A lot of men seem to think you can just jump into anal sex and that's that. Few men actually know the workings of how the butthole works and how to go about sticking your willy inside one.

For example, there's the inner sphincter and external sphincter. Just because you get passed the first one, doesn't mean you're done. Gaining entry into the last sphincter is the hard part. Only when the inner sphincter is ready and relaxed will it let the foreign intruder in. If this is news to you, you probably aren't ready for the bum action. Forcing anything along can cause some bad damage to your lovers butthole, not to mention, put a little pain in your penis. Trust me, penises do rip and it ain't a pretty sight.

Poo should not be an issue if you (or your partner) wash daily. If you're about to engage in a little behind maneuvering but you're a little suspicious about the cleanliness of your partner's rectal cavity, then suggest showering together to get things clean so you can get dirty.

I remember my first foray into anal sex territory. Boy, was I surprised. Besides the whole feeling like I was being ripped in two by a huge stick in my ass, lube was not used. I cannot stress this enough to anyone who asks me about butt sex. LUBE. Use lube. You can never have enough lube. I could not walk properly (nor do other bodily...functions..properly for a few days).

While I'm a huge advocate of anal sex is good for the soul, as well as for relationships, I also think it's one of those things that you shouldn't do on a first date. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I think it's one of those things you should share with someone who you trust, who respects you (and vice versa) and more importantly, won't brag to his little non-butt sex getting friends that “Dude, that chick last night totally let me stick it in her pooper!” Being a girl who has always been “one of the guys”, I've heard more than I care to hear about boys dishing about their sexual conquests with girls, and let me tell you, they do talk about it. Every little detail. So, as Charlotte so charmingly put it on Sex and the City, if you don't want to be the “Up the Butt Girl” don't do it until you're serious with someone.

I think most women have experienced that first date sex nightmare where the guy is just way too eager to jump in your ass. You start making out and getting all pet-heavy and out of nowhere he pops the question, "Can I put it in your ass?" First of all, it's the first date, what exactly do you want to put in my ass? Your finger? Your tongue? I sure as hell hope you aren't talking about your overeager peter, because he isn't getting anywhere near my ass on a first date.

Now that I'm with someone who knows how to have good butt sex, I love it. It's not something we do every day, of course, because I like to keep it for semi-special occasions, or when I need to break bad news, such as “Darling, I kind of spent $400 on your card, but I'm really in the mood for your dick in my ass, so let's go!” He usually forgets about the $400 pretty quickly. Related posts: Personals Drama: I'm Not Cupid
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