Dear Miss Information,
It's my biggest fantasy to watch my girl bang another man. She gets hot when we talk about it, especially in the bedroom, but she keeps saying she's too scared to try. How can I get her to cross over that imaginary (but very real) line? — Two Minus One |
Two Minus One,
Dude, CALL JOHNNY DEPP. Seriously. Who would refuse a threesome with that man? He's so universally hot even my grandma and my IKEA garbage can want to fuck him. Actually, that's a lie. I don't think Johnny Depp is that comely. The facial hair is a cross between Lovesexy-era Prince and a homosexual catfish. Yuck.
You say very little about why your girlfriend is scared. Have you asked her, or did you stop at no and move on? The next time the topic comes up, see if you can draw out a few more details. Preferably this won't be done while you're in the heat of the moment, in bed. It'll sound like wheedling. Do it sometime when there's less pressure. Possible reasons just off the top of my head are:
1) She's afraid you'll view her differently afterwards. Instead of a girl you watch Netflix with, she's become some kind of crazy sexpot.
2) She's worried she'll fall for the other guy. Even worse, you'll fall for the other guy.
3) She's seeing it as a one-time thing, but you're harassing her to do it all the time.
4) She tried to get into it, but it just felt awkward. She didn't want to do it but was afraid of letting you down and went ahead anyway.
Talk to her about best-case/worst-case scenarios, and keep in mind that you can approach this in steps. You don't have to go from zero to double penetration. You can have makeout parties, heavy-petting sessions, and so on. Hell, you guys might find you get everything you need and stop there. No need to go all the way.
Final word of advice: Let her take the lead picking the guy. Keep in mind that the world isn't teeming with people willing to do this. It may take some time. Meanwhile, see if you can get her to amp up the dirty talk or start exploring another fantasy. There's a chance this one will never happen.
I went on a date with a really great gentleman. We had dinner, which included a large bottle of wine. Since I'm not much of a drinker and I was pretty out of it, he suggested he drive me home and we spend the night at his house. Long story short, I ended up sleeping in his bed. Nothing happened, we just kissed. Since then, I've been distraught. I feel as if I've ruined the chances of a serious relationship, and made him see me as a floozy rather than the nice, mature woman I am. I'm newly divorced and not used to dating, but I want to get it right this time around. How can I have a serious relationship with someone I go home with the first night? — Regretting the Vino
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