Gotta love Almodovar. Ok, not so much a kink, more a choice.
As mentioned in my profile, a guy once emailed me saying that he would like to tie me to a tree and beat me. I declined the offer saying that it wasn't my thing. He asked why not. I replied that I am just as likely to be the one doing the tying as the one being tied. He responded that if I was looking for a submissive, then he was not my guy. Duh - we had established that. But I am not looking for a submissive, or to be dominant, necessarily. Just looking for nuance. I pointed that out (why I got into this discussion, I am not sure. Must've been a slow news day) and he responded with something to the effect that S&M was one of the most spiritually fulfilling experiences one could ever have. Maybe so. But surely it's only fulfilling if you're into it in the first place?
My point here is... why does your choice have to be my choice? And if I am not making a judgement on you, then why are you making a judgement on me? Just because I don't want to be tied to a tree and beaten, surely that doesn't make me sexually unevolved?
If you want to be into S&M, go ahead. Knock yourself out. On second thoughts, knock someone else out.
But in New York, everyone's got a kink it seems. Or at least a penchant for some strange activities. Check out this one from Hooksexup Confessions:
WTF??? Whilst bouncing?
Online dating, well New York in general, has been a study in the differences between Americans and English. A conversation was had a while back with an English friend and here's our conclusions... well, not conclusions, more ramblings:
It seems that the English are into having sex. Glorious sex. In whatever guise it comes - or not as the case may be. Now maybe it's New York, or maybe it's just that the times are a changin', but it seems that here and now, everyone's got a "thing". This one's into blondes with big tits, that one's into skinny, this one's into fat, S&M, etc etc. My friend's observation was that here, gay men are either tops or bottoms. Back home apparently it's more of a free-for-all.
So, peeps used to like drinking coffee. Now they like to drink a grande mocha 1% extra shot no whip whatever-the-fuck. Sex used to be just sex. Now, in this world of commodification and consumerism, you get to specify the exact sex you are looking for. Not "let's see what evolves", more "let's be clear before we even get naked".
I call it the Starbucks effect.
The obligatory back catalogue:
The good the bad and the ugly
I am a whore
First Date sex?
Small Juicy Ones
The Perfect Blowjob
What is a boyfriend
Friends with Benefits
Real Women
Another quick pull out
Lesbian Lovers Come Out
Digits
Asymmetrical Knobbage
Cunning Linguist
Cunnilingus
Fabulous at 40
Winehouse Reveals
The Chick Facial File
Mirrors
Confession plus Daily Knob!
Abusive?
Celebrity Confessions: Boy George
Dick Trilogy Part 3
MORE dicks in my inbox
Dicks in your inbox
Read my Sodding Profile!
Hooksexup Confessions: Herpes
The Queen Confesses
The Arse Man Cometh
The Ass Play Chronicles
The Sandwich Blowjob Porn Connection
Bangin Ass
Deformed Dicks
Did I really dream that?
Why I don't date Celebrities
Fashionably late or just a slacker
And now on to my daily knob: I was thinking bondage, then punk naturally, then all the punk bands I'd seen back in the day and then the ones I had a crush on. Settled on The Stranglers, since I had a crush on JJ Burnel, Hugh Cornwell and Dave Greenfield. Sorry Jet Black, you were always a bit pudgy for my tastes.
This takes me back to Ipswich Gaumont around 1980