And if I don't, I at least try to have a hardcore makeout session.
The night I met my boyfriend, we had sex. The guy I was seeing before him, we had sex not long after meeting (and by not long i mean, a couple, maybe three hours, later). I can't remember who else right now, but I've had more "first date" sex than not. Oh, Produce Boy too. When DreamBoy and I finally got together, we were together THREE WEEKS before we had sex. I don't know why we waited so long, honestly. I don't believe in waiting. I don't see it as making the guy wait for it...I see it as denying myself some good old lovin' and why the hell would I do that to myself? Exactly.
I think a lot of people would agree that, when it comes to sex I'm like a guy. I'm capable of being completely unattached to whomever I'm boning and I prefer it that way. Sex doesn't make me instantly fall in love with anyone - thank god for that! In fact, I have to laugh remembering back to a few "morning afters" when the guy was still there and I just wanted them gone. If I don't offer to make you coffee or iniatiate a round of morning sex, don't stick around. While I obviously love my boyfriend and love our sex life, we don't have emotional sex nor do we make love - we fuck. We have sex straight up. There's no post-coitus cuddle time (except for the rare times when I'm feeling girly or have PMS, but rarely), no powerful connection moment where we realize, as we gaze into each others eyes, that we're going to be together forever even after we die and the angels will play their flutes and banjos for us in the afterlife. And I think that's why I love him so much - because he's the exact same way. Sex is sex. I remember one of my best friend's telling me how every time her and her boyfriend have sex, it's emotional and that often times she just wants to cry with how beautiful it is. Of course, I'm not denying that sex isn't emotional..sometimes - it can be beautiful and sometimes we all need to "make love".
When DreamBoy and I had sex for the first time, it was emotional. It was a long time coming...years and years. I had waited for it since I was 14. Ten or so years later it finally happened, so yeah - I wanted to cry a bit.
The folks who insist on waiting make me laugh. If you're scared of disease, use a condom. If you're scared he's going to think you're a slut for sleeping with him on the first date, or vice-versa, he isn't and if he does - so what, you're having sex on the first date - do you really care? If you think making him wait will make him want you more, it won't. He'll just go screw someone else or watch some porn until you put out and probably bitch to his friends that the broad he's seeing hasn't put out yet. That's what I'd do, anyway. Or at least, that's what I've done.
Readers, do youput out within hours of meeting someone? Or do you hold off for a few days....weeks........MONTHS? Let me know, I'm curious!