I remember how freaked out you were about the whole snooping on your text messages ordeal (i think i may have suggested that you should chill back then), and Im just so glad that you don't care as much anymore.

I'm with her on this one. I'm glad you guys resolved it.

If you think there's a future with this girlfriend, stop blogging and take down your profile.  Whatever they're paying you isn't worth it if you screw up something really good with a partner.

Oh airheadgenius, stop being holier than thou.  I'm with the girlfriend here!  A little snoop establishes boundaries and shows a woman to be feisty.  When a fellow snoops on me, I feel flattered.  Anything can go too far, but in this era of half-hearted hook-ups and shruggy dull "mutually satisfying relationships" I like a wily gal who keeps tabs on her man.  It brings out her bristly femininity and should make the fellow feel MANLY!  

Snooping through texts and e-mails is an instant dealbreaker for me, though I've never had to test that conviction.  Google makes life weird enough anyway.  I've had dates, upon learning my name, return with information I'd forgotten myself.  

I've got a statcounter on my blog that shows keyword searches and once I had a searched dating, ex-wife, women, sex, unfaithful, cheating and more.  I understood she wanted to know fully what she was getting herself into but as I told her... just ask.  Going through texts and e-mails though is a condemnation and invasion of privacy.  Not cool.

Yay you are back! It's kpeck writing under a better name! Looking forward to reading about your baggage!

Gotta say i think snooping in relationships is one hell of a bad sign. Repeated snooping is a CLEAR deal breaker. If your partner is so insecure that she needs to check your personal emails, texts, Hooksexup profile, etc. A. she has a reason to feel insecure (you must not be making her feel she's your one and only), and B. She's passive aggressive. I agree YOU shouldn't be hot-listing other women. However, she loses some steam in her argument when she knows you are up to no good because she hacked your account. Word of advice to your lady, either don't snoop, because you are likely not going to like what you find, or suck it up and just play along. And advice for you: If you are still looking elsewhere, maybe you should just end it for your girl's sake. Save her the heartache. Lying, snooping, passive aggressive behavior etc. Where's the security in a relationship like that?

I hate it when people make a big deal out of little things like snooping. its just so ridiculous. Its only really a problem if its something that is done often and there are major jealousy issues. what zeitgeisty's gf is doing is so mild it shouldnt even be mentioned. im glad that zeitgeisty is FINALLY in what seems to be a healthy relationship. STOP PUTTING IDEAS INTO HIS HEAD.

btw, claudia cardinale is sooooo yummy. perfect body.

Following the former blog, I contend the girlfriend in question is witty and pretty.  Men with a list of "dealbreakers" are often sexless nerds wishing to pull brethren like Zeitgeisty back into the fold of loneliness and longing.  Don't fall for it!  A fondly remembered former boyfriend who caught me rifling through his desk said, "If you really want to know how I feel, take a look in here."  (his pants!)

I'm sorry, but snooping is just not OK. It's not unforgivable either, but if it happens chronically, there is a serious problem.

I'm not saying *THIS* is a serious problem, just snooping in general.

Plenty of sharp-minded, confident, gorgeous, lusty ladies who are witty and fun also snoop (I should know, I'm a snooper!)  The occasional peep can save so much time.  Rather than a long, droning relationship conversation, you can take a peak and say, "Yippee!  My man is crazy about me!" or "Hmmmm, time to start flirting with new fellows."  If it's chronic or icky, that's one thing, but recently I snooped an email my fiance wrote to an old friend and it was filled with great things about ME!  I was giddy all day and felt excited to be complimented second hand.  

To cut out snooping entirely, let her find something sweet, adoring, and cute.  Hide a note in your wallet: "I caught you snooping!  Hope to catch you hiding in my bed later tonight, you sexy sneak!"      

there is nothing sexy about snooping.