But sex between me and Nate became some of the best I've ever had. We would orgasm together most every time we had sex, and simultaneous orgasm hadn't been a regular occurrence with women. Lesbian sex was more of a trade show: your turn, then my turn, then your turn. Because women tend to be more multi-orgasmic than men, the tag team of pleasure with women could go on for many hours. But I'm more of a sex-for-half-an-hour, hour-on-the-weekends kind of girl, so I liked that Nate passed out after we both climaxed. It gave me time to tackle nagging chores or read a book. Beyond the sex, I felt glaring cultural differences in dating women and men. My lesbianism felt like a political act, even in a city as liberal as New York. It didn't matter if I was with another femme, or a butch, or an androgynous woman; we got stared at and sometimes even worse. I grew accustomed to, came to expect, and even sometimes enjoyed the sideways glances and mumblings. With an androgynous woman the looks were puzzlement: "Is she or isn't she? Are they?" When with a butch the looks were confusion: "Why not be with a man?" And with another femme the looks were desiring: "How can I get a piece of that?" I liked that the act of choosing a partner could stir up so much interest on the street and controversy in the papers. I thought I was forcing people to be more open-minded just by going out for a meal with my girlfriend.
After two years of hanging out and fucking, Nate and I dated in earnest. During those first two years, I kept identifying as a lesbian — a lesbian dating men. But then, shortly after the two-year mark, I realized I no longer felt comfortable in my lesbian identity. Nate was no longer my sexual experiment, he was my boyfriend. Both partaking in heterosexual privilege and identifying as a lesbian at the same time didn't feel right to me. I had lost my lesbian card. It was time to come out again. "Hi, Mom and Dad. I have some news that might come as a bit of a shock..." n°
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