Jake, 28

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What's the best way to pick up a film director?
It's like picking up anybody. Be charming.

What's the best reason for dating a director?
We're good at give and take. Plus, we usually know what we want, so there’s not a lot of wasted time.

What has being a director taught you about sex?
Be attentive and adventurous. Also, it never hurts to ask someone to do something. The worst that can happen is that they’ll say no.

My boyfriend has wanted to film us having sex for a while now. It makes me a little nervous — not so much about the tape getting seen, as about actually being filmed. How can I get more relaxed while the camera's on me?
Drink.

What's the greatest sex scene in any movie?
Cronenberg's Crash. The whole film.

When my girlfriend and I are having sex, I'm always afraid I'm going to do or say something that will kill the mood. This makes me really tense, and everything goes downhill. How can I relax and just enjoy myself?
Drink.

My boyfriend is bisexual and recently has been interested in bringing home another man. This violates my idea of monogamy, but I also worry that this is an itch I can't scratch, so to speak. Should I just go for it?
This is a hard one. If it’s a desire he really needs to fulfill, chances are he’s going to, one way or another. You need to talk with him to learn if this is something he has a deep need to explore or if it's just a whim. If it's important to him, and you know it’s something you're absolutely uncomfortable with, then this might not be the right relationship for you.

I was just dumped by my girlfriend and I'm looking for a way to cheer myself up. I know everyone says a rebound relationship is a bad idea, but honestly, right now it sounds great. Is it a terrible idea to jump into something new to cheer myself up?
Get a lover. Americans often treat dating as "try before you buy." Don't forget that the end result of dating doesn't necessarily have to be a long-term relationship. You can just have fun – and sex – with someone in a relaxed way. Europeans figured this out centuries ago. A lover is a good thing to have while your heart is mending from a big break-up. Just be honest and up-front with whomever you get involved with.

What's the best way to ask my boyfriend to use my vibrator in bed?
On him or on you? Or both? Either way, bring it out during foreplay and show him what you'd like to have done. People are usually more game to try things in the heat of the moment.

My boyfriend and I just graduated college and he's been asking me to move in with him. We just started dating a few months ago, but I need a place to live. I know conventional wisdom says wait, but I want to go for it. Is that a mistake?
When you have the choice between do and do not, always choose do.