Susan, 60

Sleeping with someone young enough to be your grandchild: good idea or bad idea? Why?
What do you have in common with this person? How can you communicate? Bad idea. Also, very young men are inept in the lovemaking department. It takes years to learn pacing and control.

Who’s better in bed: younger men or older men?
Older men have no fear of premature ejaculation or "wilting" at an inopportune moment because they take Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, or some other ED medication. The lasting power is phenomenal. They can play seemingly forever before getting down to business. This gives them great confidence. Younger men are more focused on the orgasm. Older men want the complete experience.

My long-term boyfriend doesn’t seem interested in sex anymore. It might be because he works all the time. How can I rev things up in bed?
Sex toys and lingerie. At dinner slip him a note that says, "I'm not wearing panties." Greet him wearing Saran Wrap. Buy a leather bustier and black, fishnet, thigh-high stockings. Buy some warming lubricant and offer to demonstrate it.

My boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him in bed, but I don't know how. What should I say, exactly?
Tell him how what he's doing feels to you as he's doing it. Call him Superman, the man of steel. Talk about his physical attributes — how big he is, or how great his balls are.

What qualities should a women look for in a man? And vice-versa?
Character, kindness, sense of humor, intellect, consideration, and generosity. That holds true for both sexes.

What is a sure-fire dealbreaker in a relationship?
If a man is cheap, or his clothes look like an unmade bed, or if he neglects personal hygiene.

What is the best sex advice you have ever given your grandchild?
Wait. An unplanned pregnancy can ruin your life. It's not worth the momentary pleasure. If you can't wait, use a condom. Carry them in your purse if you have to, but never, ever have unprotected sex.