When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I remember countless times waiting nervously for my period. Safe-ish sex being the cause for worry. And then I became a serial monogamist and I didn't worry about it too much for the next decade or so. The pill has many drawbacks, but anxiety about pregnancy isn't one of them.
These days I really really really don't want to be pregnant. But the super safe contraceptive methods aren't an option for me. The pill has some serious side effects for chicks my age - for example, deep vein thrombosis isn't a look I am going for this winter. And anything with hormones makes me crazy (er) anyway.
But condoms are just not that reassuring to me. Every month I anxiously await my period, like I did 20 years ago. And I don't like the feeling.
Back then, I *knew* that I would terminate an unwanted pregnancy. Luckily I never had to make that decision or have my personal philosophy tested.
Since then I've had 2 pregnancies and 2 kids and now my feelings about a termination aren't quite the same.
I guess I am in that grey area where it's highly unlikely that I will have more kids, but I can't bring myself to go the tubal ligation route. I mean, what if I fall madly in love in 2009 and just have to have another child??? Hey, anything is possible. Chances are, I am not very fertile - I am 41 after all - but in February of 2003, I got pregnant by having sex once. The odds of my ex and I being in the same bed at the same time that I was ovulating were pretty slim, but sometimes fate takes a hand it seems. It would be fabulous if one could have sex 97 times and then take extra care that last 3, but life ain't like that huh?
So that's me and my fertility.
And now here's the bit I want thoughts on...
What if???
What if you are in a STR or a friends with benefits situation and you/she gets pregnant. What would you do?
I mean, what do you THINK you'd do?
Offer to fund the termination?
Agree to raise the child jointly, but separately?
Agree that one or the other of you would raise the child solely?
Run like hell???
Is anyone hoping for a happy accident?
(will anyone publicly post their thoughts on this???)
Does anyone "do the right thing" these days? By that, I mean does anyone get married and make a relationship happen because there's a child involved?
Would you? (Disclaimer: this is not a commentary as to whether this is "the right thing". I am just using what used to be an accepted term for the practise)
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