Fernando [left], 27


What's the best way to pick up someone who’s tanning in the park?
I’m not one of those douchey guys to go up to a girl and says, “Hey what’s your name.” I say, maybe position yourself close to them, then make a slow approach. If you’re with your guy friends, tossing a ball around, pretend you accidentally threw the ball in her direction. You know, do things in a very subtle way.


Should I trust guys who hit on me when I go out tanning?
Yeah, unless they’re invasive. Any guy that takes a douchebag approach, maybe not. But if they’re slick about it, yeah.

This girl I’ve recently started sleeping with became really clingy. I just want to screw around – literally – but I don't want to hurt her feelings. Can we go from friends-with- benefits back to just friends?
Stop hooking up gradually. Ease your way out of it, but don’t be a dick about it. Like, for example, start making your text messages shorter than usual, only hang out once in awhile, and eventually she’ll get the hint. You don’t need to say, “We need to talk,” unless you’re boyfriend and girlfriend.

I had a one-night stand the other night and halfway through I realized I’d forgotten the girl’s name! What’s the best way to find this out without looking like a complete idiot?
I’ve actually been in this situation before. If you’re not interested in making things more than a one-night stand, then you can just leave it at that. If you want to see her again, put yourself in a situation where you’re with other friends, introduce your friends to her and try to catch her name that way.


I get bored after ten minutes of sex, and it doesn’t matter how attracted I am to the person I’m with, or how good they are. It’s just exhausting! Is there something wrong with me?
Yeah, I think there just might be, actually. Maybe you’re just not into sex with that person, but if you’re like that with everyone, then maybe you just don’t like sex that much.

My best friend’s mom is a total MILF. And she’s single too! My friend no longer lives at home and I'm over eighteen. Should I just go for it?
Well, the big question is: do you want to stay friends with him? If he’s an acquaintance or you don’t really like him that much, go for it, sure why not? But there’s no way you will stay friends with that person.


I’m really disappointed with the way my guy eats me out, but I’m afraid I’ll hurt his feelings if I say something. What’s a good way to approach the situation?
It’s always good to be straightforward and express yourself. Save it for when it’s actually happening; maybe just a couple pointers when he’s going down on you will make it a little easier. I think timing is everything. That and a sexy voice will do the job.