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Female • 17 years old • Pennsylvania

I celebrated the end of my junior year of high school with my ultra-cool, apartment-renting, punk-rock-music-educating, twenty-one-year-old boyfriend dumping me. Later, I found out the reason — I didn't put out.

So when I ended up at a local punk-rock show he was also attending a scant few months later, I decided jealousy was the best weapon. Using my sweet-ass vintage Wonder Woman t-shirt and the kind of perky boobs only a girl of seventeen can possess, I zeroed my sights in on Dan, a bassist who spastically jumped and thrashed through his band's set of three-chord, throat-punishing songs. He was also shirtless, except for three pages torn from Hustler, adhered to him by his surprisingly sticky sweat.


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But what made him perfect, despite the fact he only topped a hundred pounds when holding his bass, was the fact that he was friends with my ex. I'll show you who's frigid.

I don't think Dan and I ever went on any outing you could actually classify as a date, but if we had, I approximate I gave it up on date three. We were in the cinderblock basement of his mom's house, in a room made tough with liberal use of duct tape, band stickers and the central placement of his bass. Of course, his mother and still-elementary-school-aged sister could easily be heard moving through the rooms above us.

After making out moved us from recliner to mattress, we conveyed to each other through a series of head movements and meaningful glances that tonight was the night — no more V-card. While he fumbled around looking for a condom, I pulled my jeans and panties down, but left on my tank top, half because I was still so shy about my body and half because the chilly basement temperature.

Then he was on top of me... and then I think he was inside of me? My virginity, the last of its kind in my circle of friends, had been lost in under thirty seconds. Still above me, Dan leaned back and whispered, "It gets better than this."

I stumbled to the bathroom to clean myself. I came back to find Dan lounging in the recliner, staring blankly at the TV. We spent the rest of the night watching a marathon of the dating show Change of Heart. It would take weeks — weeks curiously void of any other attempt at intercourse — for the irony of that entertainment choice to sink in. I've never tried to make a man who dumped me jealous by trying to fuck his friend again.

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16 Comments

that was sad. And you're still not over it

cf commented on 06/08

It's often sad or pathetic. And I see no sign she's not over it.

as commented on 06/08

Funny, and very relateable.

kc commented on 06/08

I had a similar experience.

kp commented on 06/08

I think she's over it - sounds like she accepted it for what it was (a lousy lay/revenge fuck) an dmoved on. hope it got better for, much better!

sd commented on 06/08

Here is the difference between having sex and getting fucked.

RG commented on 06/08

It's often sad or pathetic. And I see no sign she's not over it.

as commented on 06/08

I like the honesty. I did that once and immediately had regrets. Screwing guys in bands is always trouble, even as an act of rebellion.

PL commented on 06/09

You said it!

MJ commented on 06/09

Where am I? Is this Hooksexup? Or AOL back in the 90's. Fuck whatever machine is running this site now.

bb commented on 06/09

AW THAT SUCKS! LIVE N LEARN THATS ALL U CAN DO IN ANY SITUATION..

MS commented on 06/17

can't relate, except how it sounds like a bad teen movie. i waited, till 16, and i was in full teen high school "love". my first time, her first time. (she said) it was an amazing, fulfilling romanantic super sexy experience, back to back. am i the only one that had a great first time? and it got better after that. not all teen boys finish in a blink of an eye. so sad to hear of all of these sensitive willing optimistic girls having such terrible first times.

BIG commented on 06/18

I love "it gets better than this."

smd commented on 07/08

i cant relate at all. all these stories about guys coming in less than a minute. HAH! my first time lasted at least an hour.

tma commented on 08/11

I kept my shirt on the first... and second time too.

SB commented on 10/21

sounds like some people are full of themselves, can't imagine a guy's first time lasting too long, an Hour;HA is right! Unless of course he has had lots of practice stroking it himself???????

WCG commented on 01/04
 

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