Now that Amboabe bravely opened the door with his post yesterday, I feel like I can sneak in a few points of my own on the same subject.
‘Why women suck in bed’
Now of course, this is a funny title, meant to be tongue in cheek. Not ALL women suck in bed – literally or figuratively – but some most definitely do. One take on it is that a significant amount of women never really learned how to fuck, as they’d been taught over the years that all that was necessary was they SHOW UP - that it should be honor enough for us guys just to be allowed entrance into the golden palace of the Himalayas. This I’m afraid just doesn’t cut it.
Still, let’s back up here… is this the real reason women suck in bed - the women that DO suck in bed that is?
Last night I brought up this blog entry at dinner with some friends – my girlfriend was among them – and their general consensus was different. They postulated that all this ‘socialization’ mumbo jumbo was a red herring, and that it all had to do with sexual compatibility.
1) If either you or your partner are not that into each other physically, this is going to reflect in the proceedings. People pick up on these things. We all draw on each other’s energy either on a conscious or sub-conscious level, and if someone is projecting unease, or uncertainty, this has a direct affect.
2) You just may be in different grooves. Sometimes, even if we are into each other it just ‘doesn’t happen’. This is not for lack of enthusiasm on either side, it’s just a rhythm/pacing thing. I’ve found that this can be worked through sometimes – but not every time!
3) The wishy-washy affect. If you don’t give your partner any indication of what you like, how can you expect them to get it right?
Now, I can see their points don’t get me wrong, but personally I believe in the 25% rule – regardless of gender, only about 25% of anyone is truly good at anything. In this instance that ‘anything’ is sex. I’ve had some very enthusiastic partners that just didn’t have the skills. It wasn’t that they weren’t interested in pleasing me, it’s just that they were really, really bad….
As far as blow jobs are concerned, man.. I’ve had some horrible ones. Ones where teeth were involved, masticating my salami like a fucking piranha. Then there were the ones with the ‘kung fu grip’. Twisting, turning and pulling with sledgehammer finesse. I mean, I’ve literally gotten severe Indian burn a few times. The thing is in moments like those, sometimes I felt embarrassed to tell them to stop. They thought they were doing a great job, all enthusiastic, and they were literally injuring me.
For the record, as I’ve been ridiculously accused on here before with some juvenile sorority girl humor, let me state unequivocally that my cock is no wimp… It’s over 8 inches and very thick. It can take its fair share of abuse. Still, I’ve had a few chompers that literally reduced it to hamburger. The ironic part, is that they were by and large the ones that thought they were experts!!
I remember this one girl in particular. She was one of those types that ALWAYS talked about sex, and how good she was at it. She would constantly wear revealing clothes with her tits hanging out. She was also way into her job, and would constantly prattle on about how exciting and important it was. Anyway, I hung out with her a few times, and eventually we fooled around. This person went at my dick like she was a fucking preying mantis. Never have I been in so much pain in my life. I actually had to stop her, push her off and get the fuck out of there.
I thought about it later, and wondered if there were some men out there that actually like it rough like that. I mean, to me she was completely inept, but maybe there are those that don’t know the difference. Billions of people enjoy McDonalds after all, not knowing what actual FOOD tastes like.
Now, don’t get me wrong, there are some women that know what they’re doing, but as I said that percentage is around 25%. Where did you come up with that figure you may ask? Well.. it’s not really a precise scientific study, but it just seems correct to me. I mean of the 24 people I’ve been with, I’d say the number that were innately talented in bed was about 6. At dinner last night, that same 20-25% figure was held up as well. What about the other 75% you may ask? Are they hopeless? Of course not! They can be taught… it’s just that they don’t have the innate talent. I mean, not everyone is a natural artist or musician, it only stands to reason that not everyone is a natural fucker.
Age and experience have come up in this discussion, and I don’t think that’s of any real consequence. I think once you reach your mid-late twenties, you’ve basically got the works in place. Like I commented in Amboabe’s post, I was once with a very average non-hot 37 year old and her technique matched her looks. Currently I’m with a young, very hot chick and she’s amazing in bed.
So.. do women suck in bed? Well some do, and some don’t, and some will, but some won’t… and I guess that’s just the way of things.
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