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Personals Drama: Click addict

Posted by airheadgenius

A while back, there was a man that viewed my profile several times a week over a period of several months. Sometimes, he would view me every day, other times twice a week, but that was his absolute minimum. He appeared to find me compelling for some reason or another.

But he never contacted me.

After a while, every time that I saw him on my "who's viewed me" list, it would irk me that here he was again checking me out but not contacting me.
I looked at his profile and found him interesting except for his  super tiny mouth and thin lips which didn't cut it for me, but I might've given him a go.

Anyways, another month goes by and he continues to view my profile many times a week, so I decided to contact him.

As you know, I am thrilled with my own wit and humour, so I found my communication to be, well, witty and humorous. I asked if he found me attractive, but couldn't deal with the kids. Or hideous yet compelling. Funny on my blog (which was the old one btw) but borderline unattractive and my personality didn't make up for it. etc etc.

I figured the least he would do is write back.

But he didn't. Which irked me even more.
(In a "wtf?" way, not in a boil a bunny way. I want it to be clear that this gave me pause for about a few minutes)

And he has never, never, ever looked at my profile again. Quit cold turkey.

Now, the dude in question is constantly featured on the front page of the personals site. Either he's marketing himself or Hooksexup thinks he speaks to their demographic, so he's a near constant reminder of an unanswered email.

Except now I click on him. About once a week.
I never read his profile, just click and navigate away so that I show up on his "who's viewing me" page.

He probably sees me and thinks "wtf is she looking at me again for??? Doesn't she get that I am not interested?"
Of course I get it. But it amuses me to no end to click anyway just to return the "wtf?" favour.

It's shit like this that gets me through my day.

 

Here are some I made earlier:
Profile Pictures
If I don't get laid soon
Sex standing up
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Are you insulted?
Juicy Lips
Dear John, F*ck Off
Cry, get mad, move on soundtrack
Obama Babies
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3 Basic Needs
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Deviant Sexual Practises

 

 

 

 


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Posted Feb 08 2009, 10:42 AM
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Comments

zeitgeisty said:

ha.. yeah, I'd be annoyed as well in the same circumstance... guy sounds like a tool...  Some women pull the same kind of crap though.. I would encounter that every once in a while when I was still using it.. I call them the 'non-respondos'

February 8, 2009 12:33 PM

friber said:

Ok, let me say upfront not speaking from experience here, but perhaps he was checking out your profile b/c he was really insecure, and used your's as inspiration. I noticed a lot of people get pretty clammed up when it comes time to write about themselves, annoyingly so in some cases, but your profile is pretty lengthy (in a good way, I'll clarify). Then, he gets embarrassed because his profile is too similar to yours. Then, he buries his head in the sand, not too cool. In the end, sounds like you lucked out not having too much contact with him.

Less likely scenario is that he accidentally set your profile as his homepage? Probably not though.

February 8, 2009 9:31 PM

Jonas said:

*Best Post Ever*

February 8, 2009 9:41 PM

Tiptree said:

Besides being damn funny, your entry spoke to perhaps my main complaint about life.  That we constantly have opportunities to just plain say WTF is going on in our little heads and enlighten the folks around us, but we seldom do.  How fabulous it would've been had he just said what he was up to (especially if it was ridiculous).  I mean, your amusing email let him know that, yes, his answer might even be slightly insulting, but still you were totally up for hearing it.

(The reverse stalk is brilliant.)

February 9, 2009 6:57 AM

profrobert said:

Could it be that he didn't realize he was turning up on the "Who's Viewing Me" list?  It's a feature you can turn on and off, and he may have thought his was off.  (This, BTW, is what happened when my wife hotlisted me -- she thought she had the stealth feature activated and told me later she was mortified when I wrote to her saying, "Thanks for the hotlisting!")  If so, then maybe he was mortified, too, so much so that he was too embarrassed to respond to you.  Moreover, he may now have activated the stealth feature and still be checking you out.  You never know.

February 9, 2009 9:10 AM

E-Claire said:

I kind of love "wtf" moments. But with some wackos you gotta be careful. I did a dumb thing last week. I accidently sent a text message to the wrong number (it was meant to be to my sister, asking her if she could drive me to work coz i couldnt stomach public transport). The reply was 'who is this?'. I decided to create a little "wtf" moment and texted back the situation, as well as well wishes for the day. Creepy guy replied he was 50, from the other side of the country, and hoped to talk again soon. I accidently sent a text again yesterday (still havent saved my sisters cell number..) and the guy CALLED me.

So yes, I think I would have preferred a non-response.

February 9, 2009 10:32 AM

flintsteel said:

You can block your views? I didn't know.......

Yea, "WTF' moments......like when after a pause in correspondence someone emails you and asks:"How are you?" and you write back (somewhat lengthily but enthusiastically) and then someone doesn't reply......not to get all pouty or anything

February 9, 2009 12:48 PM

airheadgenius said:

Bit tardy on the responses here - totally crappo at correspondence in general actually.

zeit - I am defnitely guilty of letting the emails slide, but don't understand when someone just clicks clicks clicks. What, was he wondering if I lost 20lbs or gained a few inches in height? Bizarro.

friber - both beautifully supportive scenarios. You are my new BFF.

Jonas - you are my new BFF too

Tip - see, that's what got me down. He had an opportunity to write back and have a laugh about the situation - the ludicrousness (is that a word?) of internet dating/life in general. Instead, he chose to disappear up his own arse.

I like "reverse stalk" and fully plan to use it in conversation. Thanks.

prof - I guess it's possible, but why bother checking me out on the down low? Do you think your wife has secret stalker tendencies by the way?

E-Claire - oooooo-errrrr!  Please tell me you've now saved your sisters number!

flint - quit yer pouting and man up. (Don't stop commenting)

February 10, 2009 11:24 PM

G_a_t_o_s said:

Did this guy have metal, or was he going to have to pay to respond?

February 12, 2009 6:05 PM

airheadgenius said:

Gatos - thanks for crossing the great divide. I don't recall if he had paid membership, but it's free to respond even if he had standard. No excuse.

February 12, 2009 8:42 PM

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