Dating Advice From . . . Gay Mexicans by Meghan Pleticha Q: My girlfriend laughs a lot during sex. What's her deal? A: Sex is like an Adam Sandler movie. Some people laugh and some people walk out of the theater and ask for their money back.
I met a guy in the elevator of my giant apartment building. We had a connection, but didn't exchange information. It's been two weeks and I can't get him out of my head. Should I let it go or try to find him? If so, how?
I'm very blunt, persistent and ambitious. I'd probably try to find him, even if it meant stalking every person that came in and out of the building or parking garage. Also, doesn't Craigslist still have a "Missed Connections" section?
I'm kind of into this guy who has a girlfriend. Every time I go to one of his poetry readings, there's some pretty blatant stuff about a girl he's so attracted to but can't have. How can I ask if this is me?
First of all, I know it's me. What straight guy you know does poetry readings? I'm very blunt, so I'd just go up to him and say, "You know what, let's cut the bullshit. Just drop your pants already."
My significant other is really charismatic and flirty, and it makes me uncomfortable. How should I deal?
I don't get mad, I get even. I say give him a taste of his own medicine.
What does it mean when a guy doesn't kiss you during a hookup that consists of pretty much everything else?
If he's not kissing you, it means the emotional attraction is not there on his part. Sorry to ruin it for you, but I don't see any connection other than sexual for you and this guy. From my experience, you're probably dealing with a straight or married guy.
Juan, 23
I met a guy in the elevator of my giant apartment building. We had a connection, but didn't exchange information. It's been two weeks and I can't get him out of my head. Should I let it go or try to find him? If so, how?
Honestly, I would probably just let it go. I don't think you want to stalk anyone. For all you know, he was just delivering some crack and he doesn't even live there.
I'm into this guy who has a girlfriend. Every time I go to one of his poetry readings, there's some pretty blatant stuff about a girl he's so attracted to but can't have. How can I ask if this is me?
Ask him what the inspiration for the poem was. You don't specifically need to ask if it was you — this way he can blab about his inspiration as much as he wants. You can always say, "Who is it? Maybe I could help you out, and give you some advice."
What does it mean when a guy doesn't kiss you during a hookup that consists of pretty much everything else?
That he just wants sex. He doesn't want to be face-to-face with you. He's putting himself in a place where he doesn't have to acknowledge it's another human being he's having sex with.
The idea of using a strap-on on my boyfriend really turns me on, but I'm not sure he'd be into it. What can I do to convince him to try it?
Start with a finger. Most guys, even some gay guys, aren't comfortable in that vicinity, so I would start with something that's not so intrusive. Explain that it will feel really good because it will stimulate his prostate. Tell him he can have an orgasm without even touching his penis. Occasionally I cuddle with my male friends, and my boyfriend really doesn't like it. It's not a sexual thing for me, but is he right that there's no such thing as platonic cuddling?
I want to say you can — but I've never cuddled as just friends. So I'm going to say no. I've never found a couple of friends that wouldn't end up fucking eventually, if they cuddled platonically.
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My significant other is really charismatic and flirty, and it makes me uncomfortable. How should I deal?
