Jack's Naughty Bits
Introduction
Archive
In her famous 1970's poem, "The Moon is Always Female," Marge Piercy looks up into the night sky, then down into the culture around her, and asks a question I find difficult to answer:
The moon is always female and so
am I although often in this vale
of razorblades I have wished I could
put on and take off my sex like a dress
and why not? Do men always wear their sex
always?
I'm not sure, do we? Often, as a man, I fear that I do, and at those moments the desire comes to me to step out of my skin, to not be myself, to change my gender like just such a suit of clothes, swapping willy-nilly, one day or one hour to the next. I don't mean such a simple thing as wearing dresses, mind you, but of really knowing, Tiresias-like, what it is to have been both man and woman, to finally see out of the woman's eyes I spend so much time staring into.
     I feel similarly about sexual preference, and books provide the closest translation of the other's experience that we are likely to find. Reading Genet, I become very close to believing myself to be a gay man in prison, though at those same moments I couldn't be more aware of just how far I am from such a condition, turning his pages in the freedom of a New York summer. Reading Frank O'Hara also makes it easy to feel gay, to imagine visceral attraction to another man, to blur the well-set lines. After five or ten O'Hara poems, I've stopped caring about the plumbing on the bodies described, the length of the hair, the shape of the neck and wrists; I'm feeling; I'm there; I'm Frank O'Hara. Me.
     It is not always the purpose of poetry to communicate the self of the poet to the reader, but it was clearly O'Hara's objective, and he was almost always successful. His poems are pure autobiography, and O'Hara's was a variegated, full-lived, though short, life (he was killed in an auto accident in 1966 at the age of forty). Of the many O'Hara poems that help me enter his mind and see the man's body as an object of beauty and desire, the most successful is one of the many he titled simply "Poem." It is a delicate, lovely, subtle masterpiece, and you feel its full force when, even in these days of depilation, it convinces you of the sexiness of a bifurcating line of hair running down the middle of a man's body. I may not be able to switch, but I can, with O'Hara's help, feel.


****



"Poem" by Frank O'Hara

When I am feeling depressed and anxious sullen
all you have to do is take off your clothes
and all is wiped away revealing life's tenderness
that we are flesh and breathe and are near us
as you are really as you are I become as I
really am alive and knowing vaguely what is
and what is important to me above the intrusions
of incident and accidental relationships
which have nothing to do with my life

when I am in your presence I feel life is strong
and will defeat all its enemies and all of mine
and all of yours and yours in you and mine in me
sick logic and feeble reasoning are cured
by the perfect symmetry of your arms and legs
spread out making an eternal circle together
creating a golden pillar beside the Atlantic
the faint line of hair dividing your torso
gives my mind rest and emotions their release
into the infinite air where since once we are
together we always will be in this life come what may


last week next week


ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Jack Murnighan's stories appeared in the Best American Erotica editions of 1999, 2000 and 2001. His weekly column for Hooksexup, Jack's Naughty Bits, was collected and released as two books. He was the editor-in-chief of Hooksexup from 1999 to 2001, before retiring to write full time and take seriously the quest for love.
Introduction ©2000 Jack Murnighan and hooksexup.com, Inc.
promotion


partner links
For a TITILLATING TIPPLE...
Life is simply too glorious not to experience the odd delights of , featuring curious yet marvelous infusions of cucumber and rose petal.
Design your bottle of 1800 Tequila and enter to win $10,000.
VIP Access
This click gets you to the city's hottest barbells.
The Position of The Day Video
Superdeluxe.com
Honesty. Integrity. Ads
The Onion
Cracked.com
Photos, Videos, and More
CollegeHumor.com
Belgian Nun Reprimanded for Dirty Dancing
Fark.com
AskMen.com Presents From The Bar To The Bedroom
Learn the 11 fundamental rules to approaching, scoring and satisfying any woman. Order now!
sponsored links
EDUN LIVE
Ethical tees. 10% off with code AFRICA


Advertisers, click here to get listed!


advertise on Hooksexup | affiliate program | home | photography | personal essays | fiction | dispatches | video | opinions | regulars | search | personals | horoscopes | retroHooksexup | HooksexupShop | about us |

account status
| login | join | TOS | help

©2008 hooksexup.com, Inc.