Dr. Alex Benzer, who, despite our headline and his photographic resemblance to Adnan Ghalib*, is a respected, Harvard-educated doctor and probably knows more about dating than most of us. After all, he's actually dated a few people... and some kook thought, in this increasingly anti-book culture, to put out a couple of books by him-- for profit! If that's not endorsement enough of his ideas and you'll seek dating advice from some other genius, we're pretty sure Dr. Phil is still on the air, weekdays...
Benzer claims his recent book The Tao of Dating was specifically written for the most brilliant minds of our time, i.e. anyone regularly visits sites like Hooksexup and the Huffington Post, where his post appeared. In an epic story there, Doc Benzer heads a series of paragraphs with his bite-sized advice tidbits:
1. Smart people spent more time on achievements than on relationships when growing up.
Well, you could also say, "Dumb jocks spent more time on athletic achievements than on relationships when growing up." Anyway, moving on...
2. Smart people feel that they're entitled to love because of their achievements.
See "jocks" above.
3. You don't feel like a fully-realized sexual being, and therefore don't act like one.
4. You're exceptionally talented at getting in the way of your own romantic success.
That seems like a stretch for the sake of reinforcing a weak argument...
5. By virtue (or vice) of being smart, you eliminate most of the planet's inhabitants as a dating prospect
The intellectuals we know are just as terrible at recognizing terrible mates in advance of involving themselves with those prospects as the, um, non-intellectuals we know...
Benzer says you have three choices:
A) Loosen up
B) Do a very thorough search all over the planet and be prepared to move to Duesseldorf OR
C) Join a monastery.
...before recommending choice A for surviving dating in these dumbed-down times. What do you think of his proposals, which you can read in complete here.
*Dudes, we gotta stop this chin-landing-strip thing. Now.
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