I was all set to vote in favor of penetration (based on the headline), but then saw the poll (pole?) is limited to the ladies in the audience.

i have the purple/pink shade of that rabbit.  needless to say, penetration is where it's at.

i definitely need penetration of some sort, tongues, fingers, toes. put it in me...

For all those men worried about vibrators replacing them... it just happened.

Also I can understand where Toluca is coming from, sex isn't always about doing the MOST sexually gratifying thing every time. But there's always time for the old in and out, love.

definitely yay.

penetration is awesome, but with some partners it can really, really suck.  Like I would have been much happier to stay at home with a chocolate bar and a vibrator than bother kind of suck.  But whether or not everyone's on the same page about the relative fantasticness of penetration, saying you'd rather not have sex because it's either with a condom or nothing (my rule) is all kinds of ridiculous.

If a girl didn't like penetration, that would definitely be a deal-breaker; I don't particularly like receiving oral-sex so regular old penetration is the only way.

I didn't get to respond to the condom post so I'll just say it here: I've never met anyone that liked condoms. A couple of girlfriends have disliked them even more than I. However, condoms are a man's best friend; no faked pregnancies (of which I have experience). So I'm all in favor of condom use now.

I love penetration now but it took me a little while, mostly because I had undiagnosed vaginismus (where your muscles tighten up and make it pretty painful) for the first few years of my sexually active life. (Also, kind of crappy partners.) I remember watching women moan in ecstasy during movie sex scenes and just being like "I don't get it..." It took an actual diagnosis, self-treatment, and a great partner to make a believer of me but I still remember what it was like to just feel like "can't we just do other things?" And since problems like this are much more frequent than people like to talk about it, it doesn't surprise me that some women, particular young women aren't particularly enthusiastic about penetration.

Disagree about vibrators though. Nothing can ever replace the real thing. I'm not even that crazy about vibrators at all, actually: they kind of feel like my vag is talking into a fan. A good old-fashioned dildo does just fine.

I actually wasn't so much speaking for myself.  I like penetration about as much as anything.  But many polls and professional counselors who work with people on these things will tell you that penetration is not as great for an awful lot of women.  And only like 30% of women can orgasm from penetration alone.

LydiaSarah,

Ever tried one of those dildo-vibrator combos?  I like human company and all, but if any guy ever hopes to get me off more often or faster than a toy, he's in for sore disappointment...

As a guy, after spending my adolescence in a haze of self abuse, I pretty much refined my sexual tastes to the point where I'm only REALLY turned on by certain things. I mean, I can get hard just like (mostly) anyone else and stay there, but it takes some things to actually reliably get me off.

One of these things is making the woman orgasm. This often requires a lot of work on my part, but having her come is a surefire way of getting me there too. So I'm all for penetration in this respect.

And, with regards to the rabbit, for guys I think the idea of toys is extremely depressing.

"And, with regards to the rabbit, for guys I think the idea of toys is extremely depressing."

not at all.  in fact, men often buy these toys to share with their partners.  i know,  a few of my partners have done it.

and LydiaSarah - the Rabbit is a dildo/vibrator combo.  a very effective one, at that

Touching people, extensive, compassionate touching, before any kind of penetration, will relax, soften moisten even a double shuttered, "vaginismus" pussy, it will be 'opening' in anticipation her partner.

I find that when I make love, fore play, for extensive periods, using massage and erotic touch techniques, it is a much more enjoyable experience, with experiences I call full body Orgasm. These exquisite sensations precede pussy focus orgasm, and sometimes make it secondary...