Is there a reason you don't use the label "bisexual"? Yes, the girls who make out with each other IN ORDER to titillate guys have given the term unpleasant associations, but...?

Interesting insight. Terrible grammar. Does Hooksexup still employ editors?

Yeah, what's with the grammar?

The last two comments just make me think about Sloan-Underwhelmed, lol. that said, this definitley feels like a snippet from a bigger storybook

I had a very similar experience in my mid-twenties. Except, I made the decision to start identifying as bisexual, and I went back to dating women exlusively because I did not like the newfound "normal" feeling at all. The way my relationships fit in to society at large was a huge deal. I came out when I was fourteen, and all of the work I did for queer rights really mattered to me. I didn't mind being misinterpreted as a full-fledged dyke when I was with a woman, but I hated being misinterpreted as straight when I was with a man.

Nice piece. s.m. and WW, if you think the grammar was terrible in this story, you should go teach in public education -- secondary or collegiate. Put that snarkiness to some use, for it only makes you look jealous and thoughtless in this venue.

Interesting piece, and I did enjoy it. So thank you. But I do take issue with one line in particular... "She discovered she liked power, control and inflicting pain — so much so that years later she became a he." Enjoying inflicting pain is not a requirement for being a man, or a disqualifier for being a women. There are doms and sub, sadists and masochists of both sexes. Your prejudices may be showing a little here.

Yes, PG: "She discovered she liked power, control and inflicting pain — so much so that years later she became a he." What the fuck is that about?

Won't it be great when we learn to stop assuming anything about eachother's sexuality just because of who they are with?

Thanks, PG, for bringing up a good point. I appreciate it. It should be stated that not all FTMs have switched because of BDSM tendencies. I was being casual on a topic that is very complex. However, in my ex's case, she did want to become a man for the power and control. The more we explored feminism together, the more she didn't want to fight against white, male, corporate oppression - she wanted to become it.

Thanks, PG, for bringing up a good point. I appreciate it. It should be stated that not all FTMs have switched because of BDSM tendencies. I was being casual on a topic that is very complex. However, in my ex's case, she did want to become a man for the power and control. The more we explored feminism together, the more she didn't want to fight against white, male, corporate oppression - she wanted to become it.

I am a professional editor and writer, and the grammar didn't bother me in this. It's first-person, colloquial, and friendly. I feel that a good editor allows the author's voice to shine rather than imposing strict Chicago Manual style. Was just listening to a delightful, towering rant from Stephen Fry about this point . . .losing the forest for the grammatical tress and all that.

I appreciated the honesty more than anything. Bravo, MM.

Cool read. Thank you for sharing!

Nice, insightful work. I like how she explored the tendency of onlookers to form quick judgements depending on who she was with.

I agree with mpb. It's a much more interesting read when a bit of the author's personality is revealed through the writing. Excellent piece - I'd love to see more.

That's the funny thing about the label bisexual, we are still so diverse even inside that, some of us lean towards boys and others towards girls. It really is more of a spectrum than categories

More of this girl! Great story.

haha - CC is right. anyone who follows mia's work knows she is far from straight, but its an amusing title. and being a follower of mia's, it's indeed very cool to discover more background behind her sexuality and get her stories in a new format. brava, MM! always looking foward to more of your work!

I enjoyed reading this. I am openly bisexual and I can totally relate to much of what she's written here. Although, I don't have a hard time switching back and forth - I like men and women equally - but the people in my life sometimes have a tough time with it. It can be frustrating when your friends think you should 'just choose one or the other already.' I like that I don't have to limit myself. I like people.

I know it's stupid but I still tend to think 'bisexual' refers to somebody who's horny enough to go either way, all the time. And what's wrong with that? By now it should be as much of a snooze as voting 'independent'. And I'm unapologetically straight.

As a woman who finds herself sexually attracted to men and women, though I do lend towards men for the power plays, I loved this article. I think sexuality, when done right, doesn't neatly conform. I find myself deeply desiring to kiss some women, feel their sex, and make power with them, but I also find my body responding to men. I'm not ashamed of it. I love how once we decide to be unconventional, it becomes a restraint in itself, a new box of which we feel trapped. I refuse to be trapped.

As a man who started off dating women and then gradually transitioned into dating men (and eventually committing to a particular man) it was interesting to see you chart the journey from the other side. I still find myself attracted to both sexes, but I wanted a partner, and at some point it became clear that if I had to go one way or the other, it was going to be a man.

very enlightening article. I am a straight woman, so it turned me on the way you spoke of turning on Nate but I was also intrigued by your description of having sex with a woman. Interesting perspective!

seems like you are high-fiving the christian right who claim that people aren't born gay and can change..maybe you are the exception

Yet another hasbian...snooze.

Maybe you want to read my article from 5 years ago...or, maybe you already did... https://www.jessicaraepatton.com/shame.html

Coming out "straight"? Why, when you are interested in men and women? A bisexual person isn't straight when she's dating a man and lesbian when she's dating a woman. Or "normal" when she's dating a man and "abnormal" when she's dating a woman. Stuff like this article plays exactly to negative stereotypes about bisexuals: that they can be "turned straight", basically. Articles like this make it harder for other bisexuals to live their lives normally and have our identities accepted by both straight and queer people.

I liked it! Go Martina.... Ignore the snarky grammar comments. Just wannabes...

For the record, I did not come at as straight. The title of my story was changed from "Coming Out" to "Coming Out Straight." I like to leave things open ended, I guess Hooksexup likes to keep things in tidy boxes.

For the record, I did not come at as straight. The title of my story was changed from "Coming Out" to "Coming Out Straight." I like to leave things open ended, I guess Hooksexup likes to keep things in tidy boxes.

bestiality is still open

For the record, I did not come at as straight. The title of my story was changed from "Coming Out" to "Coming Out Straight." I like to leave things open ended, I guess Hooksexup likes to keep things in tidy boxes.

For the record, I did not come at as straight. The title of my story was changed from "Coming Out" to "Coming Out Straight." I like to leave things open ended, I guess Hooksexup likes to keep things in tidy boxes.

"I had lost my lesbian card. It was time to come out again". You said it yourself MM, so the title.. not very relevant

CA - She said, as you quoted "I had lost my lesbian card. It was time to come out again" - that is open to many interpretations: coming out as a bisexual, coming out as a lesbian who now sleeps with a man, etc. The story ends, as with many people's sexuality, in an open-ended, not-so-easily defined way. But the title, or the re-edited title, isn't so open to interpretation.

Interesting article. I was with a woman who discovered around the time I was dating that she was bi. I had no problem with her being attracted to women (I actually could relate to her liking women, since I like women too), but I did expect her to be monogamous - or at least that if she wasn't going to be monogamous, then I should be free not to be either. At the same time, I always wondered what it must be like for her, to enjoy two different body types, and this article communicated some of that to me. To me, wanting to be with my own sex feels like being hungry for a vegetable that I don't like. I don't have problems if other people want it, but to me it just doesn't appeal or taste good.

Great article. Very amusing.

I started out as lesbian - went on to do the man thing but it seemed to be the 'norm' - I felt I was cheating me - back to being lesbian (and I don't do the male hate thing or rally on gay pride marches - I just want to feel loved and to offer love and this is where I'm most comfortable. Your was an interesting story of -- finding yourself! Bravo

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