The Recession is Turning Us All Into Gold Diggers
By Emily FarrisSeptember 2nd, 2009, 5:35 pmComments (2)
There was once a time when it was perfectly acceptable to care how much earning potential a man had when considering whether or not to date him. And with the economy the way it is, it seems like we're all—men and women alike—reverting to that way of thinking.
On "The Early Show" this morning, Matt Titus, author of "Why Hasn't He Called?," and Nicole Beland, Cosmo executive editor, did a little he-said/she-said on the topic of dating and money.
Their thoughts are, well, a bit antiquated if you ask us.
Is it wrong for women to be attracted to a man with money?
(Titus) HE SAID: Absolutely not, women have historically been attracted to men of money and power...
(Beland)SHE SAID: No it's not wrong. Maybe it doesn't sound so good if you talk about it exactly that way, but it's only natural. First of all, women are born with an instinct to be attracted to those who can provide for her and her offspring...
If you are dating a woman that makes more than you do, do you still pay for dates?
HE SAID: I can't that this is even a question!!!! Why should she get penalized because she is more financially successful than you!! of course you pay...MEN ALWAYS PAY! Chivalry lives and it thrives in relationships where the guy is a true gentleman and worth something.
SHE SAID: Due to the traditions of dating, men should probably pay for that all important first date. But if you want a relationship of equality, women should offer to pay...
How and when should you split the check on dates?
HE SAID: NEVER!!!!!!!!!! What is this world coming to...
SHE SAID: Again, men should really pay on the first date, it's a societal tradition... [CBS]
But this, we had to agree with:
Are you more or less willing to go out with someone who has moved back in with their parents now that layoffs are becoming the norm?
HE SAID: Look I don't care how bad off you are financially as a guy but if you have to move in with your parents then you shouldn't be dating during that time...
If this all sounds okay to you, maybe you should check out this helpful article on "How to Be a Gold Digger."
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Commentarium (2 Comments)
I think he's right about not dating if your life is scrambled enough to have been forced to move back in with your parents. You should probably be focusing your energies elsewhere.
I agree with the HE SAID but I'm thinking it may be a generational thing. I'm in my late 30s and date men in their 40s and this is a non-issue. I'm thinking HE SAID is in his forties. My boyfriend has said, "If you don't let me pay for this, you might as well chop my balls off."