Taking a gander at the latest confessions, I came across this:
"You don't deserve me. I waste my time with you because you are Unavailable. Not good looking. Not intelligent. Not funny. Not rich. What the fuck did Daddy do that made you so fucking attractive to me??? Oh, that's right. He was GONE. Thanks, Dad. Yet another asshole to add to my dating history."
For a long time I didn't understand the connection of daddy issues and boyfriends. The whole thing about looking for the qualities of your father - subconsciously or not - in the men you date just didn't make sense to me. Why on earth would I want a man like my dad? Sure, he's a hard-working man who struggled most of his life to make ends meet, never abused me, was always there for me when I was a little girl and always knew that if some guy hurt me, my father would break the guy's neck. But now that I'm older I see things differently: he's also a drunk, a cheater, a liar, an asshole, and wouldn't know how to say sorry if his life depended on it.
To be honest, I still don't completely understand the psychology of how or why some women who have either been abandoned, abused or simply had a rocky relationship with their father tend to develop dating patterns that resemble or mimic their relationship with their father. That isn't to say that a woman who was neglected by her father will make continuously bad decisions with men, but is it safe to say that a woman who has a poor relationship with her verbally/emotionally abusive father will seek to replicate that with a verbally or emotionally abusive boyfriend/husband? And why? If one was abused verbally, or worse, as a child, why on earth would we seek the same kind of treatment from a lover as a grown woman? One article I read said one reason for this was to try and fix the broken relationship with the father through the relationship with the partner.
The article also went on to say that "A woman who goes through life without these issues is often one who had a secure and loving father figure in her life". Who agrees and who disagrees? I have a hard time believing that, just because a woman had a loving and secure relationship with her father every day of her life, she gets to move through the dating world relatively issue-free.
I mean, do you honestly think Jenna and what'shername Bush will be bringing home a man like George W? (Actually, I just did a little Google research, and Jenna Bush apparently did bring home daddy, just a taller version.)
What's your take on "daddy issues?" Are they real or made-up excuses for bad relationship choices?
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