I have been in a relationship in which there was almost no fucking but alot of profound conversation in bed or eating pizza and watching a documentary on Sartre (in retrospect it was probably more like a friendship), and I have been in relationships of sex three times a day (which personally I prefer). Im not sure Im qualified to respond to this blog post because both types of relationships have only lasted a couple of months. In fact, I have never been in a relationship for longer than 6 months so maybe I should just shut up...

For two years I suffered through increasing droughts. I'd tell myself, "if we get to two weeks, I'm breaking it off," but I'd extend each time. By the end, it had been a month or more. It was a nightmare. Now, in a long-distance relationship, we get to bang for two days every two weeks. Strangely this is OK for me, but of course we make up for the time apart, so it probably evens out to three or four times a week.

I have been harangued at different periods of my life by different women, but I prefer once a day at minimum, and come the weekends or times where I simply have more time with my partner 3+  If I had my choice I believe two very zesty sessions a day would be best.

My boyfriend and I managed 8 times on a very memorable day on holiday this summer. Then he made the mistake of honestly answering when I asked him how many times her can jerk off in a day (9 or 10--he is in his early 20s, so there's that). Now of course I feel he can probably manage at least nine times in an epic day.

In regular life though, I'm happy with once a day, and maybe 3 or 4 times on weekends and bank holidays. I've made do with much, much less, and it makes me kind of cranky. Not every fuck has to be an amazing, mattress-destroying, get-out-the-lube-and-handcuffs type event. A 5-minute quickie before dinner with the folks is nice too. Maybe that's why I'm poly . . . it's a bit easier to spread it out, as it were, over a few blokes and maybe a gal or two.

I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than 6 months consistantly (was in a 3 yr relationship that was on and off,) so maybe I don't know - but I would say that after the first year or so, (once the novelty has worn off,) 3-4 times a week would probably be good. I'd assume after years of marriage once a week would seem excellent, but that thought scares me. at this point in my life I generally want to have sex once a day.

Son, if you'd EAT once in a while you'd have some energy for sex!  Just sayin'.

I wouldn't say anything, but I just want to counterbalance the amazing stories above.

I think every other day would be perfect for me. I once, at my peak in my teens, managed to masturbate 3 times in one day, and my dick was sore after that. Maybe I'm a little sub-average, but 9 a day sounds outlandish.

It depends on whether or not it feels like a requirement. If I feel put upon to have sex I immediately don't want it. If I get really hungary, I don't want to eat. The dirtier I get the less I want to shower. etc. I guess I'm just a contrarian.

As many times as both partners want it and can manage it is enough.  

I've been with my husband for 7 years and we still have sex about 5 times a week. We also have an open relationship and throw other people into the mix now and again. So we're sluts, but that works for us.

Sex is essential. But it's not everything. There are other acts to show affection, and usually they're the ones who linger in our heads and make our hearts beat faster and slower at the same time.