" I was seventeen, it was New Year's Eve 1999...This was back in the day when kids obviously waited".

Don't want to bust your bubble, spjv, but I don't know ANYONE who feels that way. And that's coming from someone who is roughly your age and was living in the US at the time (Australia before that, the UK after that...so I get around). All I'm saying is, 1999 was not 1850, hon.

As for me, I was 15. My girlfriend of that year (eight months!) had just broken up with me and I was at a party for older kids. I got drunk and slept with a girl of 18 who was happy/drunk enough to look past my minor-ness.

Nothing memorable, except I panicked afterward that I might have gotten her pregnant...until she pointed out that I'd put on the condom she gave me.

Other than that, only happy, hazy memories of that first time...

I was 18, which is two years after the legal age here. Probably about four years after the national average though. It was with my on again/off again girlfriend who I loved, and still love - We're still doing the on/off thing.

It wasn't too weird, apart from maybe the fact that she wanted it more than I did while I was being all neurotic about not knowing what was going on with me and her. We'd spent a few nights together doing everything but, so it was pretty clear that we'd end up having sex soon. And the next night we did.

Surprisingly, after being worried about premature ejaculation, I lasted a good few hours.

hey bananas15, shut up. you don't speak for everyone. i waited a year and a half with my boyfriend before we tried it. no religious crap, no chastity rings. just didn't feel the pressure to do it unlike some people.

i was about 18. it hurt terribly, like i was being split in half. he never got in more than an inch or two. it wasn't anything too special. after it was over, the first thought i had was "and people make a big deal about this!!??" we tried again in a month-but still really painful. repeated it a few more times, and just gave up afterwards.

i had actual proper sex a month ago (21 now-and he got it all the way in) and it still hurts a bit, but the guy is much more experienced-but still no "hallelujah" but more fun than my attempt three years ago (and for bananas15, that was back in 2005, not 1850).

Oh, for fuck's sake, thanasianygirl. Use lube!

Come here, I'll show you.

ha. Asianygirl, try foreplay, it's a miracle cure.

spjv, chalk it up to too much red wine and not enough of a sense of humour at that time of night. I didn't mean to sound like such an arse.

Ah my story seems mostly boring now.

I was 17, it was in the first week i met a guy who i ended up spending 18 months with. I was on top "teasing" and thinking i was all that, til it slipped in an inch and i thought "well fuck it im not a virgin after that anyway". there had been much foreplay but it still hurt a little, took it slow and there was no blood.

there was a dash to the pharmacy for a morning after pill though. we were both virgins so atleast that was ALL i had to worry about.

fishnets - im impressed.

Hmmm....I was 18, and had been planning on checking virginity off of my list sometime during my first year of college, but I met someone the summer before I started. He was 24. It didn't hurt at all (I remember consciously thinking, wow, this doesn't hurt like I thought it would...). The only awkward thing was having to send him downstairs to get the condoms we had left in the car.  I think we had sex again the next morning. It was not "special" or "meaningful," but it was nice, and we did wind up falling in love, but that came later.

really, is that so? in the age of information, i never ever came across those tips. my google must be expired or something.

i think i'm more on fishnetsandlights route, albeit i only get to see my guy every few weeks as opposed to everyday. but it gets better, what can i say, i like taking my time. btw alcohol does shit for me.

I was 15, a camp with by boyfriend of about 3 or 4 months. We did it on the forest floor of all places...it hurt like a mother fucker and the next morning I was covered in bug bites.

First time was with my first boyfriend, Mike.  I was 16, he was 22.  It hurt like hell... I'd told him that I wasn't a virgin, so he didn't have any reason to be gentle, I guess.  I think we had sex again a few days later and it was actually never special or meaningful.  He told me after a month or so that I was #22 for him.  

Nothing really awkward happened except that he tried to get me to give him a blow job and I had no idea how to do it.  

He was really into Doctor Who and to this day, I can't look at anything to do with Doctor Who without wanting to make fist-to-balls contact.  

I have dated two virgins in my lifetime; both of them broke up with me within days of deflowering, with little or no communication in between.  Things seemed fine the mornings after, but then we parted, each woman disappeared, and then each woman dumped me.  Never had this problem with more experienced women.  But the two experiences together were so crushing that I will no longer date virgins under any circumstances.