EXPERIMENT: To gallop in on a white stallion, sweep my be-taffeta-ed beloved off her pygmy feet, and ride us off into an eco-sustainable sunset: in other words, to fall in love and get married — with eHarmony!
HYPOTHESIS:State your hypothesis in the form of a prediction that can be verified by the results of the experiment.
As Hooksexup's new lab rat, I thought I'd go for it all: trade in this dissipated New York sex-mag lifestyle for the American dream: the doting wife, picket fence, and 2.4 screamers. eHarmony will bring me love, permanent love. Just watch: I will take their compatibility profile, be matched with the right woman or women, go on the requisite three dates before meeting the parents, and the rest will be smooth sailing. Nuptials by November!
MATERIALS:Please list all the materials required for this experiment (including, if applicable, how they were obtained).
• One evening and half a bottle of Maker's consumed in filling out eHarmony's 693-page questionnaire
• The perfect woman, picked from the millions for me by eHarmony's infallible algorithms
• Thoroughbred stallion
METHOD:Describe, step by step, what you did in your experiment.
I'm barely kidding about the questionnaire (you can read mine here): printed out in single-space, it's eleven pages long. Filling it in online, I quickly lost count of how many screens I had clicked through, though after what felt like a half hour, there was a helpful little note at the bottom, "You're eight percent done!" I thought, Great, I guess I won't let my blood just yet.
The thoroughness of eHarmony's inquisition (with probing questions like "How often in the past month have you felt plotted against?") is what separates them from all the other dating sites online. Working from the idea that while opposites might attract, they're less likely to endure, eHarmony tries to pair you with your virtual twin in all the things they think matter ("the key dimensions of personality," they say — but, other than "autonomy" and "kindness," they don't specify). I have to hand it to them; there's a lot more research and science behind their process than you see in the competition, and, like reading that your shampoo has some jungle plant in it you've never heard of, their approach brings forth all our knee-jerk trust in men in lab jackets. And it might just be working; they cite a study saying that "an average of 236 eHarmony members marry every day in the United States as a result of being matched on the site." I could be next!
Overall the whole process feels like taking a Myers-Briggs personality test (remember, the old thinking/feeling, judging/perceiving one?) geared especially for dating and mating. On Match.com, I remember pretty much just needing to be able to spell my own name (difficult for many of their members), but eHarmony wanted to know how stylish I think I am (moderately), how moral (highly, darling, I assure you), and how submissive (uh'). They asked a lot about religion and even "church involvement." What if you go to a mosque or synagogue or Satan's grotto? Do those count?
On a happier note, they asked me if "I waste my time" — can you imagine trying to date someone who said they never did? They gave me a list of adjectives, many of which seemed synonymous (am I more caring, affectionate or warm? More intelligent or thoughtful?) and then asked me to pick. I would have gone with obnoxious and megalomaniacal, but those weren't on there. Some of the questions seemed a little odd: do I enjoy a good joke? Well, it is a good joke. Who would answer no? Pol Pot?
Then there was a series of questions about monogamy that made me a little uncomfortable, though I do think I'm capable of it. They asked about a lot of skill sets, and clearly I have a rather high opinion of my abilities, barring my chances of fixing the family car. At the end, they asked how far I'd go for love; I live in Manhattan, so I said thirty miles. That was the minimum; the reality is probably about fifteen blocks. Drunk as a stepdad and all my inner workings laid bare, I pressed enter. Love loomed on the horizon.
While this was an interesting look into eHarmony, it didn't have the spice and flare of the ol' "I Did It For Science" articles. It seemed more like a simple article about eHarmony. For anyone who's ever wiki'ed the site out of curiosity or anyone with any experience with it first-hand know every piece of eHarmony trivia dispensed.
Where's the Fleshlight? The Aneros? The Tantric Sex? These were legitimately interesting things that the average loser would never try without someone giving them a kick in the ass...eHarmony or an equivilant is something nearly anyone with the internet has tried. Now if he had actually gone on a date...
I'm expecting more from the next one because he really did have a great sense of humor and it was definitely well written! I can't wait!
too wordy, quite cliche, and not very amusing. e-harmony's biases are old, old news. why dontcha come up with something new and exciting to go along with your new site design?!
I can echo your experience. Before I found the Hooksexup personals I tried eharmony - total waste of time for an urban, agnostic, intellectual. They kept trying to match me with devout Christians from NJ. Guys whose "five things I can't live without" included "Jesus" and "God" as two separate items. My conclusion was that EHarm isn't designed with dense urban populations in mind. The thiry mile radius alone is a deal breaker. Like I'm going to start dating someone in deep NJ, from Brooklyn! And with all the questions about my religion, not a single one about my politics? Not for city folk...
This was a surprisingly disappointing first-after-a-long-hiatus 'I Did It For Science'. It kind of went nowhere unfortunately: no risk and then no payoff. I don't think it's the writer's fault, he sounds fine, it was just a half-assed idea.
haha i did this as an experiment a week ago
was way frustrated when it came up with no matches
then a day later, my inbox was filled with all these new matches and photo nudges and requests for initiation of conversation
so i deleted my account.
i'm pretty sure you have to pay money in order to see the photos of your matches, too. so the best you can get is their answers to the questions, name, age, and city of dwelling.
I used eharmony for about 6 months in Atlanta and found some of the freakiest broads I've ever encountered. I don't usually go for buttplay on the fourth date -- that's date #5 -- but, hey, when in eharmonyland ...
Nice to know it's roughly 1 in 5 that is unable to be matched by the system. I also was "rejected" several years ago- I tried it due frustration in finding anyone compatible/suitable (I hear you sb-no short, fat bikers, PLEASE) with me on other sites. It's true what they say, "The more you have to offer someone, the harder it is to find a good/happy match". I eventually settled into a relationship with a young man last year I met at a local hot spot. We are opposites in MANY ways, but, he certainly beats the men I was meeting online!!
It's pretty old news that eHarmony is a Christian-oriented dating site and that they don't condone same-sex relationships. At the least it's conservative. So if you're not any of those things, why would you expect to match up with anyone on there.
Ha - fun, despite - indeed - the tame nature of this attempt at "I did it for Science." I tried eHarmony. Now mind you, I've been divorced (twice) and have two kids. My match - a 40-something VIRGIN. No kidding.
At some point I told my e-Match, "Listen, I am NOT the man for breaking you into the whole world of sex."
Not that my viginal would-be-spouse was actually wanting sex.
eHarmony, from my experience, is a fraud.
I laugh out loud whenever their ads come on the telly.
Tried eharmony with much trepidation. Urban midwestern liberal. Selected "spiritual but not religious" and requested to be matched with no christians. Met a great guy who I never would have met otherwise, who was just one neighborhood over. We have the same political beliefs. He is agnostic and I am spiritual but it works. We are currently househunting. I was also matched with a lot of people I have nothing in common with, but overall, this seems to have really worked for me, and the people seemed a lot more serious and sane and literate than on Match.
I tried EH and have never met so many people who I'm NOT compatible with. So mister, go on your dates and share with us your humorous stories...
wanna hear mine to get some ideas?
#1. separated, not really interested in dating.
#2 took me to a secluded place and tried to make out with me when I fell asleep in the car.
#3 emailed for over a month and never really wanted to meet.
#4 dork, gave me the "So you have a dog in place of a husband" yuck yuck".
#5 really wanted to meet me then closed his account right before we planned on getting together.
#6 manic depressive. lets me for coffee "GREAT he said" when I met him..."I HATE coffee".
should I continue?
I laugh and remain hopeful...
so let's hear your funny stories!
THAT is the new "I Did it for Science?" I miss Hooksexup. There are a thousand (Free) generic pop culture sites we can read, there was only one Hooksexup. Niche Marketing, guys, look it up.
yawn....BOR-ing! i could have written this article in my sleep, for any old other site. what on earth is happening at Hooksexup? it's a good thing i'm not paying for "premium". i may as well buy a subscription to cosmopolitan.
I have tried e-harmony twice over the years. No luck finding anyone within 50 miles and they few i did actually date clearly had drinking problems. No Harmony here
KL, I too have met a few people on eharm who seemingly wanted to email forever and not meet, or met me, acted a little over-the-top enthusiastic about me, and then flaked out on the second date. I think there are a lot of shy people on eharmony. I'm kind of shy myself so I'm cool with it, but several of them are to the point where they actually seem afraid of meeting someone. And I have met several people from there who I didn't click with, but overall they were all nice, intelligent guys.
I tried eHarmony when they irst came out and got the same response..no matches at this time...and then they found some...all men in their 70s!!! I've gotten many more matches since then, but all are very ordinary, or in AA or no pictures or just plain ugly. the problem with the site is that they will not give you pictures of your matches unless you pay them. the quality of men on the site has proven to be not worth the money...no matter how old they are. I'm glad I am not easily matched...I know I'm not the "usual" woman, but then I'm not looking for the :usual" guy either...
eH is run by Christian fundamentalists (I am the former, not the latter) who are well-funded and believe the world is best populated by like minded people. That is their bias. I got rejected too.
Remember when Grant got the massage with the happy ending? Or when he got himself vacuum wrapped in latex? How about when Jen got paid to clean a guy's apartment wearing nothing but rubber gloves? Those were the days. Then again, maybe I'm the problem - I never paid for Hooksexup Premium and never clicked any of the ads back then, either.
I thought this article was great - humorous, light, and REAL. It's something that another "rare bird in the world" but otherwise "normal" person like myself can relate to. As for eH, my friends here in NYC who didn't get "rejected" like me never met anyone. It is what it says - for personalities that fit a category, and hopefully the match won't repulse you physically. That's their niche. Unfortunately, nothing in life that's worth having comes easy!
I think the absolutely most hilarious part of the article has nothing to do with the subject at hand- but the very real and jarring observation that fabulous women get rejected all the time- mostly by loser guys....ah....how many I know! how about a little dating etiquette/HUMANITY!!! in this dating man's paradise!!
JH, don't let the critics get you down. This was a fine piece. As for the substance: I'm starting to get depressed that I *wasn't* rejected by eHarmony -- it's really a badge of honor. I can tell you they do take agnostics (me) and Jews (an ex). But I did hear (yes, unsubstantiated rumor) that the system doesn't work well for people with IQs over 120. My own experience was that in the three months I was a member, I met exactly one woman, and that was a mercy date I went out on with an Indian doctor who lived with her parents and was afraid that all male internet daters were serial rapist-killers. I hated the dating-with-training-wheels approach, and despite the fact that having a family was a principal goal of mine, the kept sending me profiles of women in their mid-40s. It's really a site designed to allow the mediocre to meet and mate.
I tried eHarmony for over a year and had no success. I got plenty of matches, but most of them never replied - not even the courtesy of a "not interested". Of the few that did respond, I only got to the point of actually meeting one woman. We went out for about a month and then she just quit returning calls. She finally broke it off by email. In short, I found eHarmony to be a major waste of time. And now, over a year after closing my account and telling eHarmony why, they still send me offers to reinstate!
as an atheist and recovering BPD, i too of course got rejected. if i knew they actually reject people based on those criteria, i wouldn't have spent 3 hours filling out that questionnaire. they really should have warned people before they take that stupid thing. it didn't cost anything to take the questionnaire but my time is very valuable and i felt so cheated i was contemplating filing a class action suit for the lack of prior warning. anyways, after that i posted on craigslist w4m looking for fellow eharmony rejects. the subsequent dates i got out of that post were expectedly not as interesting as those i got when i posted on casual encounters for drug dates.
Yep, to echo some of the comments here, the vast majority (90%) of people I know who actually got through the long-ass questionaire got told that matches couldn't be found for them. All young, mix of male and female, urban and suburban, body types, jobs, etc. The one consistent thing that all are not religious or atheist. So the sixth factor: be up with the big JC or GTFOH.
I went on eHarmony for a free communication weekend for kicks, clicked on my very first match that they sent me, went through the "communication" phase then met him at a bar with a couple friends. We have been dating for 2 years...Personally being a 23 year old college student I didn't expect to find anyone interesting on a dating website, but I DID: A 26 year old general contractor who owns his own business and home, who is very funny AND attractive... After reading all of these comments, I'd say I got pretty damn lucky!
Great feature, looking forward to more. Ignore all the folks that don't appreciate good writing and think it's only interesting if you shove something up your ass.
EH blows. I sifted through my matches of men listing one of their MUST HAVES to include SEX and asked EH why this was permitted on their religion based site considering premarital sex is a NO NO in christianity. Plus - it's just gross to list this instead of something more interesting.
One in five people get rejected by eharmony. And look at the religious make up of america. one in five people are atheist/agnostic/non-religious. Coincidence? Not really. eHarmony is a christian dating site. I filled out the profile twice. I got rejected the first time, and the second time, I changed my answer to only about five questions. The questions asking my religion (i went from atheist to christian) as well as stating a preference for a christian, and a couple questions about spending time at church. The other bajillion questions were answered the same. The second time through, i got in. It promptly tried to match me with a bunch of people who stated their hobbies as "love of god" and "going to church" and I promptly got the hell out of dodge.
I'm one of the unmatchables. Rejection never felt so good! Do you wish people would notice you are funny as hell? My best friend shared her trial subscription with me and there seem to be some very nice men looking for love and companionship. If nothing else, the matching sites provide connection on some level and distraction. Had no idea about eHarmony's Christian-base and appreciate the info. Thanks for your good work!
Im very interessted to know who owns the site really..! and who knows/ owns everybodys personality profile, Is there any data protection in place or can other organisations buy your personality profile from E harmoney?! would love to know? won t do it till I do!!
I am grateful to have found this site as I laughed my ass off when I got rejected by EH and laughed at the author's story as well. At least now I know that I really did 'blow up the system' as Gian Gonzaga said...
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