Kevin, 22
nakedabelincoln.wordpress.com
What's the best reason to date a karaoke singer?
We're not frightened of standing in front of strangers and making a fool of ourselves.
What's a good song to sing when you're trying to meet someone at karaoke?
However cliché this might seem, musical theater seems to be a real crowd-pleaser. If you lack talent, then you need to play up your good taste by looking for bands which are known well enough to be on karaoke but that few people really appreciate, so that you can open up doors with them. Oh, and don't over-drink, your singing will go downhill fast.
What karaoke songs are definite dealbreakers?
Any country or breakup songs. Period. Oh, and never sing anything long unless it's "Bohemian Rhapsody." People who break out with "American Pie" or "Hotel California" should be promptly shot.
What has karaoke taught you about dating?
Women love men who sing. You'll be the spontaneous-yet-sensitive man that every woman craves.
On a third date, I drank way too much. I've been too embarrassed to call and apologize, but I really liked this girl. It's two weeks later — is it too late? How can I fix the problem?
Just be direct and say you screwed up but that you really like her. Women love a man who apologizes. It's too rare.
I really hit it off with this girl after a few dates, but when I went back to her place it was like a teenager's apartment — messy and with a bed covered in stuffed animals. How can I work past it and keep seeing her?
Work it into a school-girl fantasy and never look back.
Cabell, 27
https://wickedqueen.net
What's the best reason to date a karaoke singer?
We know what we want, and we don't care what people think. We just go for it.
What's a good song to sing when you're trying to meet someone at karaoke?
I find that the opening of Fiona Apple's "Criminal" usually gets their attention ("I've been a bad, bad girl...") but personally I'm more about doing something really well than making it super-sexy, so I look for people who appreciate my signatures.
What karaoke songs are definite dealbreakers?
I just hate it when people think that intentionally sucking at karaoke is funny. It's not for everyone, but why would you get up there if you don't actually want to perform? It's like they're simultaneously refusing to open up at all and actively mocking people who do.
My partner is really shy about his body, to the point where he won't have sex during the day (something I love). How do I make him feel more comfortable when it's not dark?
Most men tend to respond well to enthusiastic, sincere compliments. Give him lots. You might also frame daytime sex as something that makes you really happy — because you are so into him and love his body and want to have lots and lots of sex with him — but don't let it deteriorate into "If you cared about me, you'd do it." Try easing him into it with some heavy makeouts in the morning.
A friend and I got drunk one night and hooked up. She already told me we should just try and forget it and stay friends, but I was hoping for something more. How can I convince her otherwise?
The popularity of mind games in the culture aside, if a woman tells you to forget it, there's a 99% chance that she really means it. If she didn't, she'd be vaguer. And do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who has to be convinced? Take her at her word, and look for someone who doesn't need to be cajoled into liking you.
My girlfriend took me out to meet some of her friends the other night, and it turns out I dated one of them briefly several years ago. Do I have to make it known?
If you don't, she will find out at some point anyway, and then she, like I, will wonder why the hell you're being so secretive. Unless you and the friend had an illicit lovechild or joyrode your way through the Southwest robbing banks or something, it's barely a footnote to your personal history, but it will seem weird if you pretend it never happened.
I haven't had sex in over a year, and I'm worried the next time I have a chance it will end too quickly. How can I make sure I still have my old stamina?
Being female, I really don't have this problem. I do read a lot of Savage Love, so I have this vague idea that lack of exposure to vaginal sex may actually make you last longer because you haven't been recently conditioned to associate it with orgasms. My advice is to tell your next partner that it's been a long time so that she can be understanding either way (personally, I'd rather a guy be quick off the trigger than take forever).
Buck, 21
What's a good song to sing when you're trying to meet someone at karaoke?
If you want to let anyone watching know that you're looking to meet someone, you can't do better than Jackson Browne's "Somebody's Baby." If you want something a little cooler, try "Wonderwall" by Oasis or, if you want someone who appreciates a good sense of humor, try "Business Time" by Flight of the Conchords.
What karaoke songs are definite deal breakers?
Stay away from songs that seem like cries for help. Karaoke is supposed to be an escape from the pressures of real-world drama and no one ever hooked up with anyone after a great rendition of Natalie Imbruglia's "Torn."
On a third date, I drank way too much. I've been too embarrassed to call and apologize, but I really liked this girl. It's two weeks later — is it too late? How can I fix the problem?
Call her once to see if she'd consider getting together again. If she doesn't seem interested, hang up and leave it at that. You had your chance, you blew it. Don't make the same mistake twice.
I haven't had sex in over a year, and I'm worried the next time I have a chance it will end too quickly. How can I make sure I still have my old stamina?
Practice on a watermelon! Geez, do I have to tell you people everything? Ugh!
I really hit it off with this girl after a few dates, but when I went back to her place it was like the apartment of a teenager — messy and with a bed covered in stuffed animals. How can I work past it and keep seeing her?
For the time being, go back to your place. Once the relationship is more established, talk to her about cleaning up her apartment. Offer to help and it can even be a fun activity for the two of you on a rainy day.
Casey, 22
What's a good song to sing when you're trying to meet someone at karaoke?
Something that shows off your skills and has a sense of humor — I'm partial to "David Duchovny" by Bree Sharp.
My girlfriend says she hates surprises, but I want to do something special for her birthday. How can I keep some element of spontaneity without making her mad?
Cook her a surprise romantic dinner. Then take her into the bedroom and treat her to a special kind of dessert that is all about her — no girl would be mad about that!
My partner is really shy about his body, to the point where he won't have sex during the day (something I love). How do I make him feel more comfortable when it's not dark?
Dress in your sexiest outfit and pounce on him in broad daily light. Then, with him pinned down to the bed/couch/floor — wherever — look him in the eyes and tell him he's sexy.
On a third date, I drank way too much. I've been too embarrassed to call and apologize, but I really liked this girl. It's two weeks later — is it too late? How can I fix the problem?
Open with a joke. Laugh off your stupidity. Then get serious and apologize for being drunk and waiting so long to call her. And avoid the booze on your fourth date.
I'm a TA, and one of the students in my class keeps flirting with me. At first it was a bit cute, but now it's getting to be too much. How do I get him to realize it's no longer funny?
Fail him on his next test. He's not going to think you're cute after that.
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Commentarium (2 Comments)
I bet karaoke singers fake orgasms just like they fake having talent.
sorry karaoke singers are absolutely not dateable.
Now you say something