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She's Just Not That Into You. Or Is She?

Posted by Emily Farris

Why is there not a book or movie called "She's Just Not That Into You?" Well, in addition to the fact that, according to society, women are crazy and pine for potential partners in a way that men apparently don't, it might not be so easy to discern whether a woman is into you or not. All the signs may be there when it comes to reading men, but until someone writes a book on it, there's no way to tell with women.

According to a new study, men are much more obvious when it comes to showing signs of attraction. So a woman might not show it if she's into you, but on the other hand, she may look interested when, in fact, she's not.

Skyler Place, a doctoral student at Indiana University who authored the study, picked 28 women and 26 men to observe speed dating videos to determine which men were attracted to which women and vice versa. In many cases, he said, a woman looked like she was being flirtatious, but wasn't really interested in the man she was flirting with.

"Overall, the men are easier to read on average," Place said. "The hardest-to-read women are harder to read than the hardest-to-read men."

We can honestly say, in our own experience, we know we have not helped matters.  And we are sorry.

[Forbes: Men, the Obvious Sex]

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Comments

Joe Volvo said:

For this simple reason that if such a book were written it would be immediately rendered irrelevant due to the fact that women are constantly changing the rules and men are not allowed to know what they are...ever.  It's a bit like the stimulus bill.  Or men can just make it easier on themselves by assuming that all women aren't into them.

February 15, 2009 10:41 PM

Apollo said:

I use Joe Volvo's approach. It leads to a much simpler life.

February 16, 2009 3:45 PM

ian_nairobi said:

Before I was married I used the opposite approach and just assumed all women WERE into me.  It led to a much more interesting life; sometimes you're wrong, of course, but sometimes you're right.

February 17, 2009 9:43 AM

About Emily Farris

Emily Farris writes about culture and food for numerous publications and websites you've probably never heard of, including her own blog eefers. Her first cookbook, "Casserole Crazy: Hot Stuff for Your Oven" was published in 2008. Emily recently escaped New York and now lives in a ridiculously large apartment in Kansas City, MO with her cat, but just one... so far.

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