Do you create personalities?
I got an email from a man last week expressing interest in meeting me.
I declined politely.
He wrote back.
I replied, but again without any indication that this was going to fly.
He is many years older than me which doesn't particularly appeal, but what's really off putting is that his interest is in women much younger than him. His top parameter for age is 8 years his junior. That turns me off completely.
He has since written 3 more times even though I haven't been answering.
Clearly he is convinced that we have something to talk about.
It seems to me that he must have constructed an identity for me. After all, even though my profile is ludicrously long, it still only gives a snippet of information about me. My photos show me on my best day, and me on a regular day, but again, just a snippet.
Somehow, he must have assigned traits and decided we'd get along. I read his profile when I got the first email. He seems perfectly pleasant, but there's nothing about him that I could particularly hang my hat on. Nothing that says he's my kind of guy.
I just wrote him a snippy email. Hopefully that's the end of that.
Do you do that though? Daydream an identity before you've met a person?
I guess I used to - back in my salad days of Internet dating. But after a couple of years (yikes) I tend not to have any expectations at all. If a profile appeals, then I meet for a drink and, if it doesn't work out then c'est la vie.
Does that make me jaded or just pragmatic?
Here are some I made earlier:
Let down badly by an Englishman
Dating and dying
Do your friends hook you up?
Is size everything?
King dong and kizz volume
Prostitues - yay or nay?
The female orgasm
Fabulous at 40, the reprise
Slim, petite or average?
Losing Momentum
Face is nothing special, but you can't have everything apparently
oh, he came out tiny! How disappointing! It looks like he's having a wank too. Ooer!