Yesterday. my friend came to hang out with me and the kids for the rainy afternoon.
We drank tea and talked whilst the kids buzzed around and then I cooked dinner - I am a domestic goddess after all.
My friend didn't plan to stay, even though it was roast chicken and starting to smell delicious, but as time marched on and she hadn't heard from her date for the night, she decided to stay.
We talked about flaky friends and flaky dates. We talked about dating in general.
She said "why don't you go out tonight? I'll put the kids to bed".
Now I am not traditionally very good at accepting help. Favors. Whatever you want to call it. But in these trying financial times and with the cost of babysitters being what it is, it was an offer too good to refuse. She popped home to get her laptop so she could work and I cleaned up the kitchen and got my glad rags on.
Which brings me to the topic of my blogversation
The cost of dating.
It's come up a couple times before, but here it is again...
WHO PAYS ON A DATE??
Years ago, in 1999 when I was last dating, I would pretty much pay halves for dinner, or go alternate rounds for drinks. Once in a while, the guy would pay, but it was mostly a shared expense. But that was back in the day when I earned a lot more money and had way less expenses. Now, post kids, I can surely see the benefits of an "old fashioned" man. Going out for a drink - a chemistry experiment if you will - costs me a minimum of $45 in babysitting fees. Sometimes as much as $90. Now of course that's my responsibility, but if I am also going to go dutch on the check, my dates get expensive pretty quickly. And, once in a while, they are a giant waste of money.
letigre1974 - bless his little Canadian socks posted on my old blog more than once that peeps should show up with babysitting money. Hell no! Not even a mention. Now I am not saying for a moment that anyone should pay the babysitter on my behalf, and even if they offered, I can't imagine taking the money, but in my experience at least, letigre is a one off.
But, I appreciate it when my date picks up the check because I have usually already made a financial investment in the evening. (Wanted to use "chemistry experiment" again to be honest as I am so damn pleased with it!) And I don't much appreciate it if my date doesn't even have enough money to pay his share. That really blows.
So, dear reader, I am not going to ask who *should* pay because I don't have a judgement on it, but I am curious to know ladies and gentlemen, parents and non-parents alike...
Who would you LIKE to pay for the date and WHY?
It occurs to me that a long date could cost me $90 in babysitting dues, plus dinner and drinks. At that point, I'm looking at a couple hundred dollars for the chance to get laid. If I am dropping that kinda cash, I may as well hire a professional.
Colin Firth. I feel confident that he wouldn't even let me reach for my wallet, much less let me pay.
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