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Viagra now being blamed for the collapse of marriages

By Brian Fairbanks on Jul 28th, 2010  |  Comments (8)

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Hot on the heels of a new study that claims ED drug users are more likely to get STDs comes an equally disconcerting report. Some marriage counselors claim that they've seen an uptick in divorces, and blame Pfizer's "miracle drug" for the failures.

Experts say the biggest problem is that men take the drug without talking with their partners, making them instant Don Juans—which their partner may not be prepared for. And sometimes, their improved self-esteem sends them looking for new, more willing partners.

A report published by the Harvard School of Medicine entitled "Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond" suggests the drug may help resolve relationship pressure caused by erectile dysfunction, but can cause other issues.

"When intercourse is suddenly a possibility again, relationship issues can emerge or resurface, as can dramatic differences in libido...." [KWGN]

The article recommends that guys bring their girlfriends/wives to the doctor for a frank discussion of what each person hopes to get out of the relationship. (Not the doctor, of course, unless you're into that sort of thing.)

Of course, all this talk about side effects could be a ploy by the Cialis folks to get you to switch... although we would think anyone who stopped using Viagra because of divorces probably wouldn't try another drug instead...

Via.

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Comments ( 8 )

Maybe it's monogamy that's the problem?
FriendofDorothy commented on Jul 28 10 at 1:31 pm
In male world all sex is intercourse. Even knowing that most of their female partners will not cum from intercourse alone, men with "erectile difficulties" (and most others) grasp for straws (Viagra, etc.) instead of oh, I don't know using their tongues and fingers. This item shows how little communication is normal between partners. How many males have asked their female partners what they want? Fairly few, I would imagine. All the Viagra etc. does is impress the guys in the locker room with our "big" dicks. Viagra etc. is male insecurity writ large (small?).
Joe commented on Jul 28 10 at 1:32 pm
"In the male world all sex is intercourse"? What does that even mean? Yeah, it really sucks that some women have to put up with sub par sexual partners, but they can also tell them to use their tongues and fingers. Communication should be going both ways. Women shouldn't wait for men to ask what they want--they should just tell them. Viagra improves ED, which is often a cause of embarrassment in men and leads to sub par sex for both men and women. Taking Viagra doesn't impress anybody unless someone's impressed that you need to take a pill to get it up. As far as I know, Viagra doesn't claim to increase penis size, just make it easier to get an erection. Fact: the vast majority of heterosexual couples enjoy sex more when an erect penis involved.
@Joe commented on Jul 28 10 at 1:40 pm
Viagra is total bullshit. It doesn't increase your sex drive at all. It just fills your dick up with blood. Not fun.
Reggie commented on Jul 28 10 at 2:03 pm
“Fact: the vast majority of heterosexual couples enjoy sex more when an erect penis involved.” Are you writing Viagra copy or just reading it and hoping real hard? Viagra and the others absolutely insist that penis size will be increased. The tv ads are slightly coyer, they just infer. But poll boys and men, they believe that they will get bigger peni. And that those will impress the other guys. Your vehemence suggests that “intercourse is all for you, too. If that works for you and partner(s), great. But the fact remains that most males believe “real sex” to be vaginal intercourse. This unfortunately dove tails with historical male refusal to take responsibility for birth control. Do females appreciate it when 1) their orgasm is “optional,” 2) that they will be held completely responsible when they become impregnated, 3) that fellatio is required, expected and cunnilingus is rare? In straight man world, cunnilingus is at best a token lick. There is no male lore about the importance of pleasing her with an almost guaranteed orgasm being passed down from father to son. Male porn rarely shows cunnilingus as a stand alone activity. If you do a search for cunnilingus, almost all of the results show two women. Again, the males rarely contribute more than a token lick as “foreplay” for the real thing, intercourse. Instead of pills, potions, pumps, etc. men need to take time, to take care of themselves, recognizing the drug, alcohol, energy drinks, stress, dietary and psychological causes of impotence and discover and practice a sexuality that is not predominantly based on reproduction, intercourse. De-emphasizing intercourse and removing the pressure to perform is an important first step to heal impotence.
Joe commented on Jul 28 10 at 3:06 pm
I don't think you understand what Viagra is for. I found no claims on the Viagra website that it increases penis size. It does not increase penis size or libido, and the makers of Viagra don't claim it does. Viagra is meant to help with ED, which can be caused by many medical conditions, including diabetes and depression. I agree with you that sex is more than just vaginal sex (or intercourse, as you call it), and it's important to have a sex life that involves oral sex (and any other sex act both parties like to do or are willing to try). But that doesn't mean that vaginal sex should be completely out of the picture. Your posts don't respond to the needs of the male in the situation. Of course women have gotten the shaft in sex (pun intended), and I suggest the cure to this is communication and equality where everyone gets what they wants. That means (in this incredibly oversimplified scenario) vaginal sex for guys and cunnilingus for girls. If a guy has ED, he might need Viagra to enjoy sex. Because I take my grandfather to doctors visits sometimes, I know that he cannot get an erection without Viagra because of his diabetes. The problems you describe with sexual culture in America stem from well before Viagra. Viagra itself is not a problem, although its commercials may be. Maybe the solution is that every man who gets an ED drug has to agree to give his wife cunnilingus. I guarantee you the solution is not to emphasize one sex over the other--equality and being, to borrow a Dan Savage term, GGG is the way to go.
@Joe commented on Jul 28 10 at 4:27 pm
I forgot to add one more thing: You urged men to "discover and practice a sexuality that is not predominantly based on reproduction, intercourse." The fact is, sex and reproduction are linked, and trying to completely separate them is a mistake. I don't mean this to say that only vaginal sex should be considered (after all, a man has to convince a woman to have sex with him, and studies show that a female orgasm helps fertilization), but the general attitude that having sex and having a child is unhealthy and can lead to some pretty big wake up calls for those in the 1 in 10,000 or so for whom birth control fails.
@Joe commented on Jul 28 10 at 4:45 pm
Duh. Just because a husband can now get it up from a pill doesn't mean a wife that is used to him not being able to get it up wants to be banged for 2 hours a day everyday or banged at all for that matter. At her age, maybe she doesn't want it all anymore! It's a drug for old men who employ prostitutes and for porn actors.
GJ commented on Jul 28 10 at 5:03 pm

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