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Date Night: Do you have First Date Sex?

Posted by airheadgenius

Ah well, my last post fell a bit flat, but I am not one to dwell. And I've just been inspired by a Hooksexup Confession. Particularly the last sentence...


See, I'm suffering from those high standards too and have never found myself in a situation where i'd fuck someone just for the sake of getting laid. At the very least there has to be a physical attraction. And so, on to my tale about a man who wasn't too thrilled with my who-to-have-sex-with decision making...

 

I once went on a date with a guy that proved not to be very mature. He asked me for a second date which I politely declined. He was pissed. He blogged about it. But that's not my point.

There was a moment in the evening when his mood changed. He offered to escort me home and I said "no thanks, I am going to jump in a cab".
The penny didn't drop for a while, but then it occurred to me that chumpy thought he was on a promise!
He had found himself out on a date with a woman that blogged about sex and so SURELY sex was on the menu.

Hell no!
I mean, hell not necessarily.

Yes, I like to have sex.
Every day if I can. Although that would only ever happen if I was in a relationship.
Obviously. (Well, it's at least obvious to anyone familiar with the responsibilities of raising children)

But apparently that's not obvious to everyone.

There's that expression used around gay men "backs against the wall" as if a gay man will fuck anything that moves, as long as it's male. It pisses me off to no end. Not least because that statement usually comes out of the mouths of fiercely unattractive straight men who couldn't actually get fucked by a discerning gay man even if it was their wildest (repressed) fantasy.

So, potential daters, if indeed you are here and reading,

Yes, I like to have sex,
but I won't (necessarily) have sex with you!

I am as discerning about whom I sleep with as I have ever been and, trust me, that means discerning.
And maybe I've set myself up for these kind of emails what with Cunning Linguists and Horatio the Fruit Seller (tee hee)
Or maybe I've just given myself yet another means to weed out the men from the boys.

Anyways, indulge me dear readers - what are your first date sexpectations? (The best comment wins a prize)


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The Perfect Blowjob
What is a boyfriend
Friends with Benefits
Real Women
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Lesbian Lovers Come Out
Digits
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Cunning Linguist
Cunnilingus
Fabulous at 40
Winehouse Reveals
The Chick Facial File
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Celebrity Confessions: Boy George
Dick Trilogy Part 3
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The Ass Play Chronicles
The Sandwich Blowjob Porn Connection
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Deformed Dicks
Did I really dream that?
Why I don't date Celebrities
Fashionably late or just a slacker

 

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Posted Oct 02 2008, 09:38 PM
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Comments

amboabe said:

Yes, me, I do.

October 3, 2008 5:17 AM

spjv840 said:

I've done a lot of first night nookie, but there's also a lot of times when I said, "No way, you gotta earn this prize!" It usually depended on whether or not I had wanted to see him again, or if I just wanted to hit it right off the bat (so to speak). Then again, the night I met my boyfriend we hooked up and it's been a year since and we're still together so I guess it all depends!

October 3, 2008 7:42 AM

zeitgeisty said:

My opinion.... This is a killer for women, if they have any interest in the guy they should wait at least a week before jumping into the sack with him.. minimum 3 dates... I don't know how many times I've heard about friends of mine fucking some guy early and then never heawring from them again... besides which it's a good way of catching shit...

October 3, 2008 10:23 AM

spjv840 said:

classic.

October 3, 2008 10:32 AM

dvaleriey said:

I am likewise discerning and have never had sex on a first date.  Watching a man pull out his best material (heh heh STORIES and precoital tricks of enchantment) could be my favorite part of a new relationship.  I like to drag it out as long as possible until we're both wrecked and then let the bodies hit the floor!  

I also require a full STD workup factoring the lag period after their last relationship.  I recommend getting a fellow hot and bothered before bringing up the paperwork so his motivation level is high.

I've been engaged several times (I'm sticking with this one!) and assume it's because a man who has to work for it thinks he's really captured a prize.  

October 3, 2008 10:36 AM

PO said:

Ballbuster alert!

WEET WEET!

Danger, Will Robinson!

October 3, 2008 5:46 PM

airheadgenius said:

dval - I've deffo had first date sex (see above) and still would if I met someone that I was immediately hot for (child care arrangements notwithstanding) but I would certainly not jump into bed just for the sake of getting laid. At this time of my life, I prefer quality over quantity. Although quality in abundance certainly wouldn't suck.

Do you really think that's why you've been engaged so many times? But why haven't you (or they) gone through with the marriage??

PO - me or dval?? I am a conversational ballbuster, but not remotely ballbusting or controlling when it comes to relationships. I assume my significant other is going to be a grown man and can figure out how to live accordingly all by himself.

October 3, 2008 6:27 PM

recycledbrooklyn said:

I think sex too soon can confuse issues sometimes.  People have been talking a lot about chemistry in the last couple days.  Sometimes there is great physical chemistry but everything else isn't so great.  It's hard to see that with your head stuck between someone's thighs.  I mean, that's all well and good if it's all about sex but it's not all that uncommon to confuse wicked physical chemistry with all around compatibility.  

October 3, 2008 7:47 PM

dvaleriey said:

Ms. Genius-I believe PO is identifying me as a ballbuster, but three hours in an enclosed environment and he'd be proposing!  

For a long time, I think I just loved the excitement of being someones "one-and-only" and the engagement was the ultimate display of exclusivity.  I chose creative, petulant men (trust fund babies, musicians, and a few arrogant professional types as pallet cleaners) and always knew there would be a point where they would make me insane and I might run like hell.  The family, lacking originality, call me The Runaway Bride.

The good news is, I have met someone solid, sound, strong, and ferociously intelligent (plus handsome!) and he was on to me from the start.  He said, "Let me get a look at the other rings so I can outdo them all and end this stupidity."  We've gone as far as purchasing an old Victorian house together, I bought a vintage wedding gown, and the assets are combined.  Love is in the air*

*that said, I'm still hedging on a wedding date...

October 3, 2008 10:11 PM

thea said:

I want dval to have her own blog on here!

October 6, 2008 4:44 PM

shakti_vos said:

i have.  

October 11, 2008 9:31 AM

yeah said:

@recycledbrooklyn  "I think sex too soon can confuse issues sometimes...it's not all that uncommon to confuse wicked physical chemistry with all around compatibility."

Agreed... I might even go as far as horniness can even be confused for chemistry at times.

(That being said... I've enjoyed some amazing first date sex and a couple of times kicked off a relationships with it.)

October 12, 2008 12:41 PM

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