On my continued quest to be educated in the ways of the American people - it's been 14 years and I still don't get it - I would like to know exactly what makes a boy/girlfriend?
In my country, you meet someone... If you're young enough, you'd say you "got off" with them. And then, they are pretty much your b/g friend until such time that you "split up". This could be a matter of days, weeks or years. You will have kissed this person for sure, but not necessarily had sex, yet they are still your b/g friend. (I am excluding one-night-stands clearly)
You assume you are "exclusive". That word pertains to fancy hotels in England, or posh night clubs, but never a relationship. If you go out with anyone else, you are "two-timing" or being unfaithful. Of course, this is a general rule and is about *standard* behaviour - for want of a better description - and doesn't encompass people just going out to get laid.
Here, as far as I understand it, you are dating. You could be dating one person or lots of people, but until the "do you want to be exclusive?" question comes up, one can only assume that there could be one, two or more in the mix. If you are Internet dating, then the chances of lovers being run concurrently rises exponentially. A successful Internet dater seems to be one with a very full dance card.
(I remember asking a Welsh friend in New York if her date was still dating others - they met on Match - and she was appalled at the notion. It had never occurred to her that he would be seeing anyone else)
And why is it so different for celebrities? In complete contrast to the apparent social norm for plebians, celebrities go from 0 to committed in 6 seconds or less. They hook up in an A list club or on a movie set, are immediately exclusive and, in many cases, start talking about marriage within a matter of months. Cameron Diaz has to be the biggest repeat offender in this category. Wait, maybe it's dear Jennifer who takes the prize, given that she's hooked up with Gerard Butler when the smell of John Mayer is still on her sheets. A priceless comment from Angel on Who's Dating Who "first i wanna say that i love jennifer.. but lately she`s changin` men like if they were panties.."
Where the pleb is lucky to get sex on the third date, the celebrity seems happy to receive a diamond or even conceive their celebrity foetus. The accepted behaviour of celebrities, in contrast to what's considered ok for the rest of us, never fails to amuse me. For example "Though they broke off their engagement earlier this year following the birth of their daughter, Salma Hayak and Francois-Henri Pinault have been spending quite a bit of time together as of late. The latest sighting of these two ex-lovers was at the Balenciaga runway show as part of Paris Fashion Week earlier today. And according to an eyewitness, they looked pretty cozy together". If Salma lived in Bushwick, the on again, off again nature of her relationship with a much older man that she already had a child with would be cause for quite a bit of eye rolling from the middle classes.
There are, of course, exceptions to the quick turn over rule with celebs. Darling Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have been in a commited relationship for about a hundred years for example. And maybe Brangelina will go the distance, but the odds are against them.
Anyway, back to plebians, because that's who I'm rollin with, have I got this right, Date Machine darlings? And if so, what makes a girl/boyfriend? Is there a rule of thumb re number of dates, body fluids exchanged, friends met? etc Please take a moment to school me in the ways of the American people. Thank you so much.
Today's Daily Knob, Harold Perrineau. I particularly liked him as Augustus Hill, except for the incarceration and sticky end.
The obligatory back catalogue:
Friends with Benefits
Real Women
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Lesbian Lovers Come Out
Digits
Asymmetrical Knobbage
Cunning Linguist
Cunnilingus
Fabulous at 40
Winehouse Reveals
The Chick Facial File
Mirrors
Confession plus Daily Knob!
Abusive?
Celebrity Confessions: Boy George
Dick Trilogy Part 3
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Hooksexup Confessions: Herpes
The Queen Confesses
The Arse Man Cometh
The Ass Play Chronicles
The Sandwich Blowjob Porn Connection
Bangin Ass
Deformed Dicks
Did I really dream that?
Why I don't date Celebrities
Fashionably late or just a slacker