Back in my early twenties, my band was signed to Arista records. It was a strange time for me, plucked from the obscurity of the suburbs of upstate New York, thrust into a sexy world of celebrities and then subsequently crunched through the unrelenting gears of the music business ‘machine’. In the end it was the typical ‘Behind the Music’ bullshit – a wild ride devolving into lawsuits, existential angst and eventual dissolution.
The guy that produced our record was Ric Ocasek, who was the leader of the colossal group The Cars. Getting to know him was a thrill as we’d always been great fans of his. He turned out to be a great guy as well, introducing us to his family and generally taking us under his wing.
Now, as some of you may know, Ric’s wife is the lovely Paulina Porizkova a mega-supermodel from the 80s. I tell you, meeting her for the first time was a mindblower. I mean, back in High School, I used to have her calendar up in my bedroom for goddsakes. It truly was all pretty surreal.
Anyway, all that is just a bit of background for the main point of this here particular blog entry…. Is the FACIAL a fetish?One evening we were in the studio, and Paulina and her pretty assistant stop by, on their way back from some fancy party. They both looked stunning, all made up and glamorous. Of course it being the ‘grunge’ era me and my band looked – and smelled – like a bucket of shit. We had the obligatory greasy hair, Salvation Army attire, chain smoking, we were just a mess. They sat down, and seemed in a cheery mood. We chatted a bit, and the conversation moved to sex. Just the idea that I was talking with PAULINA about sex, ME this kid who a few years earlier couldn’t even get ANY girl to talk to me about ANY subject.. that was pretty weird I can tell you.
Well… it got even weirder when Paulina looked deeply into my eyes and asked me what my sexual FETISHES are.
Jesus… I’d only been having sex for like a couple of years at that point, I hardly even knew what a fetish was. I stammered, and blushed and eventually said…
‘ I like to ..you know… uh.. ‘finish’ my business in a girl’s face’
They both started laughing hysterically…
‘That’s not a FETISH!!’
‘What do you mean?’, I asked…
‘EVERYONE does that!’, Paulina giggled.
‘Yeah, why do you think my skin’s so smooth?’, her assistant joked.
Around this time Ric came out of the control room and asked us to come in to do some overdubs, thus ending the single most dream-like conversation I’d ever have.
So there you have it, one celebrity’s opinion on the matter. Personally I agree, the idea that something as JEJUNE as cumming in a girl’s face could be seen through all these metaphorical, philosophical, and psychological filters seems absurd to me. Still, it does make sense. This country is both obsessed and inhibited when it comes to sex.
It is positively sexophrenic.
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