It’s my birthday this Thursday.
Being in my late 30s, I’ve felt of late a sense of resignation. I guess this is what they call settling down. I just read somewhere that as far as relationships are concerned, women would rather wind up with ‘the one’, the guy they feel is ‘perfect’ regardless of their personal state in life i.e. emotional, financial, etc.. Men on the other hand wind up with whomever they’re going out with during the time they realize they’re sick of running around anymore.
I guess I can see that.
It’s all a question of how long it takes a man to figure out they’ve had enough of the hunt. Personally, I can say it’s not simply finding someone perfect, it’s more the unwillingness to continue in the ultimate illusion – soul mate, prince charming and snow white happy ending, fairytale, horse shit.
As far as I’m concerned, contentment is really the ultimate anyone can ask for.
When you’re younger, you’re never satisfied - especially men. They’re constantly looking around, heads on a swivel, looking for the next conquest. If a guy’s in a relationship in his 20s, chances are he’s looking to ‘trade up’. This is why women are always complaining about commitment phobics. However I disagree...
Commitment-phobia is a myth.
It’s not that men in particular have some innate fear of commitment, it’s just that they have to be at a certain age before they CAN settle down. Women are about 10 years or so in advance as far as when they’re capable of jumping into something really serious. Generally speaking I'd say it's about 27 for women and 37 for men… Of course these figures are not set in stone, I've known some people that will never reach a point where they can get off the merry-go round. Either it's too much fun, or they're too scared to jump off.
I know for me, within these past couple of years I was at a point where I was completely emotionally cut off. I was not in any mindset to settle down with anyone. However, circumstances arise, and you find yourself taking a leap not solely based on idealized romance, but with a practical need and miraculously things hold together. Even more shockingly months pass, and you haven’t killed yourself. To me this is success. In all my years, I’ve never met one couple that lived the life of Zelda and F. Scott.. besides which, look what happened to them.
Contentment I tell you… Could it be that this seemingly banal state is actually what we’re all searching for? Who’s to say what’s banal and what’s flaming passion anyway?
When you’re with someone for a while, and you don’t want to completely blow your head off… is this the ultimate success?
I can't tell if I think she's cute, or if she looks like a mongoloid.. or both.. Lily Allen
Translations...
TYPES
Do.. do women really suck in bed?
The odd disconnect between profile photos and reality
50 sexual expereiences I've never had
Dating COnfessions translations
I'm a breast man... the JUGS file
John McCain makes my peepee go limp
Video blog - 'The word on the steet' - the nature of attraction.
My dating confessions TRANSLATIONS
My internet dating advice
What we want vs. What we need and the power balance between man and women
All Porn SUCKS!!
The night PAULINA and I discussed sex
How important are someone's politics when choosing a patrner?
Hooksexup Confessions: It's all about the looks stupid!
Sex with someone I love - The MASTURBATION file
The Greatest Online Dating story - The PERSONALS file
'But baby I HAVE to put a profile up, it's required!!' - The GIRLFRIEND file
BITE ME! - Snark.
My first kiss...a remembrance of thing past
Feel the paste in you face - The FACIAL file
Talk dirty to me!!
I abstain! The fear to fuck
The unvarnished TRUTH about dating on the internet.
BITE ME!!!
Pontifications on the bangin' of ass - The ANAL file
The brass ring