Recently I received an e-mail from a friend of mine who asked me to help out with her new profile for Hooksexup. She'd been on it a few months ago, but had taken a break as she'd gotten sort of serious with someone - which unfortunately didn't pan out all too satisfactorily. I readily accepted the challenge and offered up a pithy little bio highlighting her glorious attributes, infusing the prose with just a delicate hint of implied sauciness - to keep the swingin' dicks out there intrigued.
After a week or so, she'd gotten some replies - none of which she felt truly excited about. I then suggested perhaps she should post a different photo which showed off her cans better. She followed my salient advice and consequently got a bunch of guys merely interested in riding the hobby horse. After a couple of more weeks, she's starting to find it all more than a tad wearisome.
I've heard pretty much the same story from other friends of mine partaking in the online dating game. Seems a gal can never win. If you have a thoughtful, intelligent profile, with a bit of wit and nuance, you're seen as an un-sexy jokester. If you've got your tits hanging out on display, you're a skanky whore just looking for an available rod. It makes you wonder...
How exactly DOES an eligible woman find love via the internet?
It seems to me men have the advantage here. All they really require is a profile in which they don't come off like a complete douchebag, and usually they'll do alright. With women, it's a tad trickier - especially if they have a brain. I think men in general are intimidated by women that come off smarter than they are. It gets them all defensive, and shrivels their 'nads to Lilliputian proportions.
Personally, I must say with all honesty, when I was looking online for love I always scanned the photos for any signs of significant breast-age. I figured as long as they had THAT in place, everything else was icing on the cake. I suppose this firmly plants me in the douchebag category. Still, I'm no monument to justice!! The cock wants what it wants!!
So what's a poor gal to do?
Well I supopse there ARE a few guidelines I could impart which might be useful for the ladies out there online and hungry for l'amour...
1) Be complimentary but not OVERLY so..
ex.
DO say something like:
'I really enjoy how you turn a phrase. No one's ever quite explained the basic laws of Newtonian physics in such an entertaining fashion'
DON'T say something like:
'I slathered in my panties when I saw your tight jeans and bulging man snake - wanna fuck?'
...men might get the wrong impression there.
2) In your photo, wear clothing which shows off your breasts in a NON-overt way. It shouldn't appear as if you've taken the shot to specifically show off your tits. It comes off as desperate. However, you SHOULD tactfully portray your body in as flattering a light as you can.
3) DON'T fill up the 'books I've read' section with a library of Calvino, Frantzen, or that Middlesex book...men don't read, and find literate women boring and uppity.
4) DON'T go on about how much you love your job and how you have a very small amount of free time to spend on dating. If you don't have the time, buy a vibrator and shut the fuck up.
5) DON'T mention your hobbies. Men find women with a lot of hobbies sad, and besides it just takes the focus off them.
So there you have it! If you follow these guidelines correctly, I guarantee you success in your future online endeavours. Just make sure to invite me to the weddings!
Now, for those of you that might say my tips are shallow and insensitive - I accept your condemnation. Unfortunately the world is a shallow and insensitive place. Sometimes you have to get lost in the thorny brambles in order to find the elusive unicorn.
To all my friends out there I say, 'keep trying!!'. I mean, look at me, I'm a total asshole and even I’ve managed to trick people into liking me many a time! So fret not, with each new day hope springs eternal, someday you too might capture the unicorn, and if you don’t, it’s really no big deal there are still plenty of available jackasses to choose from.
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