DEAR MARGO: I found a sexually explicit card and sex coupons from my husband's lover. He insists nothing went on and that it was just a fluke that he received such cards and coupons. If I can't get him to tell me what went on, is it OK to go after the "other woman" and get her to give me some details? I want to work through things to save my marriage, but I need to know what happened in order to do so.
The woman who wrote in to Dear Margo this week signs her letter "AT A LOSS FOR WORDS." We're unable to speak, as well... from laughing. Here's Margo's response:
DEAR AT: Forgive me, but I am unfamiliar with "sex coupons." My best guess is they are like the ones for the supermarket, only you redeem them for ... well, never mind.
The rest of her response is classy snark, but she fails to seize upon the insanity of the situation. This woman's husband is cheating on her-- clearly. We don't need a public confession, John Edwards-style, to come to the conclusion that he's no good. It's called "a gut feeling." Margo suggests therapy or "hasta la vista" but the problem is, he won't admit to the affair. There's no couples therapy in that situation-- it's either he confesses and you work it out (we're assuming you say "you're never to see or speak to this woman again") or you dump his ass at once. No exceptions.
Ladies-- don't ever give guys an out like "therapy" when he won't even admit that there's a problem beforehand. DTMFA, as another advice columnist would say...
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